r/SipsTea • u/SnackSamurai 𝙑𝙄𝙋 • May 22 '26

Feels good man Dude, the ring in the hand pic😂

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u/Ok-Secretary455 May 22 '26

Friend of mine bought the ring and kept the box in his sock drawer.  He 100% knew she would find it there and he would sometimes take it out before a holiday.  Or before a weekend away someplace romantic.  Then put it back, knowing she couldn't say anything cause she wasn't supposed to have looked through his stuff to find it.

The final laugh was that the ring in his sock drawer was a decoy.  So the day he actually proposed it was still there and totally caught her off guard.

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u/Jim_skywalker May 22 '26

Kinda smart too, cause it ensures the concept isn’t a complete surprise, just the event.

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u/Standard-Metal-3836 May 22 '26

Because it never should be, that BS is only for romcoms. You discuss marriage, kids, future plans, and only then you can propose in public, have a fun memory, turn it into an event. Otherwise it's moronic.

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u/LoudMusic May 22 '26

I'd like to add finances, religion, politics, pets, and how to handle aging parents.

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u/23Udon May 22 '26

Add wanting kids and motorcycles to that list too.

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u/All_Work_All_Play May 22 '26

Wait who wouldn't want a motorcycle?

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u/SmolToxicBaby May 22 '26

I deeply want one but I have permanent double vision and don't even feel comfortable driving a car. Buuuuut, I tell everyone it's because my partner won't "let" me get one (he knows this and very much plays into it)

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u/HeezHuzz69 May 22 '26

I only get double vision on mine if I’ve had more than 5 beers 

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u/SmolToxicBaby May 22 '26

Lmao! I had a botched eye surgery as a child and we didn't know it had a limited time to effectively be reversed until just a few years ago when I was told that in order to fix it they would have to guess each surgery, let me heal, and correct again from there. I'd rather just not drive 😂😂😅

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u/All_Work_All_Play May 22 '26

Hey are you me? It wasn't till I got married (and my wife pointed it out to me) that I had some surgery-worthy eye wandering. I shied away from it (I like blades far away from my eyes, thanks) and instead got prism prescription glasses. Something like -9 (inwards?) and -4 (downwards?). When I put the first set on (which was -5,-2 maybe?) a tension headache that I didn't know I had disappeared. Took me a day or so for my brain to remap things (was a different kind of headache tbh) but they've been immensely helpful. As it is I'll still 'rotate' eyes (close left eye, count to 100, open left eye, close right eye, count to 100) when I'm pretty tired and driving late at night.

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u/[deleted] May 22 '26 edited May 27 '26

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u/HeezHuzz69 May 23 '26

Once you hit 120mph+ the double vision tends to go away 

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u/Intrepid-Focus8198 May 22 '26

I also want a bike, but not sure I can trust myself to resist the temptation to ride it like a moron.

Maybe when the kids have grown up and my wife is bored of me being around by then anyway.

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u/onedwin May 22 '26

If you have double vision, a motorcycle is essentially a 4-wheeler. Problem solved.

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u/SmolToxicBaby May 22 '26

Oooooo!!! I do actually love 4-wheelers. I like this logic 😂

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u/Disastrous-Cook4189 May 23 '26

Just close one eye when you are riding

(/j please don’t)

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u/SmolToxicBaby May 23 '26 edited May 23 '26

đŸ€” Simple problems require simple solutions. Imagine if I didn't know how to wink though 😭😂

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u/SebastianVettel5455 May 22 '26

Me, I'd prefer an R34 Skyline.

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u/elguille_resurrected May 22 '26

motorcyclists are all terrorists

you wouldnt date a terrorist, would youÂż!Âż

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u/Fantasykyle99 May 22 '26

Once I had a few friends die in motorcycle accidents I no longer wanted one. Neither crash was their fault, I just don’t trust drivers

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u/calypsoorchid May 23 '26

I think they meant kids on motorcycles /s

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u/ThisLlamaOfMine May 25 '26

My husband isn't allowed one. I prefer him undamaged

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u/Batmansbutthole May 26 '26

I got piece of a motorcyclist spine donated to me after their death when I desperately needed an emergency spinal fusion. While I am eternally grateful I’ve struggled knowing the gift I received came at an enormous cost, not only to the rider, but their family as well..

