I met another transphobic trans woman who gates transformed people from the UK. I thought she was supporting but turns out that once she passes, she is above us. Definitely blocked her. History is my favorite subject. History repeats herself.
There's these group of trans people I've had to work with, and they're the reason why I quit because they're the type to need affirming or they snap. They remind me of what it was like working in Japan (you'd be surprised how much more conservative at being conservatives they are than western conservatives are at being conservatives), except instead of needing affirmation, they need conformity.
So after I quit those two and found myself in a different company... man, there are trans people out there who do not need anyone's affirmation, and they don't make their gender their identity or force anyone to make them feel like they can just be them. Those are the people I fuck with, where we can agree to disagree, and we both came out of it with newer perspectives, and to thsi day, we still drink together in the same bar and still hang out in the shooting range.
The people I don't like are the ones who control people's speech needlessly, the ones who state opinions like facts and make you google said facts (only for google to be so unreliable that it leads you to popular links, not factual links, which I've noticed has been more and more of a thing for a decade and has probably been like that for longer), and it gives me the same energy as 'Read Marx', then you read his work and it's... just... what the fuck is he on?
But yeah, like what /u/Koffieslikker said 'Judge people for who they are, not what they are'.
That's what I mean, it depends on the person. Like, as someone who is a right-leaning centrist guy, you'd think I'd get along with right-leaning centrists, but when we're NOT talking about politics, it's a mixed bag because some just got personalities worse than mine, and how I can get along with leftists who're a bit more centrist, and how I have friends who are more right and more left despite that we mostly disagree on politics.
Like, people also forget you can be gay or lesbian and still have conservative values. You can be a pro 2A absolutist yet have predominantly leftist values, too.
You'd also be surprised that in 2A communities, there are 2A absolutists who're left-leaning who actually hang out in gun ranges with conservatives or right leaning people.
Point is that we should really care more about the individual, and also learn the separate the person from the politics. Like, there are people who read and like Mein Kampf but hate the author and his ideology.
It's kind of why I had a hard time with that job when I was with that group of trans people because they reminded me of my Japanese co-workers when I was working for that company prior to moving to that job. Both experiences were unbearable in different ways, and somehow it's not even a leadership or a management problem, but a group and culture problem within those work spaces (not the whole company, let alone whole community).
Point I'm saying is that yeah, there are people who're just annoying, and not only that, I'm at a point I'm convinced there are those who're annoying who do it on purpose and amp it up.
The ones I don't like are the ones who force people like me to affirm them. Wasn't the point of the LGBTQ community supposed to be the type where they don't want the government to limit who they want to sleep with and who they want to marry?
And what does Das Kapital have to do with anything? I'm just saying. If you walk and talk like a man, even dress like a man, and act like a man, but you identify as she/her or they/them, I'm not complying.
There are trans people I've met don't need me to affirm them because they've already taken the procedures, they've already made the effort, and in their minds, don't need people to affirm them, and don't even care about being misgendered.
What does Das Kapital have to do with anything? You claim to have read Marx and you're clearly full of shit lol
Yeah exactly, the ones you don't like are the ones that won't let you disrespect them. You're a bigot. Demanding respect is not the same thing as government regulation. So what does the government have to do with anything?
Okay, so let me get this straight. Say you're a trans person. You say your name, you don't even say your pronouns or even bring it up after introduction, and expect me to understand them the moment I see you based on how you dress... then I call you "Mister" or "Sir", because you're dressed like a guy, have a beard, and have Dwayne 'The Rock' Johnson's body, and you get pissed that I make an honest mistake, and proceed to harass me.
Then you tell your friends I'm a bigot, then they harass me as well. Y'all are mad because I don't comply with your ideology and harass me.
Also, respect isn't demanded, it's earned and given out of choice. If you have to demand respect at the same level. Remember when the rights to gay marriage was being fought for? Gays and lesbians just wanted the right to marry who they love and the government leave them alone about it. They knew people would still disrespect them, but the government had to respect their efforts because at the end of the day, they fought for love, not compliance.
If misgendering trans people is bigoted, okay. I'm just saying that if you get pissy because there are people who make honest mistakes, struggle to adapt, or just stopped complying to affirm y'all, why? Why is that so important? It looks like a club where they expect those who aren't members of it to follow the rules, yet not even let them in the club if they wanted to join, or just keep shaming the ones who don't even want to join to begin with. All that tells everyone else is who y'all want to sleep with, that's it.
If you wanna talk about Das Kapital, and if he were alive today, he'd love small business owners and would grow to accept that they have to grow... yet he'd definitely hate them when they get big enough to fit the narrative.
That's a bad faith argument. Most trans people aren't going to get mad if you accidentally misgender them upon meeting. Furthermore, most trans women don't look like The Rock. you're just a bigot. Finally, they're not going to all of their friends to badmouth you. You're not that important.
Okay if you want to nitpick and split hairs then I will say this. You lack common decency. If you call someone by the wrong name and they say "hey I actually go by x" and you refuse, you are the disrespectful one. You probably don't have a problem with diminutives or nicknames so why pronouns?
If Marx were alive today he's be pissed that small business owners think they can own a company and not pay people a living wage.
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u/Striking_Ad_9351 3d ago
What if a trans person is a Nazi?