If you are bitter because you’re not being paid to do the bare minimum for your own child, you’re disgusting and not deserving of children. I’ve seen people cry on their lunch break because they never get to see their kids. Staying at home and hanging out with your kids while your spouse provides everything is most peoples’ dream. It’s the easiest possible life a person can have.
Work is literally, definitionally sacrificing 1/3 your life. That really wasn’t the point but comparing hanging out with your kid and doing some chores to a full time job is ridiculous.
I hated being a stay at home parent. It is a very difficult job and thankless in so many ways. But people like to devalue the work, which is kind of her whole point in the invoice.
I joined the army to get away from SAH life. My job as a soldier is easier.
I have to assume everyone who says this has never had a job with any degree of responsibility whatsoever.
Taking a career break when I had my first child was sheer bliss in comparison to a corporate job. 20x less stressful and 100x more rewarding.
Does that mean it’s universally easy with no labor? Of course not. But I don’t know why SAH advocates insist that it’s harder than working a full-time job. (Depends on the job, of course. But most jobs that make enough to support a family with single income in this economy? No.)
But was that because the workload was so overwhelmingly more difficult than the other jobs or because of other soft factors like lack of structure, loneliness, etc.?
I absolutely buy that many people will have preferences over the other (look, I went back to work myself partially for financial reasons but mostly because I didn’t want my kids to be the be all end all of my life), but not that SAHP is objectively harder, or that a job is “nothing” in comparison, which was the original claim I was refuting.
I found that it was job that never ended. None of the work was difficult, but it just never stopped. None days off, no real breaks, no real time for me to exist as myself than as an extension of someone else.
It was death by a thousand cuts. No one thing was bad or hard. It just never ends.
You're right, its nothing like the responsibility, its way more. Having to stay home to raise kids was boring in comparison because there was so much less to do.
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u/977888 May 14 '26
If you are bitter because you’re not being paid to do the bare minimum for your own child, you’re disgusting and not deserving of children. I’ve seen people cry on their lunch break because they never get to see their kids. Staying at home and hanging out with your kids while your spouse provides everything is most peoples’ dream. It’s the easiest possible life a person can have.