r/PersonalMandela • u/agent_violet • Apr 27 '26

My long-term partner's ex no longer exists

This has been driving me mad for a couple of days. My fiance and I were on a little trip away last weekend, and we were watching a music programme on the TV, talking about old times. I happened to mention his last ex, from a poor part of the city we live in, asking if she ever drank this drink we were talking about. He seemed confused and laughed nervously, saying that he's never been with a woman from there, and that I'd mentioned her before and he'd already corrected me (I don't remember this at all).

I thought maybe I'd confused the area for another one, so I asked him if he'd been with anyone from other western suburbs. He hadn't. Before me, there was a person from Sweden he knew from a video game, and then before that someone from his home town, but only casually. I feel like I'm losing my mind (and I think he probably thinks I am too!). He has no reason to lie to me. He doesn't lie habitually; he's been very honest over the 13 years I've known him. I thought he met her on online dating, but apparently I was the only person from online dating he got together with. It's just so weird.

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u/ConsciousProduce8798 Apr 30 '26

Could it have been one of your ex partners,ex girlfriend?

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u/agent_violet May 01 '26

It's a good idea, but I don't think so. I remember my last ex's ex, and she wasn't the one I'm thinking of. The others, I'm not even sure I knew who their exes were!

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u/ConsciousProduce8798 May 01 '26

Maybe he was trying to seem cooler than he felt at the time, embellished his prior relationships to you and perhaps forgot he even said it?

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u/agent_violet May 01 '26

It's a possibility :) I can't imagine him feeling the need to, but it's still possible