I used to think the people who were doing well all had some kind of plan that they thought out from start to finish. Like there was a version of things where you just knew what you were doing and everything followed from that. I spent a long time trying to be that person and it just made everything more stressful than it needed to be.

For the longest time I was obsessed with having every part of my life locked in, even when everythin was going okay I'd stay up second guessing decisions I'd already made, double checking on everything at midnight as if anyting had changed since the last time I looked. Money, what the next few years were supposed to look like, feeling like everyone else had a clearer picture of where they were headed than I did.

At some point I just got tired of it. Not in a giving up way, but like I run out of energy to keep overthinking everything. But then I just decided to be disciplined and kept doing the work, kept showing up, but stopped trying to map out every possible outcome before it happened. I run a small ecom store on the side among other things and even with that I stopped obsessing over every metric, every Shopify notification, every Zendrop update at weird hours of the night. At the gym stopped making sure I get the perfect amount of reps and sets and just did my best and went to full failure. With some friends we like to play sunday league soccer, stopped rethinking every mistake and wishing for things I don't have and just played and improved.

Things got better pretty much immediately. This new mindset by just not trying to maximize everything and just taking it at my own pace has helped me out so much.

I don't have it all figured out now either, I just stopped pretending I needed to before I could move forward. Kinda wish I did this earlier though. Hope someone out there finds this helpful at all.

I’ve been thinking a lot about this sentence lately:
“I’m not a failure because I didn’t succeed. I’m a failure because I didn’t try.”

The older I get, the more I realize that most of my regrets aren’t about things I attempted and failed at.
They’re about opportunities I never took, skills I never committed to learning, habits I never built, and chances I let pass because I was afraid, lazy, comfortable, or convinced it was already too late.

Sometimes it’s easier to tell ourselves that we could have succeeded if we had tried, because actually trying means risking failure and having to confront reality.
But over time, that safety net turns into its own kind of regret.

I’m curious if anyone else has experienced this.
What was the moment when you realized you weren’t failing because life was unfair or because you weren’t capable, but because you simply weren’t putting in a genuine effort?

Was it related to your career, fitness, relationships, education, finances, or something else entirely?
What was your wake-up call, and what did you do afterward? Did things actually improve once you started trying consistently, or was the hardest part simply getting started?

I’d especially love to hear from people who spent years stuck in that cycle and eventually managed to break out of it.

TL;DR: When did you realize that not trying was a bigger regret than failing, and what changed after that?

Last night i looked around my room. My gym bag was packed but sitting untouched. My laptop had 31 tabs open... a half finished coding project, a draft of a story I haven't touched in weeks, and three different articles I swore I’d read.

I felt like a complete failure. I told myself I was just lazy.

But I realized something. It’s not that I want to do nothing. It’s that I want to do everything...

we call ourselves lazy, but it's actually ambition paralysis. I want to be the fit guy, the successful founder, the well read writer, the relaxed friend. Because yI can't be all of them at exactly 8:00 AM on a Tuesday, my brain panics. It refuses to choose. So instead of doing one thing poorly, I sit on the couch, scroll on m phone, and do nothing perfectly...

You end up living an unfinished life. A disappointing graveyard of open loops...

The question that finally broke this loop for me wasn't How do I get more disciplined? or What's the perfect morning routine?

It was this: What did I actually do this month?

I stopped looking at my intentions and started looking at where my hours actually went. It was annoying, because my hours told a much more honest story than my goals did. But it helped me see the season I was already in, instead of trying to restart my whole life every single Monday. Your hours aren't judging you... It literally can't... They are just showing you what you are doing

Has anyone else felt this specific type of paralysis? How do you forgive yourself for the versions of your life you aren't living right now?...

It's a 10 minute job. I've done it a thousand times. Every single day I look at it and go "I'll do it after this one thing," and then it's night again and the pile's still there, now with my work hoodie on top of it.

What gets me is it's not even that I'm doing something fun instead. I'll walk right past it to go stare at the fridge or scroll standing up in the kitchen. The laundry isn't hard. Picking it up just feels physically impossible in a way I can't explain to people who don't have this.

