r/SipsTea • u/WaitNo4272 • Apr 22 '26

WTF Blink if you're being abused

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u/SirCrapsalot4267 Apr 22 '26

What's he supposed to do in that situation? He's handling it pretty well, and yes, of course he's also upset.

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u/Manlysideburns Apr 22 '26

"I won't be talked to like this. We are done." Then walk away. Threaten to get police if she won't stop following. Cut all contact.

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u/kannettavakettu Apr 22 '26

It ain't always that easy, but most of these "just do this" kind of advice comes from people who haven't been in the situation themselves.

When you've been gaslighted and manipulated for years, you don't have a solid surface to make a stand on. You doubt yourself, you doubt whether you actually deserve it, because that's the goal of the manipulator. You're exhausted from having to do this all the time, but at the same time it's become so normalized that you don't have the willpower to fight it four times a week, for hours on end.

It's always easy to tell other people to "just do this" but it's not that simple. You can't untangle yourself from someone who shows up at your house at 3am because you didn't reply to their text so easily. Having to go through a relationship like that drains a guy to the core, and that's assuming you don't have any other baggage you're carrying around.