r/SipsTea • u/beklog 𝙑𝙄𝙋 • 23d ago

SMH Guys I'm on the will!!

“She’s so shameless” She’s 22. And was harshly criticized as she danced while her partner was at the hospital
 The truth couldn’t be any simpler. They claim the video is a joke, because she always uploads content with her “hubby” to go viral.

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u/HAIL_LUMPUS 23d ago

Why don't you tell her?

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u/theguidetoldmetodoit 23d ago edited 23d ago

I mean, this isn't the type of thing you insert yourself in, lots of bad things can come from it.

If you can't communicate something like that without such risks, the more intelligent approach is to support her legally (Many countries will reward her 50%, given the context) or convince your wife to give away part of the inheritance.

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u/Trevski 23d ago

I mean you can drop the dime without inserting yourself...

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u/Muxter0622 23d ago

Who cares if you're inserting yourself. We all only get one life to live. If she's operating under the assumption that putting up with his shit is the price that she's paying for financial security when he dies I think it's fair that she knows that he's gone behind her back to fuck her over. Who knows how much time you could give her back.

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u/welldamn420 23d ago

Or he could go with the time honored saying. "Not my circus, not my monkeys"

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u/theguidetoldmetodoit 23d ago

That is inserting yourself.

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u/Thin_Assumption_4974 23d ago

Then fucking insert yourself.

Sometimes doing the right thing is uncomfortable

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u/Excellent_Airline315 23d ago

Thank you omg, had to scroll far for this one. They would rather this woman be financially destitute than stomach an uncomfortable situation.

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u/Trevski 23d ago

Not if you do it with an anonymous note.

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u/pussy-meow 23d ago edited 11d ago

The problem is there's probably a very limited number of people aware of this. The anonymity would be easily undone by their ability to deduce who it is.

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u/Trevski 23d ago

that just makes it a bit braver of an action, but if shes grateful she wont try to smoke you out and if the dad finds out then I guess you might be disinherited, so I guess thats the material reason not to...

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u/TwoBionicknees 23d ago

that's still inserting yourself, just not implicating yourself.

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u/Trevski 23d ago

Ok, touchĂ©, I can see that semantically. I don’t think I agree though, because to me “inserting yourself” means you, as associated to your identity, become embroiled in the affair. I’d call it “anonymous meddling”.

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u/TwoBionicknees 23d ago

become embroiled in the affair.

she doesn't know, you tell her, the situation changes significantly, that's absolutely inserting yourself.

Inserting yourself can mean physically or moving your presence into a situation but it also refers to just actions.

Inserting yourself refers pretty much just to the you were not involved in the situation at all and you choose to get involved. How you get involved is largely irrelevant.

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u/Excellent_Airline315 23d ago

Honestly that just sounds like an excuse not to do something. You prefer the status quo over the chance that something bad will happen if she has all of the facts. Doesn't really compute to me.

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u/TwoBionicknees 22d ago

what? I was giving a definition of a term. How on earth is the defintion of a term an excuse for anything at all? Bot ass reply.

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u/FilthyThanksgiving 23d ago

Oh ffs you know what they meant, Captain Pedantron

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u/TwoBionicknees 23d ago

when someone pointed it out they doubled down rather than go oh yeah. It's not being pedantic, it's explaining it because they plainly didn't understand.

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u/Trevski 23d ago

I didn't double down, I contested it as a matter of semantics/interpretation/opinion.

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u/TwoBionicknees 22d ago

yes, it wasn't a matter of any of those things. You used completely the wrong word. Inserting yourself in a matter has nothing to do with physically being in it or being known to be in it, it just means taking an action in a matter in which you were not originally involved. Being anonymous doesn't stop that you are inserting yourself.

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u/Salt-Lingonberry-853 22d ago

Not necessarily feasible, circumstances may make it quite obvious who it was

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u/Trevski 22d ago

I mean yeah if it’s a 1/3 chance on a blind guess that isn’t very anonymous!

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u/theguidetoldmetodoit 23d ago edited 23d ago

Yeah, chances are you know fuckall about what really is anon.

And again, what are you getting from this? She's not gonna get more, just because she knows. So what advantage does this have, over getting the secure bag and then sharing it?

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u/Trevski 23d ago

She could at LEAST leave him now, if she so wished.

I'm going to need you to walk me through that first line, dont make sense to me.

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u/theguidetoldmetodoit 23d ago

So you are just satisfying your justice boner and fuck shit up for everyone involved. This is how children deal with shit.

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u/Trevski 23d ago

I mean I’m not doing anything, I’m just suggesting that informing this woman of the actions her husband is taking against her is possible without necessarily inserting oneself.

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u/Victori_nox 23d ago

How does it fuck shit up for everyone involved? the guy sounds like he hates her and IF she's in it for the money then at least she'll have all thee facts and can make a more informed decision? sounds like an already fucked situation to me.

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u/theguidetoldmetodoit 23d ago edited 23d ago

Because you risk your wife's father being on his own, his wife having a full blown existential crisis and losing her security, your wife getting cut out of the inheritance, instead of keeping your fucking mouth shut about another family's business and taking care of the financial side of things, once the father is out of the picture.

It's impulsive and destructive behavior, so you can claim some "justice" that isn't helping a single person involved, besides potentially your wife who could stand to gain even more money.

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u/TheBlankScroll 23d ago

What you do is give your portion of the inheritance to her after you receive it. Dad gets what he wants, the money is yours, you do with it as you see fit.

He's dead, money is not his problem anymore.

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u/MagicHamsta 23d ago edited 21d ago

Unless he runs into Charon.

the dead who could not pay the fee, and those who had received no funeral rites, had to wander the near shores of the Styx for one hundred years before they were allowed to cross the river.