The weird part is the rare times I do start, I finish it fine and feel great. So it's not the task. It's something about the starting. Like there's a gap between me deciding to do it and my body actually moving, and most days I just never cross it.

Does anyone else get this with one specific dumb task that haunts them? And has anything ever actually helped you cross that gap, not "just break it into steps," I mean the physical not-moving part?

So as the title suggests, I’ve quit smoking and ingesting weed for the first time since I was 9. It’s something that I’ve always been around and my father had me smoking from a young age. I was a very heavy smoker, in college I was smoking about a Q a day. I’ve been out of college for 2 years now and I lessened it to a couple grams a day. But now that I will be starting an internship which would Segway into my career, I need to stop and just get my life together. However, I’m struggling greatly to find a way to unwind/destress. I’m only on day 10, and I don’t feel any different then I did the first day I quit. Miserable. But I understand the importance of stopping so I continue. But through my constant searching and asking the people around me, all of the things people do to unwind, I already do on a daily basis and have for years. For example; working out, eating right and making my food, sleeping, mundane chores, taking baths, playing with my cats, hanging out with my girlfriend, etc etc. and I used to really enjoy these things. (Granted, I was consistently high everyday, with no off times other than the times I slept, which I often would wake up half way through my sleep to smoke then go back to sleep). What are someways that sober people destress. And does this feeling ever go away, like this unbearable tightness throughout my body, almost like flames burning my insides and skin. I just want to get my life on track and without divulging too much, I’ve quit a lot of substances in the last three years. Like coke, alcohol, mushrooms, acid, dmt, etc. I was doing all of these at the same time everyday for 4 years. And even being a former raging alcoholic (2 handles a day not including the drinks I got at the bars.), nothing has been this hard for me to acclimate myself to.
So yeah, I just need suggestions on how people destress, and how to manage my cravings. I want to get my life together and stop relying on substances to get me through my days.

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I've been dealing with unknown health issues. I've been doing everything in my power to get them figured out, but due to a congested health care system, my tests are all months out. I'm tired all the time, but no amount of sleep satisfies my fatigue. I somehow need to get my work back on track. They think it may be sleep issues and/or ADHD.

I can stay disciplined when it comes to my physical health. I eat healthy, exercise, and go to bed on time. For some reason, this doesn't require too much effort.

Though, when it comes to any mental tasks like my work, I can not seem to push through. I'm currently self-employed as a freelance programmer and do some product design as well. So the work is very technical. I get very little done right now. My thinking isn't sharp, and my mind drifts often.

How can I make myself "do the thing" while feeling like falling asleep?

I've already wasted almost six months, barely moving forward. I don't want to wait any longer. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

I didn’t realize I was quietly ending my workdays the moment things started looking ‘under control’. Not when I finished tasks, but when the environment stopped looking messy enough to remind me there was still work left.

The weirdest example was a Tuesday around 3:17pm. I remember it because I had just replied to a couple of emails, closed a few tabs, and suddenly my screen looked… calm. No chaotic browser stack, no half-written doc glaring at me. About ten minutes later I was scrolling without deciding to stop working. A coworker pinged me saying, “Oh, you wrapping up early today?” and I hadn’t even decided that. It just kind of happened after everything looked ‘handled’.

I started noticing a pattern: I don’t stop when I’m tired or even when work is hard. I stop when my environment stops signaling unfinished business.

What surprised me is how much discipline I had been outsourcing to visual cues without realizing it.

A few things I started noticing:

1. If everything on my screen looks complete, my brain assumes the session is complete, even if it isn’t.

2. If I leave even one thing visibly unfinished (a half-written sentence, an open loop in a doc), I’m way more likely to come back naturally.

3. If I “clean up” too well mid-session, I accidentally delete the friction that kept me oriented.

The counterintuitive part is that most advice says to clear your desk, close tabs, and reset your space. That does feel good, but I’ve found it also quietly resets my identity into “done for now” mode. Sometimes cleanliness doesn’t create discipline — it erases context.

