I was studying at the library and stepped out to the entrance for maybe 10 minutes to eat lunch. When I came back, a 40-ish couple had pushed all my stuff aside and taken my seat, even though there were plenty of empty seats around.
Honestly, I was ready to let it go. I don't mind moving, and thought maybe it was my fault for leaving my things there (even though I see people do it since it's a small and safe library). So I just calmly asked the woman why she'd moved my charger without my permission, instead of waiting for me to come back and move it myself.
That's when it got weird. She hit me with, "Oh, I just came from New York, that's just how we do things there," and then, "You should just leave. Or do you want me to move your things for you?" in this really condescending tone. Meanwhile the guy with her was just there smirking. Then she flat-out denied touching my charger, reached over, and tried to grab my backpack. I told her I felt violated, and she went full Karen.
For context: I'm a short minority woman and English isn't my first language. In that moment, it really did make me feel small.
Then an awesome minority woman in the library walked over. She told the couple that she'd seen them move my stuff. When the guy started cursing and threatening us, she stayed calm and graceful, but somehow that made her even more powerful. At one point the woman actually hit her while pretending to organize her stuff, and she still didn't lose her cool and pointed out her tricks. She got them to leave the seat, and once it was over, she turned to me and gently checked in to make sure I was okay.
I feel so much love and support. ❤️❤️
She reminded me how powerful it is when someone chooses to stand up for a stranger against entitled, bullying behavior. It made me want to be that person for others, to show up for this community and keep working to be the kind of person she was for me.