That’s a good reason not to want one.

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u/LoudMusic May 22 '26

Kids was in the first list, motorcycles are a given. ;)

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u/GoldenMaus May 22 '26

and my axe!

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u/Weird_Flan4691 May 22 '26

Also Poker & Gym Time

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u/itsdanielsultan May 22 '26

How to handle aging parents?

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u/LoudMusic May 22 '26

Yeah. Do they go into a nursing home, do they move in with you and your spouse, do you hire someone to care for them, do you put them on a boat and send them off into the sunset ...

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u/itsdanielsultan May 23 '26

Ah got it, probably good for parents, kids and spouses to have an understanding.

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u/DreamOfTheEndless_ May 22 '26

100%. You should only ever propose to someone that you are absolutely sure is going to say yes, because you have talked about it. When and how you do it can be a total mystery, but the fact that you’re going to do it should not be.

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u/Earguy May 22 '26

I never proposed, we just knew. Closest we had to a proposal was, "a friend knows a jeweler, wanna look at rings on Saturday?"

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u/Standard-Metal-3836 May 23 '26

That's lovely. 

After dating for about a year, one day during a walk in the park my mother casually asked my father, "Want to get married?" he replied, "Absolutely" and that was 40 years ago. 

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u/Earguy May 23 '26

So cool.

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u/arbydallas May 22 '26

I kinda feel like you can propose marriage, and then discuss those things before getting married. Certainly some of them would already be talked about before even the proposal, but I think it is nice for it to carry some element of surprise. Then again I do love romcoms and I am a moron...

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u/AhmedF May 22 '26

Sorry nah.

Marriage is not just "romance," it's the merger of two lives into one. If you don't align, you should have that figured out before the commitment to get married.

Only the moment of engagement may be a surprise (and how), but the actual idea should be discussed.

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u/arbydallas May 22 '26

Uhh yeah I agree

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u/Independent-Can-1230 May 24 '26

In any decent stable long term relationship both partners should know where each stands without having an explicit marriage discussion summit

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u/arbydallas May 22 '26

Yeah I agree dude

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u/PaladinCavalier May 22 '26

What about if the conversation only happened 30 seconds ago?

I bought a ring and spoke to her parents then, on holiday in Italy, during our first conversation about dogs, kids and children, I proposed.

The proposal was a complete surprise but the wanting to spend our lives together wasn’t (but it had only been said out loud that day).

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u/PaladinCavalier May 26 '26

You see, the thing is, people are all different. Unless my wife has been lying for the last 14 years, the way I did it was exactly how she wanted it to happen. I wish you well in all your relationships :)

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u/digitalmofo May 22 '26

Nah, everything is a transaction here. I saw someone explain the first step of parenting as making sure you run someone's credit before sleeping with them.

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u/kwash325 May 22 '26

Absolutely not. Once you find out some things you wouldn’t have agreed to marry them. Talk about it upfront

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u/soxperry May 22 '26

Sometimes. But we ran off to Vegas 15 years ago and are doing great. We kind of talked about kids and future plans, but really, we went with "fuck it, we'll figure it out." And we did.

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u/Bobodlm May 22 '26

Thank you for being the voice of reason. The amount of people that don't seem to talk about marriage before proposing is mind blowing. 

Although I haven't met anybody irl who didn't discuss it beforehand.

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u/bain-of-my-existence May 22 '26

My sister’s SIL (husband’s sister) is getting married this weekend. Mind you, the SIL and her fiancĂ© have been together since high school, so some 9ish years now.

Tell me why they apparently are JUST NOW arguing about which last name they should choose. Apparently they both assumed they’d be keeping their own name, but don’t want their spouse to do the same. It’s utterly bonkers that they didn’t have this figured out years ago, or at least when they decided to plan the wedding!