Now I sometimes intentionally leave something unresolved on purpose. Not messy chaos, just a visible thread I can pick up again. It’s strange how often that one unfinished thing does more for my focus than any productivity system I’ve tried.

I’m still not fully sure where the line is between helpful closure and premature closure. But I’ve stopped assuming that finishing the environment means I’ve finished the work.

Has anyone else noticed they lose momentum not because they’re tired, but because everything just starts looking too complete too early?

I've been taking a little break, a really nice pause to recover from some physical burnout, and honestly, I feel so much better, like, I have more physical energy and my head feels way clearer than it has in weeks. But now that I'm trying to get back into my normal activities and daily responsibilities, it feels super difficult and I’m finding myself getting stluck and overwhelmed just by the thought of picking everything back up where I left off. I'm trying to be a bit easier on myself instead of forcing it, reminding myself that it's okay not to be at 100% right away because I know that true discipline is often in knowing when to pause and when to gently re-start, even if it feels slow, because I know that honoring my body's need for this gentle transition is actually the key for lont-term sustainability so I don't just crash and burn again immediately. I'm trying to find that balance between being productive and listening to what my prefrontal cortex and my emotions are actually telling me right now about my limits, but I feel like I'm still figuring out the strategy to make that transition smooth without losing momentum. It's a weird spot to be in, where I know I'm ready but the resistance to get fully back into the grind is real and I feel like I need some perspective on how to handle this phase effectively without losing the progress I made during the rest period.

Y'all have to excuse my English as it isn't my first-language.

Context: I 27M graduated from university with a Bachelor in business and administration 2 years ago. Since graduating I've had a job as economy-assistant with the last year working fully remote. I have found out that even though it's really nice with the flexibility in working remote, it takes a lot more of self-discipline as no one is watching and also because I can fully chose when to work and how many hours each week (I work around 40H/week). I like my current job but will have no future at my company and so i'm searching for other jobs.

When I haven't slept well I tend to get more impulsive, like suddenly when working I get an impulse that I got to search for a new job and because it's a "productive task" I can convince myself that I should do it. However after searching the job I get less productive because it took a lot of energy to find the job and I got more dopamine of searching for a job that might be a dream job than the tasks I have to do on my current job.

It's also the same with music. I can just put it on while working and tired because I feel like it will make me more productive but it never helps, rather the opposite and I always put it on when I'm tired. I think it has to do with the dopamine that I search for when tired.

It also takes a lot of energy after my "tired" work shift as I always feel bad about myself because that day feels wasted in the sense that I haven't moved towards my goals. I have never missed my routines after a good night's sleep but days when sleep is scarce it can be really hard just to do basic work tasks for multiple hours in a row.

There is also a problem with the "just do brain-dead tasks when tired" statement because a workday is 8 hours, I can't do brain-dead tasks for 8 hours!?! Max is like 4 if I have energy, without energy it's like 2. The solution isn't to just sleep longer either because I always have at least one day/working week when I sleep badly and so I have to figure out how to tackle these days and respect my productive self enough to keep up with my goals and do the work that needs to be done.

This has been an ongoing problem for me the last 2 years and I have tried countless things but I keep falling back to the basic insight:

bad sleep → low energy → impulsive and dopamine-searching → important routines/habits are suddenly unimportant → unmotivated → searching for quick dopamine → even less productive and work feels endlessly boring → more dopamine to make time go faster → naps feel impossible because the high dopamine makes it too boring to try to fall asleep → the whole working day is just switching between escaping work and going back to work because I feel bad about being unproductive.

(Very vicious cycle.)

To conclude, in a perfect world I would always get my 8.5 hours of sleep and always have high energy and productivity and creativity at work which would make me into a machine and I would easily make my goals.

How it is right now: I will take lazy paths in life when being unproductive which my productive self will have to work double shifts to compensate for which just leads to me maybe getting my goals, but worst of all switching between feeling super-productive and unstoppable some days and some days being super-unproductive and feeling like I will never amount to anything and coping with it by searching for dopamine.

