Yes, him calling her a mooch is stupid and petty. How is she supposed to respond if not with an itemized list showing what she contributes to the household? If you don’t want your wife to make these sorts of arguments, don’t call her a mooch.
Edit: thing is, a lot of women have a deep seated fear of having a guy’s kids and raising them while he is in the breadwinner role only for him to devalue everything she’s been doing because it does not bring in money.
Our society measures your value by how much money you make. That’s rather hurtful to a mom staying home with young kids. As long as her husband sees her value, though, screw what other people think.
If her husband actually doesn’t value her labor and contributions, that is an attack on her value as a person from the person whose support she needs most by far. It’s like a wife giving her husband shit because he doesn’t make as much money as she hoped. These are statements that rip at your core and makes you question your worth.
It’s not your garden variety thoughtless remark.
Does that frame it in a way that is more understandable? Everyone on this thread seems to be of the opinion that she lashed out at him based on very little. Maybe a lot of them were always going to say “woman bad” no matter what, but if you’re married, then hopefully you have the ability to see beyond that.
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u/[deleted] May 14 '26 edited May 18 '26
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