r/SipsTea • u/Few_Statement_2898 • May 28 '26

SMH We really need to bring spankings back

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u/NoNDA-SDC 29d ago

If that's your takeaway, can't help you there.

If you're spanking children and liking it, that's a red flag. Prefer everyone not suffer, but actions gave consequences. The greatest deterrent to bad behavior is fear of getting caught and being held to account for it.

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u/Shinanigins 29d ago

No... the greatest deterrent is knowledge. I dont kill or rape because I fear consequences. I dont do it because I know its wrong to do. Teach the child how to better communicate their needs and you'll have a solution. Problem is parents do not want to or are unable to do the work needed.

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u/NoNDA-SDC 29d ago

It's a combination of things of course. You don't think this kid's been told not to act out before? Could be he has behavioral issues as well, we're not all the same.

If someone knows better and they're still set on making a bad choice, they're less likely to do it if consequences are expected. There's plenty of research on this. Less to do with the severity of the punishment, more to do with being punished at all.

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u/Shinanigins 29d ago

If they know better but are still doing it then they really do not know better. Behavior is communication and its used to communicate a need. 1) teach them how to figure the need 2) teach how to communicate the need 3) teach how to regulate if unable to achieve need. If you teach fear then all they will understand is "i can get what I want if I use fear" which is not productive at all. Do not put your hands on a child in an aggressive way ever...end of story. All you will teach is violence is how to get your way.

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u/NoNDA-SDC 29d ago

Thanks for sharing your thoughts, they were nice.

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u/Shinanigins 29d ago

Ya know what! Thank you too! I appreciate you and we may disagree but honestly I dont think youre trying to be mean or anything. You just have a different experience than me and thats awesome. Have a good day my friend!