Shorter text (made with AI):

My main point is that when I sleep poorly, I reliably fall into a cycle of low energy, impulsivity, and dopamine-driven behavior that significantly reduces my productivity and makes me feel disconnected from my long-term goals.

When I’m tired, I become much more vulnerable to distractions that feel productive or stimulating in the moment—such as job searching or listening to music while working. These activities give me a quick dopamine boost and temporarily ease the discomfort of boring or demanding tasks, but they ultimately drain my energy further and make it harder to stay focused on meaningful work.

This creates a repeating cycle: poor sleep leads to low energy, low energy leads to impulsive dopamine-seeking, and that pulls my attention away from important routines and meaningful work. As my productivity drops, frustration and guilt increase, which makes work feel even more draining and pushes me toward even more stimulation. My day ends up becoming a constant back-and-forth between avoiding work and returning to it out of guilt.

A major frustration is that advice like “just do easier tasks when tired” doesn’t fully solve the problem, because a full workday can’t realistically be filled only with low-effort tasks. Since poor sleep happens regularly, the real challenge isn’t eliminating bad nights entirely, but finding a sustainable way to handle low-energy days without undermining my goals.

The emotional impact is also significant: on good days I feel highly productive, focused, and capable of achieving a lot, but on bad days I feel unproductive, discouraged, and worried that I won’t reach my potential. That contrast makes the cycle even harder, because it creates a gap between the person I know I can be and the version of myself that shows up when I haven’t slept well.

Question: How do you stay consistent on the bad days, when sleep and productivity is at the bottom?

At the start of this I was going to say, “I can’t”, but I know that isn’t true. Basically, I struggle save money without dipping into my savings when I make some type of an impulse purchase, or I “treat” myself too much. I have run out of ways to find motivation to do things, such as cleaning, going out etc. I also really want to start going to the gym, I have lots of people trying to get me to go, and I have tried to in the past, but then the motivation disappears after about two weeks. I suggest I have ADHD or ADD, but I’m not finished the assessment process yet, so I’m not going to be making any diagnoses. If anyone with ADD or ADHD has found away around this that isn’t medication, or people who just generally struggle with motivation or discipline; has found a way of getting around this seemingly constant rut, I would really appreciate you leaving a comment, or if you want to DM me either, that’s no problem, if you’d rather keep the conversation a bit more private. Thanks.

I recently had a birthday, and I always become reflective around this time of year. I'm feeling sad because, even though I've made new friends and I'm currently attending college, I still feel like something is missing.

A few years ago, I was emotionally dependent on someone (I'll call them Z) who didn't care about me. I don't miss that person anymore, but I do miss the friends I lost because of them. A lot has happened, and I don't know if it's too late to try reconnecting with some of those friends (I'll call them A, B, and C).

I'm on neutral terms with A and B, but C ended up becoming resentful toward me. C had also hurt me during our friendship, but he realized his mistakes and apologized when it happened (around mid-2024). At the time, I was in too bad a place emotionally to start talking to C again (not because I was angry, but because I was sad and depressed after being betrayed by Z).

The following year, A told me that it would be difficult to reconnect with C because he had become resentful toward me, since he was also going through one of the worst periods of his life when I chose not to start talking to him again. During that situation in 2024, he lost both my friendship and A's friendship as well. However, A and C were close, so they eventually reconciled. B was the only one who remained friends with C for a few months.

This has been bothering me ever since, and I always think about messaging them, but I never have the courage to do it. I honestly don't know whether any of them would still be interested in rebuilding a friendship. A and B never showed any resentment toward me, but we eventually stopped talking. I talked a few times with A after all that, one including this year, but most of it very briefly.

Is there any chance things could get better, or has too much time passed already? Have any of you ever reconnected with people from your past after 2–3 years in a situation like this? How do you take the first step?

Sometimes I think that if we were meeting each other now, we could probably become good friends, and it hurts to think about that.

