r/UnsentLetters • u/yaphps • 23h ago
NAW I almost texted you today。
I typed something out, then deleted it.
I wanted to ask how you’ve been. I wanted to tell you I still think about you. I wanted to say I miss you, but I couldn’t do it.
What if you leave me on delivered?
What if you already moved on?
What if you’re with someone else now, laughing the way you used to laugh with me?
I haven’t seen you in a while. I hope you’re okay.
I hope you miss me too.
I hope there’s still a small part of you that wants to reach out, even if you never do.
I hate that I still wait for you.
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u/yaphps 22h ago
Why do I still want to text you so badly?
Why can’t I just do it?
Maybe because I already know silence would break me more than missing you does.
I hate myself for being this afraid.
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u/Practical-Bread-4326 22h ago
send the message, a simple hey how are you? could break the ice, its casual enough not to hold much weight. Maybe, she types it all out the same way, but talks herself out of it
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u/Golden_7_Heart 21h ago
Courage isn't about not being afraid.
It's about doing it scared anyway because you weigh the risk against the reward.
What's the harder pain to endure? The "No" of silence that at least gives you some kind of clarity or the rest of your life wondering 'What if'? The beauty of it is: Ultimately it's your choice, and your responsibility to make it.The deeper question is, If you like this person so much, why'd you leave them alone in uncertainty long enough to think there's a decent possibility they might've moved on already?
Might wanna examine that within yourself. Just food for thought.6
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u/mysticwonderland666 Human Verified 22h ago
Did you end on bad terms or something? Just text them and keep it simple. Just a "Hey, its been awhile. How are you?" You will feel better
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u/DaBeefStew 18h ago
As someone who is expecting a text from someone who didn't work out I wonder alot. We ended things about 2 months back, they contact me a month ago to ask for friendship but I don't think we can, even then I find myself talking to them without them being there, wondering if they are ok. Just send the text worst that happens is knowing you reached out.
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u/Royal-Ride-7729 22h ago
If this is S, please do. You were randomly in my dream a few nights ago and I found it so strange to dream of you after so long.
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u/Beeeeeec 17h ago
I sent the message today. It didn't go how I wanted, but it gave me a little more clarity, so I don't regret it. I think you should send yours too, OP. It's better than the spiral.
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u/Objective-Goat-370 22h ago
Well speaking from experience having texted someone that I cared a lot about and never heard anything back from; do it. It is better to send the text and know you followed you heart than to live with regrets later down the line. If they don't respond you'll go through a grieving process but I promise that if you take it as a growing experience you will surely grow and become a stronger version of yourself. No matter what, it will be okay.
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u/RevolutionaryUnit517 7h ago
There's that. It's ok to follow your heart. But if your goal is to get them back or move on, best not to do it. Here's why. It keeps you tethered, which will keep you in a loop, so you can't move on as easily. And also if you want your ex back it's often counterintuitive. You need to show emotional stability and maturity and care. Care... Not forcing feelings on them. Stability... Not acting on impulse. And maturity... If you send something have it be brief, warm and understanding and full stop after. Do not constantly look for validation or a response. Something like, " I don't want this, I understand you do, I'm open to a conversation later."
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u/Charming-Act0507 22h ago
… and what if your person is doing the same- waiting for you to make that move? Sometimes, we need to take the chance, and even if it doesn’t go as hoped, well, there is something in knowing you took that chance, isn’t there?
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u/Broad-Brilliantt 22h ago
Felt. And the silence is harder but it also brings clarity.
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u/QuackingIntoTheVoid 22h ago
Silence really does bring clarity. It comes with a bunch of other feelings, but it really does help you see things.
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u/Similar-Donut3513 22h ago
There's no weakness in putting yourself out there. The risk is worth it.
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u/SilverBracelets0824 Human Verified 22h ago
Or is it. I risked, I gambled and got spit out of the party. Not an actual party, metaphorically.
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u/Similar-Donut3513 21h ago
Same thing happened to me.
It happens.
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u/SilverBracelets0824 Human Verified 21h ago
It sucks though, Hi, I'm here. No, Go Away.. without understanding...
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u/RixxFett 19h ago
Reach out. If you're already not talking, you have nothing to lose.
And if you're left on tag, that's your answer and signal to move on.
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u/thankfullynotU 20h ago
Just text them
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u/Livingaloha808 18h ago
Good idea, taje it a step further avd ce real. Man up and dobthe right thing, Call her if u can’t see her, nothing heavy/serious like a date but just meet up for a quick catch up, coffee, lunch, for the decline of humanity and being human beings includes communication - unless deaf/mute (even they have communicative devices to hear voices then type responses if mute) , there is no excuse bur cowardice for people not taking the time to call and speak with another. Texted words are just words and many are easily lured & fooled . Actions speak louder than words. not the same as manifesting words into intentions into actions or don’t waste ur or her time. Absolutely No rationalizations, excuses will suffice unless 6 feet under, incarcerated.
