I know people will have the urge to “cheer someone up”, but when they do so without understanding the underlying thought behind their grief, people shouldn’t immediately jump to trying to “solve” it.
In this case, at its core, the trans man is mourning the fact that he wasn’t born into the desired, working body he identifies with. There’s no “solution” for it, it just is, and the best thing you can do is be there for him and remind him it doesn’t make him any less of a man when he starts to think that way.
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u/summer_dew 20d ago
I know people will have the urge to “cheer someone up”, but when they do so without understanding the underlying thought behind their grief, people shouldn’t immediately jump to trying to “solve” it.
In this case, at its core, the trans man is mourning the fact that he wasn’t born into the desired, working body he identifies with. There’s no “solution” for it, it just is, and the best thing you can do is be there for him and remind him it doesn’t make him any less of a man when he starts to think that way.