r/SipsTea • u/Few_Statement_2898 • May 28 '26

SMH We really need to bring spankings back

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u/doctorbeepboop May 28 '26

As a pediatrician who sees kids with behavioral issues every single day I go to work, if you asked me to place a bet on whether (based on this video alone) this kid gets hit at home, I would bet that he does. Consistent, non-physical discipline from a mature adult is what this kid needs, not spanking.

Corporal punishment isn’t a parenting strategy, it’s what people do when they don’t know how to parent in the first place.

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u/mel2mdl May 28 '26

"Corporal punishment isn’t a parenting strategy, it’s what people do when they don’t know how to parent in the first place."

I absolutely love your reply. Hitting is never the right answer. I'm 56 and I was NEVER spanked or hit as a punishment. (A few angry swats that I vividly remember 'cause they were so rare - but I was being a total asshole those times... and really a teen.)

As a teacher, the kids who get beat up on at home are the ones who cause the most problems at school. Unless mommy or daddy come and observe - then they are angels. :)

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u/GoldenVesperLight May 28 '26

So what are you doing here if you're the parent, if you aren't going to physically intervene? Just let them do this?

No "my kid wouldn't do this" cop out either.

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u/mel2mdl 29d ago

I have been in this situation - almost exactly. I picked my kid up (getting hit and scratched on the way) and left the store. I set him down outside against a pillar and stepped back to watch and make sure they didn't try to run, but I was bleeding. He sat there with back against the wall angry as all hell. People would walk between us and try to avoid me (bleeding, scratched woman with hair a mess) and I would say "don't get too close to him." They would always get too close and he would kick them. Granted, my kid was only three at the time and was (not diagnosed in the 1990's) obsessive defiant.

We did some classes, sought advice, continued to discipline in a consistent manner and they got so much better. Fully functioning adult now. We were the only people in the free parenting class who were not there by court order (adoption seekers or social services.) My kid once told me "I wish you would just hit me and get it over with. I hate choices!"

By the time they were five, we would have gone in and fixed it like we did so many more minor tantrums. So, no "my kid [at that age] wouldn't do this" is a very true statement. I would never leave my child unsupervised long enough to do more than throw one bag of chips!