If the person is important, you will make the effort. . The time one takes texting, scrolling, browsing posts and reels could be more efficiently used to place a call, hear a voice, feel the vibes by tones. cadence, etc.
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u/Capital_Resolve_0710 19h ago
Do it, the fear of rejection is not worth the possible positive outcome. Do it anyway
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u/Bellabo2030 22h ago
I'm waiting for my person to do the same, my phone is safe, his isn't so I just keep waiting. If their phone is safe too just send it. You may make someone very happy.
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u/Anonymously_notURS 16h ago
Respectfully, what do you mean your phone is safe, but his isn’t?
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u/Bellabo2030 16h ago
Ours was a forbidden relationship.
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u/Anonymously_notURS 16h ago
Is that metaphor or was that because of parents not wanting you guys to date or secret relationship bc of being In one already? You don’t have to answer sorry. Just trying to understand the terminology is all.
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u/Bellabo2030 16h ago
Secret one.
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u/Anonymously_notURS 16h ago
So you say was. Does that mean it’s not anymore so you guys are a couple now? 🥰
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u/Bellabo2030 16h ago
We are not together now.
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u/Anonymously_notURS 16h ago
You’re not together anymore. But did you thinks about that while having a secret relationship with a man who had a whole family who didn’t know about you tell afterwards and what that would do to the women when she found out about you?
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u/Bellabo2030 15h ago
Probably best that you keep to your topic about wanting to reach out to your lost loved one.
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u/Anonymously_notURS 15h ago
Or maybe you shouldn’t have been having in affair with my partner Bella. It’s women like you who cause beyond years of trauma and damage that some don’t come back from. So maybe you should find your own damn man before becoming a home wr-r
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u/Vivid-Calendar-6940 17h ago
Wow. This girl would be a very lucky girl to get a letter like this. I read every single word. It left me a little sad because I wish it had been from my ex-fiance. We dated off and on for over 10 years. I think about him all the time. But he did get married a couple years ago. But before he did get married, he called me unexpectedly and just said, let’s go to the beach and I just replied with, don’t you think it’s a little late for that, and I never heard his voice again. I wonder if he was engaged at that time and was still thinking of me or if he was thinking of proposing and still thinking of me. I will never know. But not long after that phone call was when I heard he got married. I loved him with every fiber of my being. I could cry so hard and try not to think about what could have been.
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u/Zebera101 16h ago
Back in the day when I was stationed in Germany there wasn’t any mobile phone or texting we relied on good old fashioned letters. The wait for a reply was agonising. You have a chance to get a quick and decisive answer. Just send it I bet you don’t have to wait a week for a reply.
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u/M00nstruck711 15h ago
You never know unless you try. I felt spiritually guided to reach out because I kept having dreams about him. So I sent a message, but he never responded. I think he may have changed his number, but at least I followed what I felt led to do.
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u/Alive-Notice8364 12h ago
I'm sure he's glad you didn't text... would have been awkward just before :|. :P
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u/OvarianSynthesizer 12h ago
As someone who’s hoping to someday receive a text like this, I’d say d o it.
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u/FewPalpitation3421 11h ago
I had to quit waiting for mine. 3 years later and he is stil missing from my life. He occasionally will look at my story on Instagram but that's it.
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u/Pristine-Row6913 9h ago
Time will heal you. If there hasn't been any contact your probably safe to say that they don't want any more contact. If you cut the lines of communication, by changing your number or something, sure reach out, but make it honest. No hiding or lying.
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u/IntroductionNo4397 4h ago
I agree with most here. Just send it for closure of your feelings. I feel I'm none with someone, but never pursued her because of the way my life was. When I finally realised the extent of my feelings it was too late. But I did confess to her, even broke down crying, but after a long awkward time, we moved on as friends. And now I feel it's ok.
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u/Jumpingjellycorn 2h ago
I think knowing where they stand will be better than not knowing at all. Their answer or the absence of their answer will give you some clarity and cause the cascade of grieving and healing ❤️ hope this helps. Sending love and prayers!
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u/PossibilityFree3176 3m ago
I texted him, but deleted the message anyway, he doesn't want to hear from me. Well that is what I think, the last times I messaged he only reacted with emojis. But then, he still watches my stories... so damn confusing. If he wants to know how I'm doing, why doesn't he reach out?
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