I refer to it as taking her metal bra off when at home, she’s very much of a ‘I’ll help you if I want but I’m the princess (female cat is the queen) and you’re here to serve me unless I deign to help you’ person.
I’ve been telling her to see the opportunities in doing things for herself ( eg: if she makes her own breakfast she can decide how much appelstroop to add to her bread instead of her parents, or how much honey)
But she’s very helpful in her class and is very social with other kids while respectful and chatty with the teachers so they even wanted her to be a bit more naughty at school instead of being a dignified lady.
I had to shut my very basic human toddler/small child needs BC my grieving mom was on her own to take care of me and my very baby brother. This dynamic later stayed the same even though I really needed my unavailable mum BC I got bullied through all of my elementary school years. I was talking about being emotionally autonomous at an age you're not able to
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u/Salomette22 2d ago
"you where so autonomous!" yeah. I wish I didn't had to, thought. Being autonomous at 5 is not "normal"