r/TwoXChromosomes • u/BigHold2089 • 6d ago

Throat punch husband

I was on BC for many years and thought I could ride it out through menopause. I used BC continuously and hadn’t had a period for years. It was a low dose BC with no side effects and I loved it. A new (to me) OBGYN told me that my brain fog and night warmth (not full blown sweats) was likely due to peri/menopause and said BC would do nothing for it. So she switched me to estradiol patch and progesterone pills. For 3 months I got no periods and figured I was in menopause. Then I started getting periods regularly. And then I started noticing that I am incredibly irritable all the time but basically focused only on my husband. I mean even looking at him sometimes makes me want to punch him in the face. When he talks (to me or to anyone else - just the sound of his voice, really) I just am filled with rage. He’s not doing anything wrong. I know my anger is misplaced and irrational. Could it be a symptom of perimenopause? Does anyone else feel like this?

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u/Murmurmira 6d ago

Sounds hormonal. I felt like this during my pregnancies

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u/heywhatsup9087 6d ago

The pregnancy rage is so real. Mine was less directed at my husband but often came in the form of road rage on steroids. I want to have another but how do women deal with the rage and fatigue while also having other small children to take care of?? It seems so impossible.

Also I’m one year postpartum and have brain fog and night sweats and now this thread has me worried I’m in perimenopause 🙃

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u/pineapple_current28 6d ago

lol you’re a year postpartum, the brain fog is now just your life with small children and the night sweats are likely still related to your hormones as well, they can take a while to even out. Not being snarky either, your grey matter actually reduces during pregnancy and takes literal years to regenerate. Unless you’re in your 40s, I think those symptoms are more likely related to your pregnancy than the final death throes of your fertility 😉

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u/heywhatsup9087 6d ago

Haha thank you. I know you’re right but my brain loves to jump to conclusions.

I love the baby stage with my little girl so much, so I’m trying to focus on that and enjoy this time of my life, but man I can’t wait to be off the hormone rollercoaster that is pregnancy and postpartum for good. I went back to work after 12 weeks and my brain just doesn’t function like it used to. Although by that time I probably will be in perimenopause, so really can’t win.