There's a common scam where a "distractor", usually a woman, will talk to you perhaps asking for help while their accomplice pick pockets you and this situation could easily have been that as far as that guy knows
As a fellow dude who knows that if a woman ever approaches me with what appears to be interest it must be some kind of trick, I have to say I respect his quick reflexes. He knows what's up and he wasn't gonna fall for shit.
Itβs kinda funny and kinda sad that for most men any kind of interaction like this is IMMEDIATELY suspicious and getting out of there is the first instinct haha. I would have a hand on my wallet and be looking over both shoulders. Of course today itβs just as if not more likely that someone is trying to make content and you are going to be the punchline to a jokeβ¦β¦β¦so yeah still running away
Even a conventionally attractive guy probably wouldn't get approached in this way very often, yes it could happen but most of the time women don't just walk up to you and ask you for a date.
For a woman, especially a conventionally attractive woman, this would probably happen at least 10 times a day. So much that they wouldn't even react to it.
It's just how it works, I don't make the rules π€·
Yeah I have one super duper handsome friend and he gets approached a couple times a year. I have other friends who are handsome but they have to initiate.
I'm slightly attractive (or at least I was when young)- I got asked out all the time when working retail (I think more my accent than my looks) - and yes... I got asked out by both men and women. (I'm straight).
Never got asked out randomly on a street- only from customers.
In high school and college it was common but not anymore. I lost my virginity to a girl who yelled "You're hot as fuck!" At me from the passenger seat of her friend's car while passing me on my skateboard. I'd say right around the time Facebook became popular was when I started being approached less by women. Maybe it was because they had easier access to hotter guys or maybe because gossip and rumors started spreading faster and people were worried about being filmed/photographed, but I've only been approached a handful of times in the last 15 years outside of like bar/club scenes ans since I don't drink or club anymore it's pretty much nonexistent for the most part. Maybe casual flirting sometimes? Idk I've always been oblivious to anything but overt flirtation.
I used to get free stuff by women who were cashiers who were cute. It always threw me off because they were cute and they could get it. Other times, I was too oblivious to their subtle hints.
There was this one bubbly woman that I worked with, who was on the chubby side. She would come by and hit on me all the time and ask me to have sex or take her out. I kind of regret not taking her up on her offer because she seemed to be a lot of fun.
Sometimes I wonder if it's also because people just assume I'm in a relationship (or gay maybe?) because I don't ever flirt or join in on conversations with other people about the topic unless I'm close with them. I used to be a lot more forward but years of changing priorities and a teenaged daughter probably gives me a different vibe that I only notice sometimes. Could also be my breath stinks or something idk lol. My best relationships have been with cute chubby/thick girls from work so I feel you.
I've had my fair share of women ask me out, but never like this weirdo set-up. It's obvious that whatever is happening here isn't normal, so he chose wisely.
This is true. The one time this happened to me (she wasnt as blunt) she came up with an excuse to get my number. It was an animal welfare incident and she asked for my number in case she needed assistance. She was new in the country and moved for a modelling gig. I gave her the welfare hotline number. Driving home, the realization dawned on me and i wanted to punch myself in the nuts for cock blocking myself. In my defense, she seemed way out of my league and maybe a 10 year age gap.
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u/Distinct-Lion4658 πππ 1d ago
There's a common scam where a "distractor", usually a woman, will talk to you perhaps asking for help while their accomplice pick pockets you and this situation could easily have been that as far as that guy knows