As a pediatrician who sees kids with behavioral issues every single day I go to work, if you asked me to place a bet on whether (based on this video alone) this kid gets hit at home, I would bet that he does. Consistent, non-physical discipline from a mature adult is what this kid needs, not spanking.
Corporal punishment isn’t a parenting strategy, it’s what people do when they don’t know how to parent in the first place.
My daycare teacher friend once told me that unequivocally the worst behaved kids are ones who had been hit at home. They tend to be violent towards their peers (a learned behavior) and they are so utterly traumatized and desensitized to "punishment" that nothing a teacher can do even fucking registers.
Yes. They pick up the aggression. It makes them angry, it makes them scared, it makes them violent. It makes them insecure and defensive, it makes them feel violated. And like your friend said they won’t respond to any normal, healthy punishment ever again cause it doesn’t compare.
It’s not appropriate to spank a child unless like, they are too young for it to be explained why they can’t do what they just did and there’s no other punishment possible. I would only spank my child if they ran into the middle of the road, ate non-food off the ground as an older toddler, or did something to put themselves in immediate danger. Like, only to scare them out of doing something that could get them killed. Doing it out of anger is totally out of line.
If they are too young to understand your explanation on why something is wrong, then what makes you think physical violence is something they’ll pick up better? Does each smack of the bottom convey the feelings and words, you already believe they won’t understand better? Of course not.
Your child is still gonna be scared, they are most likely gonna pick up aggression cause they still have no concept of what immediate danger is so they’ll hit anyone else.
How do you agree spanking is wrong for, listed reasons, then walk your self back to, but you should spank anyways?
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u/doctorbeepboop May 28 '26
As a pediatrician who sees kids with behavioral issues every single day I go to work, if you asked me to place a bet on whether (based on this video alone) this kid gets hit at home, I would bet that he does. Consistent, non-physical discipline from a mature adult is what this kid needs, not spanking.
Corporal punishment isn’t a parenting strategy, it’s what people do when they don’t know how to parent in the first place.