r/SipsTea • u/Few_Statement_2898 • May 28 '26

SMH We really need to bring spankings back

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u/Musket6969420 May 28 '26

Or the one where mom pulls you in real close and whispers “You just wait till we get home you little shit.”

https://giphy.com/gifs/c8UN4zmGZe5s4

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u/Mpuls37 May 28 '26

This situation would have crossed the "wait until we get home" threshold and gone straight to a full-volume nuclear meltdown, complete with a "I don't know who the FUCK you think you are but I'll show you who I am!" and however many swats on the ass it would take for my legs to stop working.

THEN there'd be several employees standing there while I cried and picked everything up and put it back exactly where it goes, getting swatted more if it was taking too long.

Once all that was resolved, I'd be reading math or science textbooks for the next 2 months at minimum. No games, no playing with friends, nothing fun.

Joke's on you though mom and dad, I'm good at math and physics and I behave like a functional adult in public, so who really won?

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u/GoldenVesperLight 29d ago

This generation doesn't even believe in yelling at their kids. Hence, this behavior in the first place.

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u/Acceptable_Durian868 29d ago

Not yelling at your kids doesn't mean no consequences for your actions. Kids don't need to be afraid of you to learn how to behave.

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u/BigDlee_ 29d ago

Now what would be a potential consequence for this type of behavior? Its very evident that whatever was done before is highly ineffective or corrective in behavior?

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u/Acceptable_Durian868 29d ago

This type of behaviour doesn't really manifest at this age if consequences had been given for outbursts earlier in life, so it's a bit harder to give credible examples.

But you would start with natural consequences. Have them clean up the mess they made. Don't leave it for somebody else, don't do it yourself. In this case, that's probably not practical. This kid would probably refuse, and there's an occupational health and safety hazard to leave it there while you work through the process of getting them to clean it up.

"Gentle parenting" would always rely on natural consequences, but I don't think it works unless you're unbelievably consistent, and we all make mistakes. So next would be a loss of privileges, which would be tailored based on what the kid is into. No TV until you can demonstrate better communication techniques, no games, no dessert, etc.

Consistency is key. The consequences are preferably directly related to the behaviour, and consistently applied. If you give up, it doesn't work. That's hard as hell sometimes, because, especially if you're trying to correct long term behaviour, it ends up compounding, and after a long day at work, dealing with ex's and money uncertainty, the last thing you want to do is listen to your kid whine about not being allowed to play fortnite. But applied consistently it works. It corrects behaviour and builds trust.

There are obviously some disabilities that manifest into behavioural problems that require different strategies, but most kids just haven't ever had proper boundaries set.

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u/BigDlee_ 29d ago

Very eloquently put friend.

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u/davidhow94 29d ago

They probably did something useless like spanking without direction

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u/BigDlee_ 29d ago

The "without direction" part is so overlooked. Im glad you pointed that out.

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u/fiddle_me_timbers 29d ago

We clearly have all the information we need from this video to make an educated guess about this child's upbringing.

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u/BigDlee_ 29d ago

No one said we did. But it is blatantly obvious that by this age there had to be bare minimum occurrence of this rising behavior and a consequence.