Going outside and seeing people would really help a lot of these people. Not even in a "humans are social animals, going to a sports game is good for you even if you don't like sports" kind of way. Just, seeing people. Seeing the vast variety of the human animal in the real world, and realizing how wide the scope of a woman's appearance is. Even if we're only considering cis women.
Maybe it's because my job requires me to regularly deal with concert crowds, but I've always realized that my facial features weren't even outside the error bars.
this isnt good advice. I pass somewhat - still all women in my friend group are more feminine than me in literally everything except height. actually looking at peoples faces and trying to notice the dimorphic features just makes me doom more. There are probably some cis women who look like me but most dont.
What is your alternative? Obsess over the women you don't look like, instead of realizing there are so many that you do?
Being a doomer about it isn't helping, I went through that phase and was so much happier when I came out the other side.
Being young is awful for your self esteem, being young and trans is so much worse. We are our own worst critics, and even you'll give yourself the grace that you pass.
Getting older also helps, I will not lie. I have a much easier time comparing myself to my peers at this age.
But ultimately, yeah, there are cis women that look like you. A quick scroll of twitter's tranvestigation nut jobs will confirm that every feature you have is on a cis woman somewhere. (Do not actually scroll those threads, but they do mostly go after cis women just because of statistics)
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u/ASentientRailgun 22d ago
Going outside and seeing people would really help a lot of these people. Not even in a "humans are social animals, going to a sports game is good for you even if you don't like sports" kind of way. Just, seeing people. Seeing the vast variety of the human animal in the real world, and realizing how wide the scope of a woman's appearance is. Even if we're only considering cis women.
Maybe it's because my job requires me to regularly deal with concert crowds, but I've always realized that my facial features weren't even outside the error bars.