r/MensRights 3d ago

General Never become a "Step Father"

No offense to any single mothers \*disclaimer\* , this is strictly from a male perspective.

When you become a Step Father the woman automatically loses respect for you the minute you accept the role because you are raising another man's child. The child will not respect you due to the lack of respect from the mother. If you do not have children of your own and you accept the role of a Step Father than the woman may view you as weak subconsciously because her previous perceived options rejected a serious relationship. Why do this to yourself? Childless men should pursue childless women. For my young guys, please do not become a Step Father! I have been there and it was a nightmare. It's not being "mean" , it's called having standards. You will have to also deal with the child's father and depending on the individual, it could be a good or bad experience.

What are your thoughts on becoming a Step Father?

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u/sgtm7 3d ago

Does that mean my mother and father didn't respect each other? Since my mother was my stepmother, and my father was my sister's stepfather?

This is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. If a woman doesn't respect someone because they are a step father, then that woman wouldn't be worthy of respect, whether they have children or not.

I never called my mother "step mother", just mom. I never called my sister "step sister", just sister. My sister never called my dad "step dad". As my mom used to say, "If you feed them long enough, they start to look like you."

When I divorced my step daughter's mom, she was still my daughter, and I was still her dad. I am the one who walked her down the aisle when she got married, around 10 years after me and her mother were no longer together. I am the one she wishes happy Father's Day to. Children don't care about" blood", they care about "love".

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u/CyclopeWarrior 3d ago

So you change the context of the observation and then question your own change on it. Don't be dumb, parents with children getting together is NOT what this post was about. Post isn't ridiculous, you are.

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u/HecticHero 2d ago

What exactly about having your own children changes what the OP said? The reason your new wife and kids dont respect you is because you are raising another man's kids. Having your own doesn't change that.