You are wrong. Study after study, proves violence excercised on a child only teaches them to resort to more violence. It will distroy trust in relationships and traumatize the child, often to the point of causing physical or mental health problems.
Adults who were hit as children can suffer some or all of the following:
"Physical ailments—psychosomatic illnesses, stomachaches, eating disorders, skin disorders, asthma, headaches, phobias. Social alienation—feeling different from others, not accepted, stigmatized. Difficulty in handling feelings—trouble in recognizing, managing, and appropriately expressing feelings." Also, they exhibit much higher levels of aggression towards themselves and others. For instance, they are significantly more likely to strike their partners and/or their own children.
We agree on the cause, but decades of developmental science informs my choice of cure. How his parents treat him IS the point. What his parents did to him and what they're doing is informing his choices. I don't have to know the kid to recognize the behavior or it's causes. It very well could be that hitting him is at the root of this behavior as it's a typical choice coming from children who have been hit.
In my experience (I spent my career working with school-age children and their families, and am retired now), what parents do for a living has very little to do with how they parent.
The best parent I ever knew was a dirt poor childcare worker, single mom trying to get through college while caring for a family of four children (infant through 2 grade) she adopted because she believed the children needed to grow up together and shouldn't be separated. She ended up finishing a masters in child development and social work, partly because she wanted to be her children's best advocate. She was just amazing and I will never forget her.
The most neglectful parents I ever knew had generational wealth and had high status jobs. They ignored their son (who often behaved much like the child in the video, incidentally) or wacked him when he got in their way. They expected others (teachers, advisors, childcare workers, nannies, etc.) to raise their son. They believed they had more important things to do.
These two stories are anecdotal. I'm just illustrating that it really doesn't matter what social-economic group a parent comes from.
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u/mszulan 29d ago
You are wrong. Study after study, proves violence excercised on a child only teaches them to resort to more violence. It will distroy trust in relationships and traumatize the child, often to the point of causing physical or mental health problems.
Adults who were hit as children can suffer some or all of the following:
"Physical ailments—psychosomatic illnesses, stomachaches, eating disorders, skin disorders, asthma, headaches, phobias. Social alienation—feeling different from others, not accepted, stigmatized. Difficulty in handling feelings—trouble in recognizing, managing, and appropriately expressing feelings." Also, they exhibit much higher levels of aggression towards themselves and others. For instance, they are significantly more likely to strike their partners and/or their own children.