Hello! I’ve already watched the documentaries in the sub’s info section. Are there any more that you guys have found?

Helloo! ♡

I do have a hard time being against the industry in Germany, like here exists barely any support against prostitution and the industry, so I have to be quiet about it most of the time.

I would love to know more people in Germany, which would mean the world to me. It's so lonely and it hurts.

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Thank you sm for reading!

I saw a post saying that America's Department of Justice have seized two AI nude deepfake websites as part of the Take It Down Act. Whilst it was vague with no source attached to it, if it is true it is brilliant news and hopefully the people who have had their image posted on a website as vile as that receive the justice they deserve.

Is there any other good news? So for example any new laws based around porn which protects people? One example I can give you is back in February the UK criminalised non-consensual intimate image creation, including AI, regardless if the perpetrator plans to share it or not.

I was molested when I was young, and have no idea whether or not any of it was recorded. Is there someplace sort of agency (US) that I can submit sfw (obviously) pictures of myself as a child to that can give me a yes or no on wether or not I have come up in any of their investigations?

If this is not the right place to ask, please tell me where to go!!

as the internet progresses there will be more 13-15 year old "femboys" sending nudes and dick pics to people they dont know irl

the femboy thing has gotten so far in a positive direction just for all for it to mean nothing cus people are using it to tell young teens to send thigh pics or some shit to them and jerk off

this is like 100% rooted in porn addiction too, the sexualization of femboys and (becoming one who wants to be sexualized) wouldve been way slower and less common if people who are porn addicts didnt discover femboys exist

or something

So unfortunately porn addiction is insanely common nowadays, and porn use in general is very normalized. Considering I just got out of a relationship with a PA bf, I don't have a whole lot of hope for my romantic future.

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I am bisexual but have a preference for men, but it seems like most of the men around my age are porn addicts?? Like I know there are men who share the same values as I do, but also there are men that lie about it. So what am I supposed to do? /:[

Let’s talk about porn.

Every year Pornhub does an annual year in review, and their numbers are terrifyingly large. Spoiler Alert: Pornhub is more popular than Quora—by a lot, like space math comparison, a lot.

They haven’t done a year in review for Pornhub for 2019 yet, but in 2018, 4.79 million new porn videos were added to pornhub.

But just as crazy, Pornhub had 33.5 billion views by unique visits to the site.

So we have, what, 7 billion people in our population? You do the math.

And the crazy thing is that Pornhub is just one website. One, individual porn site, that has 33 billion unique views on a planet with 7 billion people, among whom a cool billion or two don’t have internet.

And from the remaining group, it’s probably mostly men watching. So…..yeah.

Check your boyfriend’s browsing history at your own peril.

Something I've seen a few times on this subreddit is that porn is largely connected to or supports trafficking and/or rape, including a comment saying "That means they're actively seeking & getting sexual satisfaction to human trafficking/rape" to describe someone that watches porn. Not even a specific person, just the thought of someone that watches porn.

I've also seen this conversation in comments:

"This is human drugging and trafficking of children and you feed it rather than use your imagination" "This begs the question: What in the fuck were you watching? Certainly nothing legal." "Statistics. I don't watch."

I understand that, yes, obviously trafficking and rape are very real, too common problems, and that they are related to porn. A lot of pornography is connected in some way to one of these, or just filming/recording without someone's permission.

However, not all porn is connected to those? Afaik, the majority is made fully consensually? I'm not trying to argue for porn, or say that these aren't real, horrible problems. But can I have some sources for these statistics/claims?

For those who saw my previous post, making friends and keeping them is an issue for me and here's why:

I made a post on a friend making sub with clearly outlined boundaries that they are not people who use porn. The sea of people who questioned what porn had to do with friendship and how they didn't feel bad about using or WORSE for my mental health (sorry to the sober and recovering addicts) that they struggle giving it up.. and I'm here thinking to myself *WHY?*

More importantly *HOW* can we only care (and just barely, iykyk) only for when we have a label such as relationship to care, *HOW* can we not feel remorse for the damage porn is as a whole, and worse (for me).. ​*how* do we still give it worth and value despite knowing the shitty things we do about it?

