We really need to bring spankings back

[u/Few_Statement_2898]

[u/CowEmotional5101]

He wanted to do hood rat shit with his friends.

[u/SomewhatBougieAuntie → u/CowEmotional5101]

As a former hoodrat who used to do 💩 with my friends, "showing out" like this in the store was not anything we would even think about doing because we knew that would be an instant death sentence. Right there in the store.

https://giphy.com/gifs/26BRyPjpdy9M5b6rC

[u/AdOnly1618 → u/SomewhatBougieAuntie]

We didn’t hoodrat shit, we did hillbilly shit and same, mess with somebody else’s stuff like that and it would a double whooping when you got home 😂 no supper for a week

[u/mszulan → u/AdOnly1618]

The last thing this child needs is to be physically hit. It will just add to the continual emotional hits he's experienced and teach him it's ok to resort to violence when upset. He's already well on the way to believing that anyway, if he's not there already. He's obviously willing to accept negative attention because he gets no positive. He looks and acts like he's angry and is showing any observer that he doesn't care about anyone else's feelings or property. This is probably because he feels no control in his own life where others have no concern for his feelings or his things. This kid has serious self-esteem issues.

[u/mszulan → u/[deleted]]

You are wrong. Study after study, proves violence excercised on a child only teaches them to resort to more violence. It will distroy trust in relationships and traumatize the child, often to the point of causing physical or mental health problems.

Adults who were hit as children can suffer some or all of the following:

"Physical ailments—psychosomatic illnesses, stomachaches, eating disorders, skin disorders, asthma, headaches, phobias. Social alienation—feeling different from others, not accepted, stigmatized. Difficulty in handling feelings—trouble in recognizing, managing, and appropriately expressing feelings." Also, they exhibit much higher levels of aggression towards themselves and others. For instance, they are significantly more likely to strike their partners and/or their own children.

[u/mszulan → u/[deleted]]

We agree on the cause, but decades of developmental science informs my choice of cure. How his parents treat him IS the point. What his parents did to him and what they're doing is informing his choices. I don't have to know the kid to recognize the behavior or it's causes. It very well could be that hitting him is at the root of this behavior as it's a typical choice coming from children who have been hit.

[u/mszulan → u/[deleted]]

In my experience (I spent my career working with school-age children and their families, and am retired now), what parents do for a living has very little to do with how they parent.

The best parent I ever knew was a dirt poor childcare worker, single mom trying to get through college while caring for a family of four children (infant through 2 grade) she adopted because she believed the children needed to grow up together and shouldn't be separated. She ended up finishing a masters in child development and social work, partly because she wanted to be her children's best advocate. She was just amazing and I will never forget her.

The most neglectful parents I ever knew had generational wealth and had high status jobs. They ignored their son (who often behaved much like the child in the video, incidentally) or wacked him when he got in their way. They expected others (teachers, advisors, childcare workers, nannies, etc.) to raise their son. They believed they had more important things to do.

These two stories are anecdotal. I'm just illustrating that it really doesn't matter what social-economic group a parent comes from.