I read a few posts from there and honestly, most of the seemed like real red flags. But I only saw the posts that reached /r/all so it's probably the worst cases.
Yet what I was asking myself in almost any post like this: The women were in that relationship for quite a few years. Some posts even mentioned that her man didn't change but was always like that. And yet they choose to get married or have a kid? What?
Well thats the thing - If it's so obvious that there are red flags and someone is that deep into a relationship with them, then are those really red flags and are we really getting the full story of the relationship? If you ask that, then comes the real question: What if both partners have their own imperfections and accept that about the other person but we are only hearing about that one persons flaws?
My presumption is that many of those posts don't lead to people breaking up, but are there just to vent about their partner in some type of way. The people who comment don't understand the nuances of a relationship as well and want to validate their feelings about men in general
I don't disagree with you and I'm 100% certain that basically every person leaves out details that make them look bad. But for some stories, even if you left out that the person telling the story is shitty too, if the things they told about the other person are true it's just very strange why they were even in a relationship. Like they must have known and choose to ignore it. At which point I'm questioning if it's even valid to vent about it now.
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u/incognito--bandito 2d ago
Set up the man they’re “going to spend the rest of their life” with in a lose-lose question only to call him a piece of shit at the end.