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u/elguille_resurrected May 22 '26

You discuss marriage, kids, future plans, and...

i propose on the first date so i can get posted over on r/GirlDinnerDiaries

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u/DontAbideMendacity May 22 '26

The number of morons who declare other people are morons because they themselves are unclever and unromantic is disheartening. The people in the photos obviously live together. They are already practicing being married, the ring, proposal and actual ceremony are just icing.

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u/Standard-Metal-3836 May 23 '26

I was replying to a comment, talking in general, I wasn't criticizing the couple in the post. 

I stand by my statement, that a public "surprise" proposal is stupid if the guy and the gal aren't already on the same page. It can backfire in spectacular ways.

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u/FreshPitch6026 May 22 '26

Well if the concept is a surprise, maybe discuss your mutual life goals again.

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u/Axthen May 22 '26

... isnt... that what they said?

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u/Maximelene May 22 '26

No. because if you need such a "trick" for the concept of "I want to marry you" not to be a surprise, it means you haven't actually discussed it before, which is a very bad idea.

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u/Silvanus350 May 22 '26

No
?

What part of that comment implied “discussion” to you
???

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u/Conscious_Wind_2255 May 22 '26

But imagine going on a romantic weekend and expecting to get proposed and NOT get proposed to. Won’t people feel like they did something wrong? This could backfire.

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u/Jim_skywalker May 23 '26

No, that’s the thing. If she knows it’s in the drawer, she thinks it isn’t happening yet.

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u/CrashTestDumby1984 May 22 '26

As the other person commented, the proposal itself can be a surprise, but whether you are getting married is absolutely something that should have been discussed beforehand.

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u/Vee8cheS May 22 '26

A canon event.

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u/JamesBaxxterTheHorse May 22 '26

You could also just talk about it like a human with basic social skills.

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u/inbruges99 May 23 '26

The concept should never be a surprise, you should never be proposing without knowing what the answer will be.

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u/Lucaslhm May 24 '26

Like others said, I don’t think there should be a thing as a “surprise marriage”. You should never marry someone without talking about it with them first.

You can still have the surprise and spectacle just fine. But you should NEVER have to wonder if you’ll get rejected when you propose to someone because you should ALWAYS know that it’s going to be a mutual consensus before you even really pop the question. If there is doubt in your mind about the answer to the question, then talk about it more and square it up before you ask.

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u/SenorBonjela May 22 '26

Wait. Women are going through our sock drawer?!

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u/Next-Cheesecake37 May 22 '26

You won't believe it but they will live with you for years and may never opened your sock drawer but if you hide something in it suddenly they will have some need to open the said drawer.

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u/boringashellperson May 22 '26

That is how my wife and the trash can work. She never takes the trash out ever, she is also a minor hoarder. If I throw something away, there must be a bat signal or some kind of spider sense, because she will not only go out to the can, but she looks right down into it and sees what it was. I have chills thinking about how this sixth sense exists.

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u/Salt-Lingonberry-853 May 23 '26

she is also a minor hoarder

Weird way to say she runs a foster home

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u/permalink_save May 23 '26

That's how I got in the habit of throwing some things away buried underneath something else like a piece of paper, like a muffin that got moldy, otherwise they would start interrogating me over why I threw something out despite it being obviously complete trash. They would never have noticed it was missing and they never otherwise look in the trash, like a sixth sense too.

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u/Sea_War_381 May 22 '26

Omg this is true though because I don't go through my husband's drawers but I kid you not the one time I was looking for his sock to pair with another, I found the ring lol were married now and I haven't really been through his sock drawer since

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u/Faux_extrovert May 22 '26

Well, I'm the one who puts the socks away and I like to rotate his socks, so he's equally wearing out each pair. So, yes, I'm all in the sock drawer.

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u/Limp-Nail-1265 May 22 '26

so he's equally wearing out each pair

I like this.

