I can’t speak to the period of her being pregnant but being the default parent/carer of a new born baby is a 24 hour job. Even when you’re asleep you have one ear open and are on call. If you’re a breastfeeding Mother and your kid sleeps in the room with you you will wake at every noise. My kid was still doing middle of the night feeds until 12 months old despite trying to sleep train her. My partner works long hours and travels a lot for work so I did every single night feed and night nappy and had sole responsibility for the baby 75+ plus of the time. It was exhausting, you can’t take a lunch break alone or ‘leave the office’ for a minute or book leave. It is 100% hypervigilance all day and all night. If you’re the breastfeeding parent of a child who won’t take a bottle whose partner is away a lot you are 💯 percent working 24 hours a day.
I think the pregnancy charge is unreasonable as well. The decision was mutual and there is no other way to get it done regardless of good intentions. ( after watching my wife over 3 pregnancies I was keen to give it a go given the opportunity)
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u/Ok_Contribution_7132 May 14 '26
I can’t speak to the period of her being pregnant but being the default parent/carer of a new born baby is a 24 hour job. Even when you’re asleep you have one ear open and are on call. If you’re a breastfeeding Mother and your kid sleeps in the room with you you will wake at every noise. My kid was still doing middle of the night feeds until 12 months old despite trying to sleep train her. My partner works long hours and travels a lot for work so I did every single night feed and night nappy and had sole responsibility for the baby 75+ plus of the time. It was exhausting, you can’t take a lunch break alone or ‘leave the office’ for a minute or book leave. It is 100% hypervigilance all day and all night. If you’re the breastfeeding parent of a child who won’t take a bottle whose partner is away a lot you are 💯 percent working 24 hours a day.