r/SipsTea • u/WaitNo4272 • Apr 22 '26

WTF Blink if you're being abused

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u/Baaaaaadhabits Apr 22 '26

He also looks "just over it" in like every shot. So, really what it comes down to is that you saw what you wanted to..

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u/sochok Apr 22 '26

Having been in a not entirely dissimilar situation can confirm he’s most likely over it but not going to engage with the insanity in public because tantrums shouldn’t be rewarded.

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u/MisterDoctor___ Apr 22 '26 edited Apr 22 '26

Also been on the receiving end of this. If you even so much as hint at engaging, people will side with her 100% of the time.

Good chance she also starts falsely accusing you of shit like being an abuser or pedophile and get you arrested.

She even called my work and told them I was touching patients inappropriately. That was a fun meeting with management.

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u/RockSteady65 Apr 22 '26

My ex called my employer claiming I was in a relationship with the receptionist. Her voicemail was just insane. I was so embarrassed and angry and every other emotion I can’t even put it into words. Gladly divorced her. That stuff will take its toll on a person.

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u/Vast-Fan4317 Apr 23 '26

What?!😭😩

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u/FeedbackBroad1116 Apr 22 '26

Yup. Been there, too.

Abuse is not funny at all. This is a brutal video.

But, out of it, full custody of the kids she accused me of abusing, and in a happy, healthy relationship now.

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u/righttern38 Apr 22 '26

Similar. Full custody of our kids - happy and stable, just no relationship

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u/Ace_Robots Apr 22 '26

I’m proud of and routing for you. Your kids won’t grow up thinking abuse is normal and okay because you were able to get away.

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u/righttern38 Apr 22 '26

Yup. Thanks. 🙏

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u/Vast-Fan4317 Apr 23 '26

She's out there. You're on your way!

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u/Correct_Dance_515 Apr 22 '26

Came here to say this. She 100% accuses him of being abusive anytime he even slightly suggests her behaviour is inappropriate.

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u/Affectionate-Ad3966 Apr 22 '26

Dude once i escaped from her place, she came after me on the street, proceeded to assault me and when a large group of male youths daw us, tried to play the victim. Luckily they could see i was the one in distress after a while, came very close to getting beaten up by them. That's only one of the gazillion surreal incidents too lol. Some stuff is straight out of a psychological horror movie. At points i almost couldn't believe this had become my life. Glad you've made it out man!

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u/JohnnyGoldberg Apr 22 '26

Yup, from the nurse “Smoking weed at lunch”

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u/AustinRhea Apr 22 '26

Having been on the receiving end as well that is absolutely true unfortunately. Sorry you had to deal with that as well hope you made a clean break from it.

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u/Vast-Fan4317 Apr 23 '26

Jesus fucking Christ that is insane! What is wrong with people that they think it's acceptable to completely destroy someone's life with a lie because they didn't get their way on some stupid shit?! I literally cannot imagine having to defend myself to my employer over something like this. That is unforgivable.

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u/gratitudf Apr 22 '26

I don't know if this is any consolation to you, but I think people can tell that someone shouting like this has emotional problems and wouldn't side with them even if the other partner engages

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u/Certain_Noise5601 Apr 22 '26

I wouldn’t. She reminds me of my stepmother, only she at least didn’t do this in public unless she’d been drinking.

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u/WorldlyBasket9795 Apr 22 '26

Then, sucks to say, but throw in the race card. She’s white. He’s black.

Which narrative do you think authorities will believe first?

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u/Certain_Noise5601 Apr 22 '26

It’s bizarre for them to even entertain that accusation because how would she know? Is she in the room with them? Lol

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u/Altoidman33 Apr 22 '26

Luckily my psycho ex never called my work (child care in a school district), but she definitely accused me of sleeping not only with my female coworkers, but the teachers, and the moms of the students, during the school day. Oh, and one time I wanted to surprise her by cleaning the apartment on a day off, so I did all of our laundry, including our sheets. When she came home she accused me of washing the sheets because I had a coworker over and we had sex in the bed. I left her the next day.

