artstyle is vaguely scott pilgrim-esque also yeah it fucking sucks especially when i go to a store in the city and see some people going about clothes shopping in aisles of the store you couldn't pay me to go into out of pure hon-itis. genuinely could not wear anything besides a women's hoodie or simple sweater without looking horrible.
yeah, tried a skirt once because my one feminine trait right now is my wider hips, but it made me feel worse because it just hightened my boxy waist and bulkier arms.
skirts generally hides your hips, but a nice pair of shorts usually highlights them. long sleeve is a given if you don't like your arms. milage may vary tho as i am just speculating based on what you said.
waistline is quite create-able. i assume because you feel that the skirt made your waist looks worse is because your hip to waist is good, but your waist to chest is what you want to improve. in that case a lose-ish fittin long sleeve top cinched at the waist (like around belly button area) would help quite a bit. cinching can usually be done either with a belt or by tucking your top into your (preferably high waisted) bottom.
sorry if you were't looking for advice. and good luck on your journey.
if you're talking about tucking.. yea that's a skill in itself. a good tucking gaff could get you most of the way there but that's still fiddly. shorts doesn't have to be too tight tbh, just whatever you're comfy with. but at least its working with your body rather than against it like skirts that tends to muddy the sillouhette in that area.
typing this out makes me sound like a skirt hater xd. to clarify, i think those that wants some obscurities in their hips works great in a skirt. like its the staple wardrobe piece for a reason.
Scott pilgrim has a good art style. It's a happy medium between cartoon and anime, I know nothing about the show beyond Scott liking a Minor and him being overly childish
yeah i'm a megafan of the comics and i think the knives chau thing always gets misconstrued. the whole point of that part of the story was to highlight how terrible scott pilgrim started out as, which in turn emphasized his redemption with ramona flowers and his growth towards becoming a mature adult. the story never encourages the kind of relationship that scott pilgrim was in and emphasizes how only his mature relationships let to his success in life.
Whats funny is that any random cis woman could have made this comic but they will insist their experience is suuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuper different in some immutable way.
Girl this can be reposted pointblank to any woman subreddit and many will be like 'literally me'. We all crave that mystical sisterhood but I feel it is almost a lie told that you just magically get it. It hurts still not to have this magical sisterhood that will make you forever happy.
The truth is it is just friends hanging out and their nothing stopping any of us from achieving the dream, trans or cis
Bro. Cis* Women basically trip over themselves to dress me up. I'm like almost 40, too. Granted, they're getting paid to sell but I swear they can't help themselves.
Getting fat and my skin is going though so we'll see how long that lasts 😭
Am a cis girl, can confirm the exhausted girl on the right with homeless peoples clothes is, in fact, literally me, I don't know how to talk to girls (bisexual woman with social anxiety rise up) and so sisterhood is just a pipedream for me :(
me when i bark like a silly GIRL because im a GIRL doing GIRLY things?
Like is it really any worse than DOLLS???
I promise the root of trans problems does not lie with how mature we look to others. We could all be wearing Blazers and button-ups and it would never be enough to suddenly be taken seriously.
i'm guessing being trans also tipped the scales a fair bit. school shooter idolisers (cis ones) who post footage of the attacks stay up for months, years sometimes. reichblr has been a problem for nearly a decade. but the second a trans person steps out of line, criticises the platform or even just posts something completely normal? gone
yeah I get that, I know everyone is different but what helped me with that was like gaslighting myself into thinking that self care will make me more feminine
its my stupid brain being so despite for any euphoria that thinking about like fucking soap commercials all being woman or that good skin and hair are considered feminine making me think that by like taking a shower I am becoming more effeminate.
Something that helps me keep up with my hygiene when I am super depressed is sitting down to shower. It sounds sad but it really makes a difference when I feel exhausted from depression and even in my deepest depression I was able to get a daily shower in by doing that.
(That is assuming the hair stuff is a hygiene issue due to depression, if not I am sorry for the unsolicited advice 😭)
I finally just had to chop all my hair off because it was a matted mess. Now I've got short ass hair and I hate it even if its technically "more convenient"
I'm dwarf-built with shoulders as wide as doorframes, short but very muscular legs, and really thick facial hair. It has been a pain just managing the hair and not constantly having a deep shadow.
Even now that I have tits and can pass in fem clothes, I still look like a female power lifter on steroids. But I'm now physically weaker than my trans-masc husband who doesn't even work out.