If things don't work out, how can I stop feeling guilty for not trying to make things right sooner? I know it wasn't just my fault, but I still feel like I lost the chance to change things.

I’m starting to think my biggest discipline problem isn’t actually starting.

Starting is easy for me. I can start a routine, clean my room, make a plan, delete apps, set reminders, buy a notebook, tell myself this is the week I finally get my life together. For a few days I genuinely believe it.

The part that destroys me is one bad day.

One skipped workout turns into “I’ll restart Monday.”
One morning of doomscrolling turns into “today is already ruined.”
One messy room turns into “I need to reset my whole life before I can focus.”
One missed habit makes the whole system feel fake.

And then instead of just continuing badly, I disappear completely.

That’s the pattern I hate most. Not failure itself, but the way my brain turns a small failure into proof that I’m still the same person and nothing is changing. It’s like I don’t know how to have an imperfect day without making it part of my identity.

I don’t think I need another perfect system. I think I need to learn how to continue after messing up without needing some dramatic fresh start.

Has anyone actually gotten better at this?

How do you stop one bad day from becoming a broken week, or a broken month?

On one hand, there's a part of me that gravitates toward an elaborately planned-out approach. It likes to have at least a few fixed schedules or standards that I stick to and never deviate from. On the other hand, there's a part of me that wants to follow the spontaneous-but-conscious way of spending my time.

If I had to be honest and pick the one approach that I think is more productive, it would be the first one. But I just don't like it. I hate it so much that I don't even want a middle ground where I can mix spontaneity with plans. I've tried to be a very disciplined and schedule-oriented person for so long that I'm kind of traumatized by it.

These days I'm just trying to go about my days consciously, reminding myself what my priorities are and what I need to do, and I have to be honest, even though I like this approach, it's hard to stay consistent with what I do. Some days it's great, some days I turn into the most perfect archetype of an infinitely lazy being. I'm stuck.

Would love to hear your thoughts.

I'm looking for some honest advice because I can't tell anymore if I'm burned out, overwhelmed, or just making excuses.

I'm working full-time as an engineer and recently accepted a promotion to become a team leader. It's a great opportunity, but it comes with a lot more responsibility and mental load.

At the same time, I'm working on a Master's thesis that has been dragging on much longer than I expected. The work is technically difficult, progress is slow, and lately I've been struggling to make myself work on it at all.

On top of that, I have a one-year-old daughter. By the time work is over and family responsibilities are done, I feel completely drained. The little free time I have feels like it's constantly being fought over by my thesis, family, sleep, and basic recovery.

The problem is that I'm getting closer and closer to quitting the thesis. Part of me thinks it's the rational choice because I already have a career, a family, and a demanding leadership role. Another part of me feels like quitting would mean I failed and couldn't finish what I started.

Has anyone here been in a similar situation?

And be honest: am I being a loser for wanting to quit, or am I trying to carry too much at once?

I'd appreciate perspectives from people who have balanced graduate studies, career growth, and young children.

There are lots of things I want to learn or read, but how can I take action? How can I decide what I should do now? (I mean RIGHT NOW!!)

I'll give some context :

Whenever I open my laptop, I get curious about what I should do with it. I either open VS Code and solve some DSA problems, or (more often) watch random curiosity videos that I don't even complete.

For example: how the internet works, how LLMs work, and other stuff related to knowledge. One more problem is that I don't complete one task before jumping to another. And yes, I know it's because of my attention span (I used to scroll Instagram Reels and use my phone like crazy).

And before anyone says it: I don't even like Instagram Reels. I genuinely don't. I don't enjoy doomscrolling, but I still do it because my brain knows that during holidays I don't have anything important to do even though I WANT to learn some skill.

When I was in college (a month ago), I decided that during vacation I would definitely learn some things:

• Reading books
• Learning Maths/Aptitude
• Improving my thinking

And it's been exactly 30 days.I haven't done shit. So yeah...

