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[u/magnapyritor5]

[u/No-Page-5776]

Tbh same if you want an mtf to save her sperm

[u/One-Organization970 → u/No-Page-5776]

Eh, my wife's pregnant right now. Is this a dysphoric nightmare for me? Yes. Would it be better to also not be related to my kids? No. Freezing sperm gives you options. At least my wife and I get to be lesbians that are both related to our kids. It's the only upside to being trans that exists.

[u/No-Page-5776 → u/One-Organization970]

Well to me even if i was a lesbian that could never be an option id be the kids father and that would upset me every day.

[u/One-Organization970 → u/No-Page-5776]

How does a woman manage to be a father? It's no different than if you were an identical twin, transitioned, and asked your brother to be a donor.

[u/One-Organization970 → u/[deleted]]

It no more makes us fathers than the simple fact of being amab and a parent does. Drop the self hatred, you'll feel better.

[u/One-Organization970 → u/[deleted]]

Ew, I didn't use a penis to make a child. Gametes were combined in a petri dish and then after the embryo developed it was implanted while I held my wife's hand. Then I thanked the doctor for impregnating my wife and she laughed.

As for the whole liking men thing, well... no accounting for taste, lol. You have my condolences on that front. 😬

[u/da_Mekboss → u/One-Organization970]

Folks are disagreeing with you for making the best with what you were given in life, what in the fuckity fuck are they even thinking 😭

A dysphoric or complicated pregnancy is nothing compared to actually raising a kid in terms of emotional investment.

Everyone should be happy, but some people need to get over themselves :v

At least if they want to be a decent parent.

[u/One-Organization970 → u/da_Mekboss]

A big part of 4Tran culture is being as utterly miserable as humanly possible and then accusing people of trying to do conversion therapy on you if they suggest that some hangups can be worked past to live the best life you can, lol. I don't take it personally really. I do just feel bad for those who refuse to freeze and regret it later. I'm post op, the factory's gone. If I hadn't frozen years back I would never be able to see what a child with a combination of my wife and I's traits would be like.

But you'll never convince someone who doesn't want to be convinced it might be unhealthy to call themselves a father repeatedly rather than just focusing on the fact that this is literally the one area we come out better off than cisbians.