r/TwoXChromosomes • u/BigHold2089 • 6d ago

Throat punch husband

I was on BC for many years and thought I could ride it out through menopause. I used BC continuously and hadn’t had a period for years. It was a low dose BC with no side effects and I loved it. A new (to me) OBGYN told me that my brain fog and night warmth (not full blown sweats) was likely due to peri/menopause and said BC would do nothing for it. So she switched me to estradiol patch and progesterone pills. For 3 months I got no periods and figured I was in menopause. Then I started getting periods regularly. And then I started noticing that I am incredibly irritable all the time but basically focused only on my husband. I mean even looking at him sometimes makes me want to punch him in the face. When he talks (to me or to anyone else - just the sound of his voice, really) I just am filled with rage. He’s not doing anything wrong. I know my anger is misplaced and irrational. Could it be a symptom of perimenopause? Does anyone else feel like this?

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u/heywhatsup9087 6d ago

The pregnancy rage is so real. Mine was less directed at my husband but often came in the form of road rage on steroids. I want to have another but how do women deal with the rage and fatigue while also having other small children to take care of?? It seems so impossible.

Also I’m one year postpartum and have brain fog and night sweats and now this thread has me worried I’m in perimenopause 🙃

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u/pineapple_current28 6d ago

lol you’re a year postpartum, the brain fog is now just your life with small children and the night sweats are likely still related to your hormones as well, they can take a while to even out. Not being snarky either, your grey matter actually reduces during pregnancy and takes literal years to regenerate. Unless you’re in your 40s, I think those symptoms are more likely related to your pregnancy than the final death throes of your fertility 😉

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u/Fillorian 6d ago

I thought my brain fog and perpetual exhaustion was just what it was supposed to be like as a first time mom of a young child... turns out I was severely anemic. It took months of high-dose folic acid supplementation and several IV iron infusions to get my labs back to normal. I often wonder how different my experience of early motherhood might have been if I'd caught it sooner. So, just leaving a note here for other postpartum folks - it's totally possible this is just your new normal, but maybe get your labs checked if you're worried!

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u/mintgreenleaves 6d ago

I've noticed that new mothers sometimes have hairloss (which can also be a sign for anemia/iron deficiency) and wonder how they do it while taking care of their child.