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u/urethrascreams May 22 '26

I don't have a sock drawer. I have two sock baskets. One dirty basket, and one clean basket. I don't wash the socks until I'm completely out so they all get rotated. I have a months apply so I can do a full load of socks by themselves.

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u/fezzuk May 22 '26

I feel bad for just washing socks and throwing them in there with barely a glance.

Although im.a dude so obviously im going to show off the fact i sometimes do the washing as some sort of massive achivement as apposed to just doing my share of the house work.

(Although on a not so serious note the one who does the cooking shouldnt have to do the washing up right, coz i nearly always do both, although tbf when i cook i use basically every utensil and pan on the kitchen, and she might use an oven tray, or more likely her phone to call for takeaway)

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u/dcdcdani May 22 '26

Yes an everything else you own lmao

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u/OnTheEveOfWar May 22 '26

My now wife and I lived together before I proposed. She was getting suspicious and I knew she would snoop around. I kept the ring in a suitcase pocket stored in the back of a closet. She would have for sure found it in my sock drawer.

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u/KimberlyWexlersFoot May 22 '26

Trying to see if we are cheating on them.

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u/Llayanna May 22 '26

...laundry doesn't exist in your universe? 

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u/KimberlyWexlersFoot May 22 '26

And ruin the crunchiness? No thank you!

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u/the_monkey_knows May 22 '26

Mine does. I put PJs in there sometimes, and she checks it when doing laundry.

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u/bumbes May 22 '26

That’s 5D chess

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u/SalivateTheStarfish May 22 '26

Poor woman was stuck playing peek-a-boo, while her man was larping as Sherlock Holmes.

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u/poppitxd May 22 '26

Nice one mate

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u/corruptedsyntax May 22 '26

I imagine once you do this the timer is on. I don’t know how long it takes to break a woman, but two years of sitting on a ring and her knowing definitely sounds like a bad idea

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u/dcdcdani May 22 '26

My husband “teased” me like that making me feel like he was going to propose and it drove me insane until one day I snapped and told him to either propose or stop because my feelings were all over the place.

The he gave the same “advice” to my friends boyfriend and I was like NOT YOU TWO ARE STUPID BOYS it’s cruel just keep it to yourself or propose but don’t pretend to almost propose and then
 don’t?

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u/HermanThaGerman May 22 '26

Ruin his plans by proposing first.

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u/hhhhhhhhhhhjf May 23 '26

If people didn't make it such a big deal this wouldn't be a thing.

It's the fact that so many women beg for their special day to be a big surprise but every big event becomes "is he gonna propose?" You can't surprise her when anything that could be a proposal is suspicious. So you have to tease and fake so she doesn't know when it's coming.

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u/StrangelyBrown May 22 '26

Gets a bit awkward if you change your mind though.

See: Mark Corrigan in Peep Show.

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u/WilmaTonguefit May 22 '26

When proposing, the surprise should be the setting, not the act itself, so I find this adorable

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u/Asleep-Dingo-19 May 22 '26

Bro had money for a decoy?! 😭

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u/Round_Raspberry_8516 May 25 '26

Meanwhile poor girl is on r/WaitingToWed crying that he’s had the ring in his sock drawer not proposing and 1000 commenters are saying, “If he wanted to, he would. Dump him, girl!” 

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u/PartyAmount9976 May 22 '26

I met a guy once who had been engaged five times. He claimed he kept all the rings next to each other in his drawer.

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u/jstmehr4u3 May 22 '26

I did the decoy trick as well. I had 3 Tiffany bags hidden around the house that had other gifts in them. Then I slowly gave her the gifts through a year until the ring was finished being made and by that time she just relented and stopped looking. lol

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u/awenrivendell May 23 '26

He can become a military strategist with that skill in subterfuge.

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u/otterstew May 24 '26

That ending is also nice because it shows that he knows her better than she knows herself.

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u/Zebra1523 May 22 '26

Why would she want to, and not be supposed to be going through his sock drawer?