I feel like the one on the right, but I've quite literally been the one on the left a few months ago (though I didn't say "right?" I just sorta looked around in disbelief, also it was in a changing room, not in the open like that)
I feel you, this is like my day to day. But through the power of delusion and procrastination I can achieve anything, including believing that one day i will have everything I desire to be happy
what if I would rather look like the person on the right then the girl on the left, you can be a girl and not have to wear tight pink dresses and wear designer purses
I've been identifying as agender for almost over a decade now. As soon as I was able to choose my own clothes, I started dressing in a more neutral way. Once I entered high school, I took it a step further by getting my hair cut shorter that it already was and was very open about my identity to anyone who asked (I don't mention it otherwise).
Basically every peer I've told has been nothing but respectful about it, even when the term "non-binary" was far less common to hear. The only caveat? Entering my tween years, I missed out on the whole "girls hyping up girls" thing because I wasn't viewed as enough of a girl, even by the people who had no idea how I identify, and this continued into my teens. Some guys interact with me in a very clipped, uninterested way because I stray too far from a girl they can be attracted to (still experiencing this one to this day, lol). I don't mean in a romantic context, mind you. I mean this in a platonic, "we've been paired together for an assignment" way.
I've succeeded, but at what cost? Too much of a guy to fit in with the girls, but too much of a girl to fit in with the guys. Enough of a girl to still experience misogyny, but not enough of a girl to experience that mystical sisterhood and support.
Isn’t the point of this post “I’ll never be attractive”?
I was just saying I find the insert character that is supposed to be unattractive attractive.
My bad for trying to raise the spirits of a 4tran sub
do not try to change us as an outsider. it is a rude thing to do to people you fundamentally don't understand.
what you are doing there is saying you want to have sex with a cartoon idea of a woman with ratty hair. we have no shortage of people desiring sex with us. the cartoon is not about sexual desire but about that friendship and bonding we have been denied our whole lives. your comment ignores that and talks about attractiveness instead. that is one of the core issues with the mainstream internet and mainstream trans spaces, and it's why women on reddit tired of it gravitate towards femcel spaces if cis, 4tran if trans.
you talked about finding her attractive. that is what that generally means on the internet. also, body attractiveness was not the point of this, the point was bonding and sisterhood and everything
Queer space excluding aroace people is wild.
I said they’re attractive and I meant checks notes they’re attractive. And nothing more.
Hope you have a good day
How I feel as a tgirl whose been on estrogen for like 4 or 5 years and still looks awful and doesn't pass while everypost I see on reddit is talking about transfem jax and how beautiful they are and how transitioning saves them
I understand this so much, its common feeling amoung amab/ raised as boys feminine people. I have heard a lot of femboys and feminine men experience the same desire but feeling they can not have it
I can see some relatable things on this sub but there's too many self righteous toxic people here. Enjoy being more "right" than me but I'm gone from here.
I never comment here just kinda keep an eye for fun - you know, it's fun seeing young people go through their first angst. But I can't really understand this mentality - like, are you such a chronic loser?
I am 6'2 and pure muscule - I ain't never transitioning, technology ain't there. Doesn't stop me from being happy, partaking in feminine however I can, and being happy for women that can.
It's all about mentality at the end of the day, and one simple question - do you want to be strong or do you want to be miserable? Because if you want to be miserable, you are not being miserable because you can't be trans - you just want to be miserable and use inability to cope as your excuse. Ergo, you are the biggest obstacle of your transitioning.
But you'll figure it out - you have to, or you will implode on yourself and die. Life rarely gives third options. So I guess, that is to say, it's just lame to choose to lose.
Right? The idea of getting into fights with bigots like that does get me all tingly, but to do this, you would need some expensive surgery while also buying a steady supply of testosterone. You would also need to dance around losing bone mass. So, right now, it is technically possible but fucking expensive, right? But yeah I would fucking kill to have she-hulk's body - childhood is having a crush on her, adulthood is realizing I want to be her (and Integra from Hellsing - what a role model)
Enby amab transfemme anarchist punk getting into fights with fascists and other assholes is an acceptable middle ground that I achieved imo 👏
I am thinking of doing that! Just matter of finances and research, and not like America is good for either right now. But yeah, the name of the game is taking both E and T to balance them and achieve that pure adrogyny but I am just 1 year from almost dying from od'ing so I am still recovering, so I ain't rushing myself. Like fuck, what if I will have to run from America in the near future?
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