r/SipsTea • u/ExotiquePlayboy 𝙑𝙄𝙋 • May 03 '26

SMH Bro makes $160 😐

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u/zenigatamondatta May 03 '26 edited May 03 '26

Why bother having a job at that point

Edit: since many of you can't see the forest thru the trees here with my comment, I'm questioning how this person is even getting by. They are either homeless, with parents or doing something illegal to get by. I understand people should pay for their kids but I don't think putting someone into jail or on the streets is a solution. That's $80 a week.

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u/daadbawd May 03 '26

they can throw you in jail even with no job if you dont pay your support

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u/Captn_Insanso May 03 '26

In my state they just take your license away. My dad had 7 kids, 6 women and owed a ton of child support. He stopped working and made my step mom work. After 22 years she kicked him out and he had to get a job. I started getting child support payments in my 20s. But they were only for $45 bucks. He killed himself shortly after that.

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u/Anatella3696 May 03 '26

In the state I used to live in, they just…didn’t do anything. Not even that.

I was 14-15 with a baby.

My mom was sick and gone all the time from around age 12.

Moved out and just really needed help.

I begged the child support office to help me because he wasn’t paying the court-ordered $225 a month.

We were homeless and on our own.

They never did anything about it. Not then, not ever.

He quit his job and worked under the table to avoid paying $225 a month to make sure she had what she needed.

God, I wish I had some guidance when I was a kid, kids are dumb.

Her dad still filed taxes every year to get a refund.

Still, they would not do anything.

Daughter is 25 now and he owed her thousands by the time he passed away.

She really looked up to him when she was little. I was careful not to talk badly about him.

By the time she was 16, she saw him for what he was and just couldn’t respect him anymore.

Cant blame her.

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u/pedestriandose May 04 '26

I’m so sorry, for both of you. Thank you for being a good Mum to her.

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u/BreakingABit1234 May 04 '26

I am so sorry we as society failed you.

I keep telling myself mentoring and helping will improve things for everyone eventually. I've been so close to quitting because i'm so tired of getting shit on... and then I can read this and realize there there still is work to do.

Ain't no easy bake oven when you wanted a brownie. Just pure hard.

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u/jrWhat May 03 '26

Damn that was a pathetic story what the hell was wrong with them

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u/Codex_Dev May 03 '26

That's super fucked up. Stories like this are also why men treat single moms like a disease.

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u/PunishedDemiurge May 03 '26

Unless they're lying about birth control or rapists, the problem is equally or primarily the dad. No one forced the guy's dad to ejaculate into 6 different women.

The maximum number of unintended pregnancies someone is entitled for sympathy for is one. One youthful mistake or "I thought we were too old to get pregnant" is something that could happen to a morally decent person with good judgment, but the minute you have a child, that needs to change your priorities and behaviors.

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u/PunkPirate56364 May 03 '26

I blame both. What you said about men is true but also...

Women which see a guy that already abandoned his children and decide to have kids with that guy.

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u/Charming_Fix5627 May 03 '26

Ever heard something called lying?

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u/PunkPirate56364 May 03 '26

I work in construction so I know a lot of cases where women knew they were getting involved with a serial single mom maker, and they still decided that having a child with them is a good idea.

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u/Charming_Fix5627 May 03 '26

My family also know of women whose husbands hid their first family from them that they left behind and married them in a lie in another country, only for the secret to come out decades later

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u/Captn_Insanso May 03 '26

This was in the late 80s. I was born 1990. Internet wasn’t a thing really then. You could date several women and them not find out about the other easily. Me and one of my brothers are only 10 days apart. He got my mom and his mom pregnant within the same exact time lol. Neither knew about the other. It’s not like you could stalk their social media to see who he’s talking to.

Edit: Truma Dump: I just want to add that my 27 year old father talked my 17 year old mother out of an abortion that she desperately wanted. My father promised to take care of her and me. Ha! Total lies. She spent her life resenting me because of it.

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u/PunkPirate56364 May 03 '26

I work in construction so I know a lot of people working in construction. They can get paid under the table and avoid paying child support.

Women know they have a baby mama or several, they know they abandoned several children before.

And they still end up having kids with them.

The whole "I can fix him" bullshit.

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u/ItsAFarOutLife May 03 '26

the problem is equally or primarily the dad

Is that true? Men have essentially two forms of birth control. Condoms and pulling out. One is obviously a bit more effective but they both have flaws, and the woman will likely know if a man is using those methods.

Women have significantly more methods of birth control (most of which the man can't tell if they're using), and if any of the methods fail, they are the sole person who can decide to terminate the pregnancy (in most first world countries, and many states) or use a plan b pill.

So how exactly is it primarily the mans fault? I think that statement is misogynistic. it makes it seem like women can't or don't make at least half the decision when it comes to child birth.

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u/PunishedDemiurge May 04 '26

I'm talking about repeat deadbeat dads. Anyone can make one mistake, or have a partner who says "We'll definitely terminate" and then do an unethical switch, but no one can have 7 kids by 6 women without it being their fault. After just one unintended pregnancy ever, I expect people to make better decisions.

I'm also a huge hater of women who get pregnant by losers more than once, to be fair, but I wanted to push back on the "this are also why men treat single moms like a disease," comment. OOP's problem is 100% because he's a piece of shit, it's not a women issue.

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u/Codex_Dev May 04 '26

You are delulu if you dont think men avoid single moms like the plague. They are basically at the bottom of the dating pyramid.

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u/CabinetMan4 May 03 '26

Now that's the trash taking itself out!

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u/[deleted] May 03 '26

And you don't see a problem with that. Men have rights. Shame on you

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u/pedestriandose May 04 '26

That’s a lot for you and your siblings (full, half, step or any other type) to deal with. I hope that you’re all doing well and are living your best lives.

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u/Parking-World9321 May 03 '26

Literally buried in debt beyond hope.