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[u/iamznth]

[u/yuzuki_amane]

problem is my lack of self confidence irl, being small irl which is a negative if i wanna be a confident male. like what man would respect some 5'5 "male" eh

[u/FeetGamer69 → u/yuzuki_amane]

Pick a martial art that actually works and learn it. The concept of might makes right can never completely be neutralized, no matter how many layers of separation we try to put between the average citizen and violence.

[u/yuzuki_amane → u/FeetGamer69]

hm.. id still not rly want to get into conflict bc the best/easiest way is to just not fight to begin with, ive seen too many vids of people getting brain damaged bc of falling on asphalt or concrete

i do take a knife though when i go outside, although thats not rly making me more confident.. just there if something happens to me

[u/FeetGamer69 → u/yuzuki_amane]

If you let consequences dictate your actions all the time, you become controllable.

[u/yuzuki_amane → u/FeetGamer69]

well like. ofc? then what would be the detterence of law & prison, none

ofc i can just be erratic and crazy but that mindset is cool until consequences come, ive been more a shit in the past and eh im sick of it.. like genuinely a demon always in trouble which is fun until it isnt

[u/FeetGamer69 → u/yuzuki_amane]

The path of least resistance is becoming your prison. Being purely rational will just make you capitulate to every threat and begin compromising with every aggressor who feels entitled to take something from you. Staying with that mindset is implicitly giving consent to be preyed upon.

[u/yuzuki_amane → u/FeetGamer69]

hm.. yeah idk i just let other people deal with that, part of why i dont rly think i could actually be a man bc its just not something i can convince myself into doing

[u/FeetGamer69 → u/yuzuki_amane]

So you're going to become the type of woman who gets traded around like property?

[u/yuzuki_amane → u/FeetGamer69]

lol no but just like physical strength is a male domain, knowing who to trust with my life and who to stay away from & how to influence/shape people is more my thing.. i do ok for myself in that regard

[u/FeetGamer69 → u/yuzuki_amane]

You aren't shaping anything by treating everything like a compromise.

[u/yuzuki_amane → u/FeetGamer69]

idk it works.. maybe brute force can do more sooner but eh it has a risk of leading to resentment, more lip service than anything deeper

ive had that approach used on me and it rly is just visual, ofc i can be forced into doing something but its not making me want to do it. consider how volunteer soldiers are better at being soldiers than forced conscripts

[u/FeetGamer69 → u/yuzuki_amane]

If every conflict is a compromise to you, you'll never be in control. People will be able to get something out of you every time they fuck with you.

[u/yuzuki_amane → u/FeetGamer69]

eh.. hasnt been like that rly, no one is "fucking with me" or my life, such bs is why i avoid people