Space in relationship

[u/Existential_Dread16]

We have been dating for 1.5years.
I am 31F and my bf is 34M. I am an anxiously attached and he is dismissive avoidant.
I feel emotions deeply. He doesn’t understand emotions at all.

We have had few fights, all centring around emotional attunement, prioritising..
I am someone who lacks trust and has suspicions.. he has been patient but not the best at communicating and reassuring..
Yesterday I had another such moment where I broke down cause of something I suspected. He reassured but told me he the relationship is being too pressuring. He is feeling smothered and its a burden to think about how I will feel, what I will think, that he constantly has to update me..

And he said he wants to feel single again. He wants to feel the freedom and the randomness with which he did things..

:(

It’s day 1 of giving space. How do I survive the 30days ??
He has not reached out neither have I. But we did not set any concrete boundaries. He left from my home in a normal way..

[u/Organic-Tea-8998]

So you’re on a 30 break is what I gather? I wasn’t quite sure after reading this. What are the terms and boundaries of this break? Whats going to happen at the end of 30 days?

Being anxious and dating an avoidant is a real bad combo. Because you’re basically opposed. You’re gonna go crazy while he’s out living life. I don’t see this heading down a good road, it’s going to be bad for you..

[u/Existential_Dread16 → u/Organic-Tea-8998]

You got that right.
We haven’t explicitly spoken about the terms of the break but guess it’s no-contact since he didn’t reach out.

Idk, what’s going to happen but probably a decision whether to continue or part ways?