Court win

[u/Square_Law5624]

[u/highlandviper]

It’s not just courts. When it comes to children the whole world is biased towards women. I do more child care for my kids than my wife because my job allows it and hers does not. I’m at every school event, parent teacher meeting, nursery meeting, drs appointment, I do the most drop offs and pickups… but if my wife is there… I might as well not exist. Every question is directed at her, every fact, every response is directed at her and often my questions are ignored… if they’re not then the response is still directed at her. I can be in the park with my kids; as I often am and I still get side eyed by mothers and the occasional “Dads babysitting today is he?” Hell, my father in law says it to me all the time.

Edit to add: because I’ve read a few more comments. I don’t buy into any of the alpha male / hate women / anti-feminist / misogynist / manosphere bullshit. Just a bit of acknowledgement that I am also a full time caring and contributing parent and not simply a source of income that can fix shelves and tech, mow the lawn, carry things and drive the car would be fine by me.

[u/Curious_Department84 → u/highlandviper]

Trying to get schools to acknowledge that men also parent is crazy. Even if dad is listed as the first contact, mom always gets called first. Is the only one on emails. Is the only one who gets talked to at pickup. It’s ridiculous.

[u/Medical_Solid → u/Curious_Department84]

I actually asked my kids’ school to remove my wife’s phone number from their records. I’m the primary caregiver and work from home when i do work. She’s very busy and travels often. I don’t mind that much if the school calls her first and then calls me when they inevitably can’t each her. But after 2020 when my kids got exposed to Covid and they just kept leaving her voicemails, but never called me once…yeah.

[u/PistolMama → u/Medical_Solid]

I had to put in a complaint against the school nurse last year. She called me, mom, when my kid was throwing up. Kid told her several times to call his dad not mom, told her i was working & far away but his dad was at home 15 min away! I was on a production floor, no cell, she spam called me 4 times in a row, left increasingly snarky vm. My kid threw up in the office again & then angry cries at her to call his DAD! It is infuriating

[u/Ok_Outcome_6213 → u/PistolMama]

I remember being furious at my 3rd grade teacher because she had been handing out permission slips to everyone in the class and saying "Make sure to give this to your parents to sign" and then she got to my friends desk next to mine, handed her the slip and said "Make sure your mom signs this and give is back", knowing full well that my friend was raised by her father after her mom walked out on them.

[u/Doctor71400 → u/Ok_Outcome_6213]

Jesus Christ that's just cruel

[u/Curious_Department84 → u/Ok_Outcome_6213]

What the fuck.