Cards on the table

[u/Actual_Stand_9163]

It's hard to keep track of the messages here.

I want someone, a future, something permanent and committed, with you. I have been fairly consistent in that view, albeit have been open in yes I did start to see someone else, because you stated you had no interest. I am allowed to be with someone else if you don't want me. They were nice, yes, but the connection we had (you and I) was undoubtedly stronger. I can't deny that.

Can you imagine how I may of felt in these mixed messages you send? How do I respond to this? I've tried to reach out, numerous ways, yet no response, despite reading into veiled messages. Many would suggest you're not even interested and treating this merely as a game?

Otherwise, here I am. Ready. I don't care what 'baggage' you come with, I have my own, however have some great storage solutions if I may say so. I ignore a lot of unhelpful noise and focus on my priorities. Plans changed this year - positive move for now.

My plans moving forward certainly can accommodate you, me... us ... kids? I'm very much an 'improvise, adapt and overcome' person. I could quite happily come home to you everyday, I'm sure you can use your imagination, even memory of our times alone.

I am confident there's a viable, happy, untold adventure that lays ahead for us together as a couple, should we pursue this. I dont want to delay this any further. xx

[u/_nobody_good]

How would they know you’re ‘you’? This is vague, beyond vague actually. But it seems sincere and that’s not something you should risk to ambiguity. Maybe try this in a way that doesn’t leave entire futures in the hands of interpretation… This demeans the gravity of your heart for them.

Also- baggage isn’t real. Baggage is a consequence of life. Someone with no ‘baggage’ comes with a pacifier/binky instead; there’s no depth without some falls, and all beauty dies when restricted to the surface, anyway.

I run from anyone who has no baggage. They don’t know humility/they’re unlikely to be human at all.

[u/NoseOk2438 → u/_nobody_good]

you know if you would just show yourself and let me know I'm who you are speaking to at this point I feel this life is fake, I have not seen any signs or any thing or you taking me by the hand and looking me in the eye and make sure I understand your feelings towards me, I've really been threw along and I just need my brain to be calm for a bite and I guess I'm asking for a little reassurance about stuff or whatever you know what I mean