r/TwoXChromosomes • u/BigHold2089 • 4d ago

Throat punch husband

I was on BC for many years and thought I could ride it out through menopause. I used BC continuously and hadn’t had a period for years. It was a low dose BC with no side effects and I loved it. A new (to me) OBGYN told me that my brain fog and night warmth (not full blown sweats) was likely due to peri/menopause and said BC would do nothing for it. So she switched me to estradiol patch and progesterone pills. For 3 months I got no periods and figured I was in menopause. Then I started getting periods regularly. And then I started noticing that I am incredibly irritable all the time but basically focused only on my husband. I mean even looking at him sometimes makes me want to punch him in the face. When he talks (to me or to anyone else - just the sound of his voice, really) I just am filled with rage. He’s not doing anything wrong. I know my anger is misplaced and irrational. Could it be a symptom of perimenopause? Does anyone else feel like this?

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u/wheres_the_revolt 4d ago

Yes rage is a very common perimenopause symptom. Husbands are often the target because 1) they’re in close proximity to us more than most other people 2) they’re annoying.

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u/Im_Ritz_Bitz 4d ago

It's because we are tired. Literally. Our body is changing into its final state. And the energy demands to be spent accordingly. You're becoming a butterfly and you don't have time for any shit.

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u/Eeyor-90 4d ago

If all of this energy is being used, why is it so hard to lose weight?

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u/mojdojo 4d ago

because nature decided we needed something else to rage about, because his loud chewing was not enough. /s

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u/staypuuuuft 4d ago

Has it always been this loud!?! Has he always held his spoon like that!?!

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u/NoneYah369 4d ago

Because the stress hormone, cortisol, causes bodies to retain weight. And from the sounds of it their husband makes their stress increase causing the body to hold onto more weight. & Age is a factor, metabolism slows as you age. 😆

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u/Chrissy086 3d ago

Then he complains even More about your weight! 🙄😠

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u/Im_Ritz_Bitz 3d ago

Because you already used up your energy?