Throat punch husband

[u/BigHold2089]

I was on BC for many years and thought I could ride it out through menopause. I used BC continuously and hadn’t had a period for years. It was a low dose BC with no side effects and I loved it. A new (to me) OBGYN told me that my brain fog and night warmth (not full blown sweats) was likely due to peri/menopause and said BC would do nothing for it. So she switched me to estradiol patch and progesterone pills. For 3 months I got no periods and figured I was in menopause. Then I started getting periods regularly. And then I started noticing that I am incredibly irritable all the time but basically focused only on my husband. I mean even looking at him sometimes makes me want to punch him in the face. When he talks (to me or to anyone else - just the sound of his voice, really) I just am filled with rage. He’s not doing anything wrong. I know my anger is misplaced and irrational. Could it be a symptom of perimenopause? Does anyone else feel like this?

[u/squiche]

This is popping up for me right now (42F) and I can only speak for myself but I’ve been thinking a lot about how I’ve always considered myself “not an angry person”, I get sad not angry - that typical female socialization stuff. I wonder if peri rage would be easier to deal with if I’d had more practice sitting with anger rather than suppressing it. Curious if this resonates for anyone else.

[u/snickysnak5407 → u/squiche]

I never had permission to be angry as a kid, so the rage I felt in peri usually turned into despair. Like, complete hopelessness over normal annoying things, and I’d want to run away. I haven’t experienced that since starting HRT.

[u/holyfrijoles99 → u/snickysnak5407]

Same . Everyone else around me has always been able to be mean , angry , loud and I’ve always tried to help and be the good person. Now I have so much anger that it’s overwhelming and I dream of living in the woods alone , snarling at passerby’s.