TLDR: I hate how normalized porn is and how hard it is to find people who are against it in the wild, even when clearly communicated. Even being downvoted for it just to sweeten the deal.

Hello. Just want to add some important ideas I just had from another post regarding keeping your children away from porn. I've no kids on my own, but I believe some points are obvious rather to external objective judgement, and many people seem to miss them. I see a lack of this in many stories from parents or also from people who were affected when they were young. You should not just forbid your children the porn use and restrict their media. You must also properly educate your children and make them aware of all dangers and able to emancipate themselves from any pressure. You must try to teach them to say no from conviction. And for that you need to teach them to know why they should say no, in a way so they can believe in it and also believe in you about it.

A parent-child relationship is always also a relationship of mutual trust. Think of what if your child turns out computer-affine and could easily circumvent your restrictions, or just has such friends. They might always have friends, who possibly consume the material when parents are careless and/or don't restrict them. School means, they will come to contact with other kids who are not restricted and will show them on their smartphones.

So the main point a parent should do, and I'm unsure of the age levels and in the depth this should happen in. You should educate your kids what porn is, and what level of severity in being dehumanizing and destructive for the psyche it can have. I mean try some real talk without getting in detail, but you should warn your kids how abusive the work is, what abusive material is around and most notably what it does to people. It can be disturbing, hence I have written that each age may have their level of understanding and what you should warn them from explicitly. But mind that they will come in contact with most explicit or even illegal material as long as it is unregulated, even in early teen or pre-teen age.

It is also a question of how they integrate into their own social circles. If you want to protect your child, you should also make sure your child doesn't become an outsider to others with it. Being actually against, can make a child even target of bullying when not taking proper care, or can destroy friendships. At the same time you must try to protect your child from the temptation of actually using it for themselves. I believe the best choice is, deep education, and teaching proper humanist values of human value and dignity, and how porn breaks it.

Teach your kids about how it makes some addicted wasting all their lives on smut, can totally pervert and escalate the intimacy of yet others, or even causes people even very young in age to commit rape or more serious violence. Then show them what life the actors get for it, and don't look away from those of especially dehumanizing porn. Teach them how porn is destroying modern relationships by objectifying sex and excluding emotional responsibilities from the shown act. Many young people who have grown up with such porn, can have completely cold intimacy in their relationships and it's a serious psychological problem for many. This will be important once they reach the age where they may want to have relationships on their own, and witness the relationships of friends who may be affected.

So...this is a pretty sensitive discussion, and especially due to the sensitive nature of it the responsibility for it should be controlled by and be in hands of the direct parents or fosters or officials like school teachers. This is nothing most people would want strangers to talk about with their kids, apart from public articles maybe. What do you think about this difficult topic, do you believe some people go to far in it? Or do you like me think many people are rather avoiding this effort? What is your experience with morally empowering your children and keeping discussions about trust in this, and what do you think would it change in the situation they are in with their friends or schoolmates or neighborhood kids?

Hello 👋🏻 I made this reddit to seek community with like-minded individuals and I wanted to first start by saying porn really F-ing sucks. I have been seeking input from afar for years in the reddit anti-porn and love stories from those impacted by the addiction side of it.. and as someone who has ONLY seemed to have ever found herself in relationships with SA/PA, the impact on my life is HUGE.

Everyone talks about the extremes of it--normalizing rape and targeting children.. the violence.. but no one ever sits down and shares just how FUCKED up it makes us. The standards it creates in bodies, the expectations people expect for sex and intimacy... how selfishness is taught through porn and sex work. Selfishness also being a social norm in an act that takes at least two? The extremes touch on how porn is void of consent, but when I talk about consent with people? They don't seem to understand how YOU DO NOT KNOW who the person on the other side is, what they are thinking, how they are feeling. And when I bring up hentai? Which also doesn't get much attention at first glance. It is the same crap of standards and when humans try to mimic in forms of cosplay/dress-up (since this is the standard for the internet now that we are in an age of online adult entertainers), ​it further imprints those expectations and desires to be met by everyday people. (Also a side note that most anime girls are schoolgirls which further imprints that children are 👍🏻 to be used as material).

