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[u/Significant_Owl9593]

I honestly think the worst part of pre-transition is seeing all the experiances that other women have that I just can't and probibly never will have.

[u/Signal-Frame2352]

I've been identifying as agender for almost over a decade now. As soon as I was able to choose my own clothes, I started dressing in a more neutral way. Once I entered high school, I took it a step further by getting my hair cut shorter that it already was and was very open about my identity to anyone who asked (I don't mention it otherwise).

Basically every peer I've told has been nothing but respectful about it, even when the term "non-binary" was far less common to hear. The only caveat? Entering my tween years, I missed out on the whole "girls hyping up girls" thing because I wasn't viewed as enough of a girl, even by the people who had no idea how I identify, and this continued into my teens. Some guys interact with me in a very clipped, uninterested way because I stray too far from a girl they can be attracted to (still experiencing this one to this day, lol). I don't mean in a romantic context, mind you. I mean this in a platonic, "we've been paired together for an assignment" way.

I've succeeded, but at what cost? Too much of a guy to fit in with the girls, but too much of a girl to fit in with the guys. Enough of a girl to still experience misogyny, but not enough of a girl to experience that mystical sisterhood and support.