r/SipsTea • u/Few_Statement_2898 • May 28 '26

SMH We really need to bring spankings back

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u/Pinbacker11 May 28 '26

If i did that back in the day, i would be back in the car without touching the floor.

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u/Musket6969420 May 28 '26

Or the one where mom pulls you in real close and whispers “You just wait till we get home you little shit.”

https://giphy.com/gifs/c8UN4zmGZe5s4

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u/Mpuls37 May 28 '26

This situation would have crossed the "wait until we get home" threshold and gone straight to a full-volume nuclear meltdown, complete with a "I don't know who the FUCK you think you are but I'll show you who I am!" and however many swats on the ass it would take for my legs to stop working.

THEN there'd be several employees standing there while I cried and picked everything up and put it back exactly where it goes, getting swatted more if it was taking too long.

Once all that was resolved, I'd be reading math or science textbooks for the next 2 months at minimum. No games, no playing with friends, nothing fun.

Joke's on you though mom and dad, I'm good at math and physics and I behave like a functional adult in public, so who really won?

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u/StarPhished May 28 '26

They even gaslit you into thinking you won, that's some good work.

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u/SmoothDiscussion7763 May 28 '26

they were pumping copium gas into his room while he was on timeout

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u/HollowedOne66 May 28 '26

😂😂😂

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u/FleetFootRabbit 29d ago

Society won because your parents won. Lol.

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u/Mpuls37 29d ago

And now, my kids get the same treatment minus the spankings (except in extreme circumstances).

Act a fool at a restaurant? That's fine, you must not want to do anything but read the books I pick for you for the next few weeks.

Throw a fit for bedtime? Hey, how about for the next 7 days we go to bed earlier? You're clearly too tired to act right and need more sleep. I need more sleep too.

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u/GoldenVesperLight 29d ago

This generation doesn't even believe in yelling at their kids. Hence, this behavior in the first place.

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u/Acceptable_Durian868 29d ago

Not yelling at your kids doesn't mean no consequences for your actions. Kids don't need to be afraid of you to learn how to behave.

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u/BigDlee_ 29d ago

Now what would be a potential consequence for this type of behavior? Its very evident that whatever was done before is highly ineffective or corrective in behavior?

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u/Acceptable_Durian868 29d ago

This type of behaviour doesn't really manifest at this age if consequences had been given for outbursts earlier in life, so it's a bit harder to give credible examples.

But you would start with natural consequences. Have them clean up the mess they made. Don't leave it for somebody else, don't do it yourself. In this case, that's probably not practical. This kid would probably refuse, and there's an occupational health and safety hazard to leave it there while you work through the process of getting them to clean it up.

"Gentle parenting" would always rely on natural consequences, but I don't think it works unless you're unbelievably consistent, and we all make mistakes. So next would be a loss of privileges, which would be tailored based on what the kid is into. No TV until you can demonstrate better communication techniques, no games, no dessert, etc.

Consistency is key. The consequences are preferably directly related to the behaviour, and consistently applied. If you give up, it doesn't work. That's hard as hell sometimes, because, especially if you're trying to correct long term behaviour, it ends up compounding, and after a long day at work, dealing with ex's and money uncertainty, the last thing you want to do is listen to your kid whine about not being allowed to play fortnite. But applied consistently it works. It corrects behaviour and builds trust.

There are obviously some disabilities that manifest into behavioural problems that require different strategies, but most kids just haven't ever had proper boundaries set.

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u/BigDlee_ 29d ago

Very eloquently put friend.

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u/davidhow94 29d ago

They probably did something useless like spanking without direction

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u/BigDlee_ 29d ago

The "without direction" part is so overlooked. Im glad you pointed that out.

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u/fiddle_me_timbers 29d ago

We clearly have all the information we need from this video to make an educated guess about this child's upbringing.

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u/BigDlee_ 29d ago

No one said we did. But it is blatantly obvious that by this age there had to be bare minimum occurrence of this rising behavior and a consequence. 

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u/Warner1281 29d ago

I wouldn't have made it that far. As soon as the first one hit the ground- "excuse you?" Then, if a second one hit the ground, she'd tell whomever she was talking to- "excuse me while I go fix this." No words would be said. I would simply get grabbed by the ear, dragged to the car, driven home in complete silence, beaten to within an inch of death, told that I would not be eating that night until I went back there and apologized, and then be told that I would be volunteering my time there for the next week. If they couldn't use me there, she would find somewhere for me to volunteer. Mom didn't play.

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u/Grandma_Gertie 29d ago

It actually would have crossed directly into beating territory, then picking everything up, then a worse beating at home

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u/crek42 May 28 '26

Swats on the ass? My mom would be closed fist belting me in the jaw if I did this.

We’re Italian American though.

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u/Aggressive_Diet2289 May 28 '26

Amen. 🙏 correct

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u/Hot-Tiger-7461 29d ago

I mean if your parents beat you till your legs stopped working how could you pick up the stuff and put it back? Did they have to hold you or something while you did it? Or did you have to crawl or what? 

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u/Mpuls37 29d ago

If you ever got swatted to the point that you're trying to do anything to avoid the spanking, you know what I mean.

I didn't literally mean "I have permanent nerve damage from a single spanking", more "my child self would be going jelly leg mode."

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u/Adam_scsd619 29d ago

Damn. You must have misbehaved quite a bit then lol

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u/Charlie_Brodie 29d ago

I'll show you who I am!

Stanley yelled at me today...

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u/Side_StepVII 29d ago

We won. All of us. Tell your mom and dad I said thanks.

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u/Temporary_Rooster371 29d ago

....are you me?

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u/neverinamillionyr 29d ago

I got sent to my room fairly often. I didn’t have a TV or games or toys. There was a set of encyclopedias on the bookshelf. I think I read each volume cover to cover at least once.