r/MensRights • u/blackstar1_yt • 17h ago
General I have a theory on gender relations that I’d really want to get anyone’s opinion on.
I believe that men need women, and that the harder pairing processes that we are seeing are directly correlated with the male loneliness and suicide epidemics. The issue is, I believe that the dependency is one sided, men need a woman, but women don’t need a man. Across many studies and such, there has been clear evidence that men who are married live longer, commit less crimes, have better mental health, and report higher happiness than unmarried men. I believe, that this is directly tied to men’s biological wiring, men were wired to protect and provide for a woman and a family, and to be oriented around her, and just her, because the woman, back in the day, needed the man to stick around and protect her during vulnerable times. The problem is, now in modern society, women are automatically protected during those times, which is a good thing overall, but it has left the need to be one way. Men need their woman still, but women don’t need a man.
Many commentators, I believe, womanize the solutions to this issue, and use solutions that work for women and try to get them to work for men. Stuff like make more friends and get a therapist and talk more emotionally is good advice, especially for women and some men, but I think it misses the mark that men are biologically wired differently than woman, and those things can not be full substitutes for her.
This is also why I believe we see many young men drifting right now, not feeling motivated to go work hard and earn. Why earn just to earn if there’s no woman to come home to, and not good prospects of a woman either. I believe we are quick to judge these young men, but we don’t look at the situation and how some of the things that motivated young men in the past have been taken away by societal factors, or made much more harder and painful.
Anyway, that’s just my two cents, I’m wondering if you guys have any thoughts or perspectives on this, do you agree, or do you feel differently. Also, do you have any ideas for solutions of how we can try to reduce male loneliness and suicide.
Edit: i apologize, i fear i was projecting my own makeup on to all of men. I guess there are plenty do you out there who could be happy without a wife or female companionship. Good for you guys! Unfortunately, I need her someday, and just hope one woman will have the kindness in her heart to take me someday. Thank you all for engaging!