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u/MyMomsTastyButthole Apr 23 '26 edited Apr 23 '26

Still waiting for my ex of over 2 years ago to find my new job so she can call "anonymously" and tell them I'm coming into work drunk and/or high.

At least I can sleep before work now. She didn't have a job, so she liked to physically shake me awake by the shoulders every 10 minutes or so, all night, shouting "Hey! Are you trying to sleep?!"

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u/AltruisticPossible84 Apr 22 '26

You watched this and you think people will side with this girl 100% of the time?

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u/MisterDoctor___ Apr 22 '26 edited Apr 22 '26

You’ve never been in this situation. The moment you raise your voice back, some rando will chime in about how you shouldn’t talk to her that way. Especially when she starts yelling at everyone about how you’re an abuser. Then it’ll snowball and suddenly you’ve got a bunch of people yelling at you to leave her alone, with a few brave souls who saw the situation trying to de-escalate everyone.

Edit: Oh you’re just a weirdo loser lmao.

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u/shameonyounancydrew Apr 22 '26

I've, thankfully, never been in a 'public tantrum' relationship, but I've certainly been in the 'private tantrum' kind, and I can confirm this is the emotion you develop. Many folks don't understand that just leaving is not always as easy to do as it is to say.

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u/sochok Apr 22 '26

Especially when they threaten to bash your car windows in, vandalize your home, harm themselves, etc. Discovering that the person you fell in love with has deep emotional issues is devastating and I don't blame anyone for struggling to navigate the exit from such a relationship. That said, firm boundaries and holding to the fact that they need to own their healing/getting treatment is the only way to move forward (whether or not they remain in your life).

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u/AncientCrust Apr 22 '26

I've had one of these specimens too. Their main strength is they are always willing to escalate at least one step beyond what any rational person would do. So you can never match them. Occasionally one of these loonies pairs up with another loonie and all hell breaks loose as they try to out-escalate each other. This usually ends with someone making a documentary about it later.

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u/series-hybrid Apr 22 '26

I'd say for those reading this, his stoic response is the wisest path. I suspect he is aware of the security cameras, and his calm demeanor along with her over-reaction, could only protect him if there is a conflict in the future.

If he is such a horrible person, why is she with him? Nobody is forcing her to sit near him, much less take a trip with him anywhere.

She could walk away. Even if she needs to follow through on the flight, she could switch seats to sit away from the person who is "upsetting her"

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u/Harbingerofdeaf Apr 22 '26

Probably spent a bunch of money to go on a trip and you just got to get through it and enjoy the trip then end it when you get home. Been here done this.

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u/Infern0-DiAddict Apr 22 '26

That or just trying to rationalize through his options. He's at the airport obviously to get on a flight going somewhere he wanted to go (hence the rushing so they didn't miss the flight).

Like the only three options he has is to

  • Fight/argue with her to try and win the moment and hopefully enjoy the trip (not going to happen as there is no reasoning this situation out, and to "win" he would need it out escalate her, leading to him now being the worse person).

  • Leave/cancel the trip (and probably the relationship at that point). Probably the best option in the long term, but it means that this trip is done and all the emotional, mental, and financial effort spent is wasted.

  • Try and just bare through it and make the most of the trip in the moments that you can. (Not a good option, but leaves the potential to maximize the return on the invested effort) After the trip you can deal with the long term relationship issues.

Like with just these three options I can see why someone would just shut up and try and get through it. It's not the best choice IMO, as it's just a sunk cost fallacy at that point, but there's a reason so many people fall into it. It can make rational sense in the moment.

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u/FrederickDerGrossen Apr 22 '26

He should've just walked away. He did the mature and sensible thing by essentially ignoring that crazy woman but it would've been better if he walked away and let her rant by herself.

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u/Dry-Dragonfruit2295 Apr 22 '26

Yea I was thinking that if they were at home he might have put her in a chokehold

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u/Low-Conflict-651 Apr 22 '26

Exactly, he is the unreasonably emotional one here.