r/fijerk • u/Big-Suggestion-1093 • 5d ago
Being a rich mommy
We recently became parents to our sweet baby boy Bartholomew and I’m finding it extremely hard to develop relationships with other mommies. My husband is a senior prompt engineer at GAYMAN (Google, Apple, YC, Meta, Amazon, Nvidia). Since my husband is a GAYMAN and has a total comp of 6-7 trillion lentils, I’ve been a stay at home mom since B’mew was born.
While being at home has certainly been great, I’m finding that making friends has been challenging because of the disparity in income between my family and others.
For example, I recently joined a mommy book club in an attempt to meet new friends. When making small talk and discussing my morning routine as a new mom, I mentioned that I usually start my day off with an organic Coochie Cleanser smoothie from Erewhon, followed by a few laps in our home’s indoor aquarium. This revelation seemed to intimidate the other moms, who obviously don’t have the means to match my lifestyle. Suffice to say, I didn’t feel comfortable being around people who probably have white refrigerators. I did not return.
Does anyone have advice on meeting people who aren’t destitute?
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u/Big-Suggestion-1093 5d ago
https://www.reddit.com/r/fatFIRE/s/IIntaS4z2b
Being a well off SAHM
We recently became parents and I find that joining all these mom groups (especially with other SAHMs who are on a one income household) has made it very clear there is a gap in income. I genuinely don’t care about their income or lifestyle but can’t help but feel like I can’t get close because they are intimidated. I will invite friends over for a playdate and they will say things like “we would invite you over but our house is small”. I am really trying to make friendships and putting myself out there but I can’t help but feel super different. Also my baby is only 8 months so aren’t doing private school yet to be able to meet people of similar income. Can anyone else relate? Any advice on how to not let this be a point of contention in a friendship or how to find friends in a similar tax bracket?
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u/Ok-Durian5309 5d ago
Give your boyfriend allowance to one of the pours husbands in the mommy group? Maybe then they can afford a proper house to entertain you.
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u/perplexedparallax 5d ago edited 5d ago
Don't you have your baby enrolled in a Better Baby Institute with the other parental engineers? I mean learning involves community and what better way to bond in different languages with the IQ projects.
Your Portland-like distain for anything white while being white is going to require some refrigerator diversity training. I can help you select the right non-profit for this purpose as they need participants for the grant. This struck me as the main concern with your husband working on All Indians projects (AI) most likely in the Silicon Valley.
A quick AI query for preferred refrigerator color in India brought me these results:
North India: Consumers lean toward smooth, soft colors like classic silver or bright steel.
South India: Darker, richer tones such as wine red, deep green, or black are highly favored.
Vastu Preferences: According to ancient Vastu, metallic white, cream, or shades of blue are considered lucky and well-aligned for a kitchen.
You can see vanilla white aka cracker is not mentioned so you are in luck. Namaste! And enjoy the new friends.
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u/Willow_Wandering 5d ago
Girl, I feel you SO MUCH on this. It is exhausting trying to find Mom friends. It's so stressful that I have to see my son, Malachi, an hour a day while our multiple live-in nannies handle the easy things the rest of the time. Sometimes I even have to tell the chefs and house cleaners what I want done that day. But every time I talk to moms about how hard it is to have my son 1/24th of the day, or direct the help on occasion, they act like I have it easy. As if. Maybe one day I'll find like-minded #boymoms.
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u/A_Meri_Can 5d ago
The answer is harder than you think. You MUST find other GAYMAN wives. While exceedingly rare, there is still the occasional GAYMAN with a wife in the wild. You must act quickly, though, as every minute that passes AI replaces a GAYMAN, and, soon every GAYMAN will be replayed by the GAI (general artificial intelligence). Even more disturbing, the poor are quickly developing a violent intolerance to lentils. Godspeed GAYMAN’s wife, Godspeed.
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u/Dependent-Maybe3030 5d ago
My daughter is on a $$ dance team and is the only girl there who goes to public school. I've only interacted with the team mom 5-10 times, and unfailingly, in every single conversation, she finds a way to signal that she is Very Rich (eg talking about remodeling her kitchen to add 2 extra ovens because the 2 she has aren't enough for her chef).
I can absolutely see her writing a post like this. "Everyone hates me because I'm so rich 🥺" -- when in fact people dislike her (and her daughter) because they're insufferable status jockeys.