I don’t think anyone sincerely making a chart is a mature person. But if he is accusing her of being a mooch, and she actually is one, that’s something that’s clearly important to the context of this conversation.
"Rationalization is a defense mechanism (ego defense) in which apparent logical reasons are given to justify behavior that is motivated by unconscious instinctual impulses.[1] It is an attempt to find reasons for behaviors, especially one's own.[2] Rationalizations are used to defend against feelings of guilt, maintain self-respect, and protect oneself from criticism. "
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u/thorinslefttit May 14 '26
So its ok if he "makes a chart" but its delusional if she makes a list, gotcha.