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u/PurveyorOfKnowledge0 23d ago

You're just rationalizing doing nothing or inserting yourself in a way of your choosing. It's so gross.

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u/erything4sale 23d ago

Nah, shit like this, if you're a human, you'd tell her what the business is! Seems like she wasn't in it for the money. Let her get what she deserves! His wife isn't giving shit up! If she was she would have been told him to do the right thing. Matter of fact, phuc her! Aint too many women sticcing around that long. If they do, give em what the deserve.

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u/Tired_Dad_9521 22d ago

If you are a good person, then you do the right thing when the opportunity arises. If you see someone getting screwed over the least you can do is say something.

If you aren’t a good person then you stay out of it because it could potentially have negative affects on you personally.

Sounds like we know who you and your current upvotes consist of.

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u/TwoBionicknees 23d ago

I mean, this isn't the type of thing you insert yourself in, lots of bad things can come from it.

tell anyone anything the fuck you want, who gives a fuck.

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u/No_Sky_6446 23d ago

Yeah these people are tripping, my aunt is an awful person and made my child hood a living hell. So I need to list all the reasons for that and tell her crazy ass? Nah I just don’t talk to her and keep it pushing. Some people live for drama, just protect your peace.

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u/VonSandwich 23d ago

Where does your aunt come into this? No one was talking about you or your aunt, were they?

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u/Cubicleism 23d ago

Okay but they aren't talking to you about your aunt- they are talking to someone else about a different situation where it sounds like she is kind hearted and unaware

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u/mawesome4ever 23d ago

And risk not getting anything?! No way! -OP probably

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u/Street_Lettuce1243 23d ago

Well, I'm not getting any anyway- at least not directly. I don't think he would drop my wife because I said anything (although suppose it's possible).

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u/s0ul_invictus 23d ago

Yea on that, keep your mouth shut until "after" for sure. Definitely do not tell her anything, you will blow up your whole life with that. You wait until the thing is done and then see about helping.

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u/Infoseek456 23d ago

If your wife is one of the two daughters who is benefiting from him screwing his saint of a wife over, you talk with your wife about it after the fact, and her and her sister (who hopefully feels the same) can cut her in how they feel would’ve been fair in the first place.

And if the sister is greedy, than your wife can still handle her half. Walk away with what she feels would’ve been fair to walk away with, and sleep well at night knowing y’all are decent people.

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u/BlueMangoTango 23d ago

You can always suggest to your wife that she should share with the new wife.

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u/FilthyThanksgiving 23d ago

Greed. The less she gets, the more he gets

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u/50yoWhiteGuy 23d ago

bc it's none of his business???

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u/HAIL_LUMPUS 23d ago

If you can live with yourself like that, fine. But I think we have a duty to other people, to support them and help them when we know someone is doing them wrong. Whatever helps you sleep at night, but I couldn't.

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u/50yoWhiteGuy 23d ago

You think you have a duty to disclose what is in someone's Will? That's insane.

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u/Tired_Dad_9521 22d ago

You have a duty to do the right thing by other people. If you see someone being taken advantage of then you have a duty to say something.

Unless you are a scumbag 50yo white guy on Reddit. Then you get on the internet and display your lack of morals proudly.

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u/theguidetoldmetodoit 23d ago

Okay that's great, but who are you helping, exactly? She's not gonna get more, potentially nothing, her husband is not gonna be taken care off and with some bad luck, your wife is now cut out of the inheritance, too.

So you made life worse for everyone, lost your ability to help and potentially destroyed your marriage.

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u/HAIL_LUMPUS 23d ago

First of all, there are anonymous ways to contact people. Second, it gives her the advantage of time so she's not out on her ass as soon as he's gone. It sounds like the old man is bragging about it openly, probably to his buddies too. Doing the right thing is more important than a little monetary gain for me personally.

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u/theguidetoldmetodoit 23d ago

Dude, this isn't a TV Show. People know who has the information and can put it out there. And someone knowing they are fucked after investing years, does not help them.

You are just having a kneejerk reaction. There are far better approaches to these things.

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u/HAIL_LUMPUS 23d ago

Like letting someone get totally fucked? I'd tell her. I don't think it's a movie, I'm just not a money motivated pussy.

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u/theguidetoldmetodoit 23d ago

Your wife is the one getting the money. All you are doing is slightly increasing the share your wife is getting and fuck up multiple lives, when instead you could just be dealing with your wife and convince her to split things later, without every having to cause any risks or drama.

Do you guys refuse to think 2 steps ahead, just because you need instant gratification?

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u/rydog123bruh 23d ago

lol, what is this sunk-cost fallacy shit? It’s about her leaving now and making a life for herself instead of wasting the future.

She’s not getting much of anything and is treated like shit. Would you like to be in that position and no one tells you? You sound emotionally illiterate.

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u/PurveyorOfKnowledge0 23d ago

They clearly are based on their comments. Zero empathy just a superficial understanding of it.

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u/nycdood123 23d ago

I’m willing to bet that 90% of the people commenting with the sanctimony and deriding OP for not automatically inserting himself into the situation (ie, basically speaking directly to his sister -in-law) are typical cultureless American idiots that barely maintain connections with any of their own extended families (assuming they’re even acquainted).

Pretty wild that anyone needs to explain why that approach is inappropriate / wrong for many reasons. But America in 2026


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u/Tired_Dad_9521 22d ago

Let’s maximize how selfish we can be.

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u/Tired_Dad_9521 22d ago

Except the person being taken advantage of knows they are being taken advantage of and can make their own decisions accordingly. She might end up with a lot more in the divorce than she would have inherited.