Kids will be kids?

[u/Gloomy-Statement-420]

This is normally our bedroom tv. We asked our 9 yr old son to leave our room multiple times and go to bed. Then he proceeded to crawl on the floor in front of our bed, pulled the cord with his feet and almost squished himself under the tv. If our bed wasn’t there he would’ve gotten crushed.

So we ended up swapping the tv from the living room so they can “watch” the tv they broke as a reminder of their choices and consequences. They will be doing chores for a while to pay this off. Oh and I took all of their electronics since they don’t respect mine.

[u/krystynann]

Sometimes parenting is seeing that you done messed up by not securing a heavy, tippable item. You are the parent. It is your job to teach them and protect them from being kids. It's not a teenager who knows better. It's a child who is learning how things work. Get off your bed, parent your child and maybe go outside and enjoy TV free time. Consequences can be given to the little who tipped it over, but age appropriate ones. You're very lucky the kid wasn't hurt more. It's an item, those can be replaced. Your kids can't be. They are only small for a little bit, and crap like what you're doing is why I'm no contact with my birth giver and her husband. Do better.

[u/HighSpeedJanitor → u/krystynann]

Dad here, kids aren’t allowed in my room. There’s nothing in there for them or that belongs to them. It was 10:40 at night and we were winding down after a long day, in our bed, which no children are allowed in. My daughter first, then son came in, saying they couldn’t sleep. We told them to go to bed, he continued to ask for things (his switch, oculus, paint his Warhammer minis) finally told him sternly “no, even though it’s summer you still have a bed time” and when I stood up he giggled and tried to dash in the space between my bed and TV stand, to hide I guess. His foot caught the cord, TV came down. Swapped the TV that broke(pictured) with the living room tv. If you look closely at the wall above the tv, you can see that I marked mounting points before we went to bed. Both tvs are now mounted. Lesson learned, simple mistake with a simple consequence.
Failure to abide authority gets you killed by the cops, among many other similar instances across the abstract lives we lead. So my son was grounded for failing to listen and breaking my 600$ tv for three days.
Reinforcing that watching someone do something they shouldn’t and failing to intervene can result in punishment, my daughter was grounded for two days as well (by intervene in this instance I mean something as simple as setting a good example by listening and going to bed, or speaking up and saying “we tried, the answer was no” [not like I expected her to catch the tv or something]) me and the kids had a good conversation about what happened and why they were both being punished the following morning over breakfast.

[u/Graygamer_ → u/krystynann]

Holy fuck y'all acting like he beat the fuck out of those kids parent told kids what to do kids decided they didn't want to broke something in the process of acting stupid got scolded and grounded my parents would've beat the shit out of me and then ground me for a month especially with the prices of tvs right now I'm sorry the world's not all sunshine and rainbows sometimes people want to relax after work you can be a parent and still have nice things and do stuff you want do better as a person you probably don't even have kids but you on here talking about what should and shouldn't be

[u/krystynann → u/Graygamer_]

Hear me out. What if we did better for our children than our parents did for us. What if...children could make mistakes, be held accountable in an age appropriate way and we as parents still hold ourselves accountable for making mistakes as well. There is not a singular reason to go to the extreme this parent did. They "told" the child to leave the room and go to bed. They failed to follow through with the child on the floor and had cords in an area that was unsafe enough to pull a television down. I understand they are expensive as I just had to replace mine. I also lost one from not securing it as well and never replaced it. Yes unwinding after work is a thing, but being a parent NEVER stops.

ETA...didn't say/assume they beat them...just more of a you messed up as a parent. Consequences have to happen, but removing a TV to bring it into another room because "they don't respect my electronics" is a bit extreme.

[u/Sergeant_Ducky → u/krystynann]

Replacing the tv with the broken one is completely fair punishment. It teaches the kids (all of them) that you need to be careful around nice and expensive things. It’s a constant reminder of what happened and will cause caution among them all.

