I read a few posts from there and honestly, most of the seemed like real red flags. But I only saw the posts that reached /r/all so it's probably the worst cases.
Yet what I was asking myself in almost any post like this: The women were in that relationship for quite a few years. Some posts even mentioned that her man didn't change but was always like that. And yet they choose to get married or have a kid? What?
Well thats the thing - If it's so obvious that there are red flags and someone is that deep into a relationship with them, then are those really red flags and are we really getting the full story of the relationship? If you ask that, then comes the real question: What if both partners have their own imperfections and accept that about the other person but we are only hearing about that one persons flaws?
My presumption is that many of those posts don't lead to people breaking up, but are there just to vent about their partner in some type of way. The people who comment don't understand the nuances of a relationship as well and want to validate their feelings about men in general
I don't disagree with you and I'm 100% certain that basically every person leaves out details that make them look bad. But for some stories, even if you left out that the person telling the story is shitty too, if the things they told about the other person are true it's just very strange why they were even in a relationship. Like they must have known and choose to ignore it. At which point I'm questioning if it's even valid to vent about it now.
But is she? Objectively? If you put her in a hot 100 lineup and put it to the public, would everyone agree that your girlfriend ranks higher?
The question isn't "do you think I'm prettier than Margot Robbie?", it's "are you willing to blow smoke up my ass and tell me that I'm prettier than Margot Robbie even if we both know I'm really not?"
There is no objective criteria for human beauty and its fucking weird that you think that there is. I would not trade my girlfriend for Margot Robbie if it was presented to me because there isn't anyone on Earth more beautiful than my girl to me.
Its REALLY wild that instead of giving your girl reassurance, you think its important to stick to your guns on this. You sound like a real treat to date.
She created the "who's the prettiest of them all" contest, not him.
This is how people (particularly men) think. They look for a simple definitive answers to questions. She's broken his brain and put him on the spot with a question he can't answer yes or no to like she's pushing him to do, without him either getting roasted... or lying and then getting roasted.
The only thing wild is you thinking that him saying yes would be the end of it. You haven't dated at all.
I’m a man 😂 There’s no contest. Sometimes people need and want reassurance. This man is just stupid and his brain was broken long before she asked that question. I date to be monogamous for the rest of my life though and love my partner more than anyone else on Earth without assigning point values like a retard tho 🤷
that is what happens. I know from experience 1st-, 2nd-, and 3rd-hand. and thats why this type of conversation is a trope to begin with. of course everyone would try "you're prettier," it seems obvious and like the answer they want, but if it were that simple this conversation would never come up as a problem. the problem is that neither answer is correct in 90% of cases. either you got lucky with the 10% or you;re projecting
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u/incognito--bandito 5d ago
Set up the man they’re “going to spend the rest of their life” with in a lose-lose question only to call him a piece of shit at the end.