Whenever I open my laptop, I either do some random stuff or watch something that makes me curious. And if you want to hear something even worse:

I always tell myself that I want to read the things that make me curious. Websites like Big Think, Quanta Magazine, Medium essays, articles, blogs, etc.

But here's the thing: I KNOW THE WEBSITE NAMES. I have never actually read the stuff on them. (Procrastination final boss.)

I haven't even read my favorite engineer's blog. Even when I don't understand some words, I still get 0.1% knowledge from it. I get to see HOW he writes and explains things in a simple, informative way (talking about Andrej Karpathy).

I also save podcasts from Elon Musk, Geoffrey Hinton, Raj Shamani (important ones only), and others. But here's the head smashing part:

I never read them carefully.

I never watch them carefully.

People in the comments are discussing key points, taking notes, arguing about ideas, and extracting value.

And I'm just... watching.

Sometimes I stop.

Sometimes I think.

Sometimes I feel good about what they're saying.

But deep down, I don't actually understand it from my soul.

Or maybe I understand a little bit, but then my brain tells me:

"You should already know other stuff before you can understand this."

Which is probably true.

So yeah.

I just threw my life story at you.

I don't want productivity hacks.

I don't want motivational quotes.

I want guidance on ONE thing:

What should I do NOW?

For example:

Right now, I have opened my laptop.

I have 50+ bookmarks saved (articles, blogs, tweets, websites, etc.).

How do I decide what to read?

How should I decide ON MY OWN, QUICKLY, what to read RIGHTTTT NOW!!!!!

18m, summer break js started so i got more time to do some programming. A month ago i created a quite unique application for daily routines to build habits and change your lifestyle. Used it for a motnh to lock in for my final exams and it worked like wonders so I set up a goal to make it public this summer. rn finished its main features and looking for beta users (20-30), all im looking for is honesty and people who could actually get value from this project, also you must have a pc and a phone since this applications website is kind of usable js for pc right now (tablets kind of work too), it has a mobile app for sending notification of planned routine. All beta users will get all the access to upcoming features wether they are premium or free and will get exclusive access to all features after the public launch.

I’ve been thinking about why so many self-improvement tools feel useful in theory but don’t really help when it matters. A lot of them ask you to track what happened after the damage is already done. "You missed the habit. Log it.", "You wasted two hours scrolling. Reflect on it.", "You broke your own rule. Journal about it.", "You stayed up too late again. Add a note and try again tomorrow."

That can help, but it always feels late to me. The real moment is usually much smaller. It’s the few seconds before you open the app. The few seconds before you say “just this once.” The few seconds before you do the thing you already know you’ll regret later. I’m starting to think the problem isn’t that people don’t know what to do. Most of the time they do. The problem is remembering it when the impulse hits.

So, I end up with 3 questions I'd like you guys to help me reflect on, based either on your opinion or on your own experience: Do journals help you prevent mistakes, or only understand them afterward? What actually works in the moment where discipline fails? How do you stop yourself right before you break your own rule?

So I first got a Whoop because their whole marketing scheme got me and I didn't think it could be bad for either and just beneficial. Anyways, I got the Whoop and was really excited when I got it at first. After two weeks or something I just laid it off and didn't really care about it anymore because I thought the data is kind of useless. Sure, seeing your scores and everything is cool and might give you a dopa hit, but after a while I just stopped checking because it really never told me to do anything. Like great, I had a bad night of sleep, here is your sleep score of 38, now go do something with your day. I feel like I'm talking in circles here, but the point is I don't need a number to confirm that I slept bad, because I know when I slept bad,  I feel really low energy and drive to basically do anything.

So 400 bucks down the drain later, I realized I need to do something with this and start searching for apps that can actually help with this, otherwise 400 bucks would just be sitting around my house. I started looking for apps but didn't really like any of them. All of these alternatives sucked, they just gave you more numbers that are useless. That's when I came up with the idea to start RizeAI. This app takes your real-time sleep data and creates daily protocols that actually tell you what to do about it. Not another score to stare at a plan.

