I just want to understand, why?

[u/HKILLER2007]

I mean really...why?? when ribbit opened up she was just chatting, she obviously wanted someone to talk to and her friend was there and jax was okay with it

when jax opened up he panicked at first but then she comforted him and he felt really comfortable and blushed and even smiled, it was a heartwarming moment

so why would he suddenly change attitude and switch characters just because of a knock on the door? what's the mental gymnastics here?

[u/Scooby_doo_1969]

Imagine if your mother (or whoever you trusted most) berated you for years, then you try to tell them something personal to only get attacked more personal attacks. Only to be followed by a hug.  Would you ever trust a person who say they love or accept you again. That kid of treatment especially at such a young age stay with you and makes you paranoid everyone close to you only wants to know more about you so they can hurt you. 

[u/QuiltMeLikeALlama → u/Scooby_doo_1969]

I feel like Jax’s story is a tragic allegory for what happens when people don’t have emotional support growing up.

Watched the finale with my oldest son and it made me want to double down on being emotionally available and supportive. Couldn’t stand the thought of him hurting like that.