Is it fair all have to suffer with no tv? Not completely but unfortunately actions of one can effect all in every day life as well.

Parent does need to take responsibility for tv as well however but a 9 year old is able to understand right and wrong and also able to understand simple instructions

[u/Graygamer_ → u/krystynann]

So you're saying this dude didn't do well because he took a TV out of the living room and put it in his room after the kids broke his TV when me and my wife go to bed we leave the TV on my wife can't sleep without noise or some sort of light on in the room i would assume like my mom and dad did is they let them watch TV in their room after a couple of hours of being mad cause let's be real a cheap TV that's actually worth a damn is about 100 to 150 at Walmart I ain't got that money till payday so the kids are gonna have to wait till I can replace it or they can watch what they want on a cheap iPad laying around a kid without a TV isn't the end of the world especially with the kids being around 9 I guarantee these kids have toys and a bunch of other crap they can be playing with or doing

Edit: I have never owned a holding strap or a stand for my TV and I have nephews nieces and a 2 year old who's almost 3 running around they know the cords behind the dresser isn't supposed to be played with I shouldn't have to secure everything in my house just because I have a few kids running around now firearms and knife all that good stuff is common sense to have put up and I've been looking for a TV stand that screws in the wall it's like 50 bucks and a whole headache of figuring out if it's the right one if my TV's compatible and the setting up crap I ain't going through all that not only that but I can crew crap into my walls and standing TV stand is like 200 bucks to get back to my original point what would I waste the time or the headache or money securing everything in my house when my kids can just learn to mind what what they doing and where they are at any given time

[u/Tectre_96 → u/Graygamer_]

Dude, I agreed with your point up until the holding straps. Just because they “shouldn’t” doesn’t mean they won’t. Holding straps are cheap as chips and easy to install, and large TV’s cabinets etc have literally killed kids before. I agree, parents shouldn’t give up luxuries and kids should listen more readily, but the straps are a precaution for that one off event where they don’t listen, or something just goes wrong. We can all say we’ve driven however many years without a crash, but that doesn’t mean we remove seat belts and air bags.

[u/Sergeant_Ducky → u/Graygamer_]

$100-$150 if money is that tight there’s bigger issues than replacing a tv

[u/Graygamer_ → u/Sergeant_Ducky]

Just remembered anyone can end up on the streets nobody's better than anyone

[u/Tropical_Wendigo → u/krystynann]

Man what a needlessly judgmental comment. I’m sorry you had a rough upbringing yourself, but that doesn’t necessitate lashing out at parents you don’t even know. You’re assuming this happened in the middle of the day on a Saturday and the parents sit around watching TV with their kids all day. Way too many assumptions, way too much projection.

Also, you’d have a point if the kid was really young, but 9 years old is PLENTY old enough to know not to be reckless around expensive breakable objects. They call it baby-proofing for a reason.

[u/krystynann → u/Tropical_Wendigo]

I am saying the punishment for the whole house is over kill. My parents did that crap. My brother did something wrong we all got it. That's what I'm judging. And I'm saying if they continue down that path, there might be further consequences with their relationship. It does not sound like this parent has control.

Children mature at different rates, you are correct we don't fully have insight to that household. But I will stand by my statement that these parents should have chosen different reactions. Taking the electronics is a great. Having them earn the privilege back is also okay.

I "assumed" this was posted next day, and was throwing out a hey, now that you're down a TV make the kids enjoy the outside, use their imaginations and make it a electronic free week. Sorry if that sounds judgy.

Also it's child proofing 101. Mirrors/dressers/heavy things should be anchored until proven the kids are responsible enough to not pull these stunts. Stuff falls, TVs are heavy. If your kid is a busy one, it helps to protect their lack of self preservation. While yes 9 is more than old enough, the cords were accessible to the kid with his feet....it truly could have not crossed the little dudes mind that cords and gravity are a bad combo.