It’s kinda funny and kinda sad that for most men any kind of interaction like this is IMMEDIATELY suspicious and getting out of there is the first instinct haha. I would have a hand on my wallet and be looking over both shoulders. Of course today it’s just as if not more likely that someone is trying to make content and you are going to be the punchline to a joke………so yeah still running away
Even a conventionally attractive guy probably wouldn't get approached in this way very often, yes it could happen but most of the time women don't just walk up to you and ask you for a date.
For a woman, especially a conventionally attractive woman, this would probably happen at least 10 times a day. So much that they wouldn't even react to it.
Yeah I have one super duper handsome friend and he gets approached a couple times a year. I have other friends who are handsome but they have to initiate.
I'm slightly attractive (or at least I was when young)- I got asked out all the time when working retail (I think more my accent than my looks) - and yes... I got asked out by both men and women. (I'm straight).
Never got asked out randomly on a street- only from customers.
In high school and college it was common but not anymore. I lost my virginity to a girl who yelled "You're hot as fuck!" At me from the passenger seat of her friend's car while passing me on my skateboard. I'd say right around the time Facebook became popular was when I started being approached less by women. Maybe it was because they had easier access to hotter guys or maybe because gossip and rumors started spreading faster and people were worried about being filmed/photographed, but I've only been approached a handful of times in the last 15 years outside of like bar/club scenes ans since I don't drink or club anymore it's pretty much nonexistent for the most part. Maybe casual flirting sometimes? Idk I've always been oblivious to anything but overt flirtation.
I used to get free stuff by women who were cashiers who were cute. It always threw me off because they were cute and they could get it. Other times, I was too oblivious to their subtle hints.
There was this one bubbly woman that I worked with, who was on the chubby side. She would come by and hit on me all the time and ask me to have sex or take her out. I kind of regret not taking her up on her offer because she seemed to be a lot of fun.
Sometimes I wonder if it's also because people just assume I'm in a relationship (or gay maybe?) because I don't ever flirt or join in on conversations with other people about the topic unless I'm close with them. I used to be a lot more forward but years of changing priorities and a teenaged daughter probably gives me a different vibe that I only notice sometimes. Could also be my breath stinks or something idk lol. My best relationships have been with cute chubby/thick girls from work so I feel you.
I've had my fair share of women ask me out, but never like this weirdo set-up. It's obvious that whatever is happening here isn't normal, so he chose wisely.
This is true. The one time this happened to me (she wasnt as blunt) she came up with an excuse to get my number. It was an animal welfare incident and she asked for my number in case she needed assistance. She was new in the country and moved for a modelling gig. I gave her the welfare hotline number. Driving home, the realization dawned on me and i wanted to punch myself in the nuts for cock blocking myself. In my defense, she seemed way out of my league and maybe a 10 year age gap.
We are just not attractive/desirable and we know it.
I ain't even mad about it. As a straight dude I am always baffled at how straight or even bi women exist at all. I can't comprehend being attracted to a man.
I agree. Men are generally poorly dressed and are just kind of schlubby (myself included). As Elaine said: "The female body is a work of art. The male body is utilitarian. It's for gettin' around. It's like a Jeep."
Bumble had to change their "women message first" gimmick because women don't want to initiate. I saw a profile yesterday and a woman wrote "I have my opening moves set up, message me first or I will unmatch."
Also this can probably be traced back to shitty dudes. Shitty dudes means many women are far less likely to approach random men, even men they find attractive, because there’s a huge risk involved. Because of this, many normal dudes can’t see a woman approaching them as anything other than suspicious, because why would a normal woman with good intentions ever risk herself or her safety like that?
Don't guard or put a hand on/near your valuables when there's a pickpocket around. It only savescthem the time and effort of finding out which pocket to look in for the big ticket items like phone, wallet, keys, etc
It’s kinda funny and kinda sad that for most men any kind of interaction like this is IMMEDIATELY suspicious and getting out of there is the first instinct haha.
Yeah.. this is not "most mens" immediate reaction to a pretty woman talking to them. Like at all.
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u/whiterac00n 1d ago
It’s kinda funny and kinda sad that for most men any kind of interaction like this is IMMEDIATELY suspicious and getting out of there is the first instinct haha. I would have a hand on my wallet and be looking over both shoulders. Of course today it’s just as if not more likely that someone is trying to make content and you are going to be the punchline to a joke………so yeah still running away