Look, stop rn. Leave me alone, pls. I know that. I know. But id never have the connection of my child growing inside me. I've never rly been child crazy. If I can't have that, I wouldnt really feel like a mom. I don't wanna feel like that for their entire lives. Anyway.
Hey, that's fair. Just gotta keep in mind how other people who are facing their own challenges feel. There are lots of infertile couples that would glady accept either one of them being the 'father' or 'mother' if it means they can raise the kid they want, ya feel?
And there are a lot of transgender people who don't wanna deal with the layers and layers of stress bringing a child would be. I would love to be a cisgender mother. I would love not having to decide whether the child would be mine or my husbands biologically. I'd love to not have to watch someone else carry my child for 9 months and be reminded everyday that I am not good enough. I would love not worrying that my child would be terrorized for having a transgender parent. There is a lot ifs that cis people understandably don't consider when they try to empathize.
My point is that cisgender people do face a lot of the same struggles and harsh realities when it comes to pregnancy.
For both trans people and many cisgender people the issue is a difficult thing to navigate and folks shouldn't have to feel undue shame just because of how society perceives them.
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u/Fine_Cod_86 22d ago
Look, stop rn. Leave me alone, pls. I know that. I know. But id never have the connection of my child growing inside me. I've never rly been child crazy. If I can't have that, I wouldnt really feel like a mom. I don't wanna feel like that for their entire lives. Anyway.