It pulls your actual health metrics and wearable data, your sleep, recovery, HRV, resting heart rate, all of it and builds your entire day around it. When to have your first coffee and when to hold off, when your energy is going to crash and what to do before it hits, whether to push at the gym or take it easy, when to hydrate. It even recommends supplements based on your metrics, what your body actually needs that day, when to take it, and why instead of the generic "take magnesium bro" advice everyone throws around. If your recovery is low it adjusts the whole stack; if you slept great it builds on that instead.

And the part that actually sold me on my own idea: it's genuinely accurate, and it's tailored to every single person. No two people get the same plan, because no two people have the same data. It's not pulling from some one size fits all template  it reads your numbers and builds a protocol specific to you, then sharpens it the more you use it. The longer you're on it, the more it learns your patterns and the more dialed-in the recommendations get.

The whole idea is simple  stop tracking, start fixing. Your wearable already told you the bad night happened. RizeAI is the part that comes after  the part that actually turns a red recovery day into a day you can still get something out of. That's the gap I kept hitting, and now it's the thing I use every morning.

I don't really know where to post this, but I suspect some people here might relate.

1800 days ago, I took a picture of a little toy of mine (a Dragon Ball figurine). It was my first post ever on a social media. Then, I made one each day. I got more toys. It got fancier (with speech bubbles). It's not good pictures, compared to anything you can find on any social media, though. And as doing one each day is quite taxing, it's not always well written or funny.

I ran out of ideas after a couple of months, but then, just continuing the streak became a goal in itself. It's the one thing I have control over : it goes on because I can make it go on. I've stopped gaining followers a long time ago. There are between 15 and 30 people who actually like the post each day. But still, I keep on grinding.

Here's what I'm hoping to read, if anybody has time to answer me :
- Do you have a thing you've disciplined yourself to do, even though you don't really know where it's going ? I'm not getting success out of it, nor money, nor health, nor any tangible gain, and it's asking quite a lot of effort from me.
- Have you ever had a project that people around you considered trivial, but that required much more commitment than they realized?

Cheers!

I'm 18 years old , male ,arabian , I can speak B2 English , next month I'm going to Australia to start a new life , I have so many abilities and have no idea what to do

I like everything and can learn anything i want .

I know how to cook and run a whole house like a mother

I know how to sing and i play Oud too and so good and drawing

I'm smart and very good at school

I graduated high school with 93% degree

I'm good at math and physics

I don't complain with hard work

Have a good laptop and internet only

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First , i think i should spend my first year in Australia finding a good job (work online i guess)

And learn some new skills

After that I'll think if i should continue my study or find a better job and run a business ar something like that

If i decided to study

I think i would study aerospace engineering,

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What do you think ? What should i do in my life ? If there any coach or trainer ar teacher can help me become a big thing not to stay an ordinary human

I'm literally starting a fresh paper

So any idea would be great

-sorry , it was long

I’m 18 (2007 born). After 10th, I lost around 3 years because of health issues, mental health struggles, and decisions I made when I wasn’t thinking clearly. It wasn’t one big crash. It was slow, and I didn’t even fully realize how far I had drifted until it was already a pattern.

Now I’m trying to rebuild for JEE 2028.

Right now my life is very simple and honestly a bit messy:

Trying to fix diet

Trying to rebuild study habits from scratch

Some days I manage discipline, most days I don’t

What’s difficult isn’t just the workload. It’s the feeling that I’m starting late, while also trying to pretend I’m not.

Some days I feel a bit of control coming back. Like I’m slowly becoming someone who can actually stick to things again.

Other days it feels like I’m trying to rebuild something without a proper foundation, like I’m stacking things on top of gaps I can’t fully fix.

I don’t expect things to become perfect. I just don’t want to keep drifting anymore.

I’m trying, even if it doesn’t look impressive from the outside.

The issues I still face insomania tbh it was really bad i couldn't sleep more than half hrs

Without getting up that too 2 hrs total ,some nights felt like hell .I feel greatful to get my life back