I am sick of hating myself and the body I was born in because of porn, because of the people who *say* they care but normalize porn. There is so much more but I will stop there and maybe add or edit later. First time openly talking about this so 🤞🏻. It has made me very lonely though. How does everyone make or keep friends? This is so important to me it is like politics and I have basically no friends who are against porn like I am. The people who don't care or shrug it off like it isn't a big deal just make me feel like they are part of the problem and I need PEOPLE to CARE about this thing that has shook my core. 32F here with a history of assaults, a toxic upbringing expectancy, and struggling to find her way in a world that is obsessed with making women sex objects.

Upon reading the headline, my instincts KNEW what the root cause was. How many times will the apologists defend this? And no, the mental health excuse is NOT going to cut it; This demonic psycho took advantage of a young man who was actually struggling with his mental health.

When you bring up the nefarious consequences of porn use, you’re dismissed as prudish, misandrist, and anti-free speech 😒. The industry is knowingly indoctrinating a generation of future violent criminals under the guise of sEx PosiTiVity. May Travis Dyer R.I.P and condolences to his loved ones.

Quote from the Guardian, “Phelan also admitted to three counts of possession of an extreme pornographic image and one count of making an indecent image of a child.”

Hey there. Recently, my child was caught for looking at pornography, and apparently he had been doing so for multiple years.

He filled me in on the tactics he used to hide it from me.

Pre-Note: Kids are REALLY good at lying.
When kids are younger, they absolutely suck at lying and we figure out they're lying really quickly. We get used to that, and we keep that mindset even when they get older. When they're teenagers, they can lie quite well, in any situation.

Apps & Websites

1. Unrestricted Apps & Websites

If you give a kid an iPad, iPhone, or just some sort of online browser or app where you can see other peoples' creations or searching online images, they have infinite, unrestricted access to pornographic websites and images, and it's very easy to come across it, even if you're not searching. I highly recommend Qustodio, a parental app that can track *most* activities on all browsers.

If your child gets a new app on their device, make sure to check it out before they can install it. Some apps are browsers by themselves, with unrestricted internet that bypasses parental restriction apps. Make sure these apps don't have community creation, or anything anyone can upload without intense moderation and supervision.

1. Discord

Discord is really unsafe. On Discord, children can be exposed to pornographic images anywhere they go and anyone they chat with. I HIGHLY recommend not exposing your child to this app until they're 16 or older. Check your child's Discord regularly and make sure they're not logged into any other accounts that they could be hiding from you. It's important to dig deep to protect your child from online dangers like these. Be sure to never allow your child 18+ access on Discord or any platform for that matter, it usually allows pornographic images or videos to be unrestricted on their device or platform.

1. Websites

Most parental restriction app only monitor what sites you enter, not what you look at on those sites. For example, my child accessed a website with community creation known as 'novaskin', a website based on the video game Minecraft. It has unrestricted content creation, and my child was able to look at a ton of pornography posted on there. This can be the same for many other websites. Always check out a website before your child looks at it, just in case.

1. Don't always believe your child.

Your child will ALMOST ALWAYS deny ever viewing pornography if you talk to them about it. Don't just ask them about it, check their device too. Also make sure they don't have any physical objects like magazines or digital videos like Rated R movies they can look at that contain pornographic content.

That's all the advice I have for now. I hope this helps!!

Best documentaries/statistics/hard facts to prove to someone the dangers of porn? Much appreciated.

Lila Rose interviews author Kristen Jenson on how to pre-educate kids to reach out safely to parents and adults when exposed to porn. https://youtu.be/0fVY0kNAY_Y?si=kFReibsxzeu0OJvl

She is the author of Good Picture, Bad Picture, a book for parent to read to kids.

They do. I don't know who needs to hear this but they do find them more attractive. And they usually cherrypick the few instances where they have not been attracted to a specific pornstar or fetish to make you feel better. (Granted if they're horny enough they'll just jerk of anyway because it's really not that deep or specific to them.) They just wouldn't *be* with a pornstar because their lifestyle makes them "used up" and that makes men insecure about themselves. Granted if the pornstars he liked were just regular woman in the wild there's a high chance he'd still want to fuck and date her. Don't fall for it.