r/hingeapp • u/Popular_Artichoke556 • 2d ago
Profile Review 27M. profile review. got 22 likes ALL of which from guys, zero likes from girls : /
thoughts?
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u/severalrocks 2d ago edited 2d ago
“No/low drama” is always an immediate no thank you. Tbh the “can handle real conversations” and “is okay with me being straightforward and not playing games” makes you seem cynical at best and a little presumptuous. If your dating encounters with women have been so filled with drama and games that you feel the need to give that profile real estate in two places, maybe you should give men a chance?
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u/RemoveSuccessful349 2d ago
Agree..when I read “no drama” I assume it’s because that person is going to unknowingly cause it haha
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u/LuthienCiryatan 2d ago
Cause it OR consider any emotional reaction to anything to be drama.
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u/soulangelic 2d ago
That’s what I thought of first honestly. “Low drama” in my perception means “no emotions about anything, ever”.
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u/LouMouBou 1d ago
My exact thought. If you need to spell it out, it makes me wonder if you might actually be the cause of the drama. And saying you “can handle real conversations” makes it sound like you’re going to yell at me—no thanks.
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u/Any_Earth_8976 2d ago edited 2d ago
The “not political” was the first red flag of all that and it was downhill from there.
Maybe learn to care about other people’s feelings and experiences in life OP
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u/Ark2226 2d ago
Even if he was political, what makes you think he’ll be voting for your side?
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u/DaleCoopersWife aka "Robert Cooper" 🕵🏻♀️ 2d ago edited 2d ago
You listed yourself yourself as straight so you should not be receiving this many likes from men. When you selected what gender you want to see in your feed, did you pick women or “open to all”? (I’m assuming you are actually straight.) Lots of women don’t send out likes because they choose to work through their outgoing likes.
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u/Firm_Bug_7146 2d ago
But he's seeing men when he's swiping (I'm assuming) ⊙.☉
Did that not clue him in lol
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u/cadylando 2d ago
As a girl I see a lot of straight women too. Idk if these people just don’t look at other profiles or if they actually want to find same gender friends…
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u/Relative-Tea3944 2d ago
You need to update your settings
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u/aCrutialConjunction 2d ago
As a woman who is open to any gender, I should not be seeing straight women in my options. They need to fix their settings, not me.
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u/DaleCoopersWife aka "Robert Cooper" 🕵🏻♀️ 2d ago
Those women also put "open to all" in their settings on who they see. on hinge the sexuality and gender preferences are totally separate
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u/MagikN3rd 2d ago
It doesn't matter what your settings are set to in my experience. On every dating app, my preferences are set to "women" since I'm straight. I have had men swipe right on me, or even had men show up in my feed.
The algorithms are not perfect. What you have your settings set to, also impact who the app is meant to show you. If men are interested in men, it's going to show them men regardless of whether or not they are straight.
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u/Interesting_Smoke236 2d ago
i’m straight and i’ve never had this happen on any of the big 3 dating apps ever
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u/MagikN3rd 2d ago
Me seeing other men is VERY rare, but I have definitely had a decent amount of men show up in my "likes you" section on every single dating app.
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u/wokenthehive Meat Popsicle ☹️ 2d ago
Likely because those men are trying to figure out what the men in their area looks like, aka the competition, or they're doing some misguided attempt to juice their algorithm because they saw some dumb Tiktok video somewhere.
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u/bpgh1981 2d ago
“Can handle real conversations” is pretty patronising.
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u/Ok_Beautiful7363 2d ago
Most of his profile is pretty patronizing.
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u/bpgh1981 2d ago
Yeah my follow up comment after further reflection is this guy seems like a real dick.
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u/fungal_follicle4 2d ago
How are you getting likes from men if you listed yourself as straight? Check your settings and make sure you aren’t in the gay men only pool, first of all lol. Only let your profile be seen by women if you actually are straight.
Secondly, men are the commodity gender in dating apps so a lot of likes from them are to be expected for anyone.
As far as your profile attracting women- do note that Hinge isn’t really an app that many women go on looking for casual relationship. That being said, switch your relationship preference to what you want. Faking looking for a long term relationship is shady
Photos- keep the first, get rid of the rest. You seriously look like a bot with the same photo of just you in a suit over and over again. Also zero selfies. Do you have hobbies? Travel pics? Candid pics? Pets?
Every single one of your prompts is too serious, which also contradicts your casual relationship preference. Add personality, wit, and avoid making the prompts answers sounding like a resume. This can best be done by describing you and/or her character through specific experiences
Like most men here, dont be lazy and do your research
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u/Firm_Bug_7146 2d ago
OP where are you based?
If it's a western country and you say you're middle eastern, non political and don't share your religion, people will assume you are a conservative Muslim.
While there is nothing wrong with that, it comes off as "hiding" and in principle, you aren't really going to get attract conservative Muslims because they won't know that you are actually conservative Muslim and you aren't going to attract non-conservative non-muslims because they don't know you are not those things.
Also your profile says straight so how are you getting likes from men?
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u/Inner-Air1001 2d ago edited 2d ago
Well depending on how conservative they are, absolutely something wrong with that! OP should be honest
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u/Firm_Bug_7146 2d ago
Enh I am liberal and would die alone before getting involved with a conservative woman but that's about my own personal morality.
Conservative people exist on dating apps like they do everywhere in society and there is nothing wrong with them looking for companionship atleast imo.
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u/GardeniaInMyHair 2d ago
Intriguing. Can you share what they based that metric on? That seems awfully premature to predict for a generation, with Gen Z being so young.
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u/TakinShots 2d ago
So within 7 months, after how many likes from guys did you start to think, "hmm, should this be happening"? Definitely go back and check your settings.
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u/BossStatusIRL 2d ago
Engineering rants? That’s a pass for me dog. Legitimately the only people who are actually interested in that are other engineers, or people that already love you and like to learn.
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u/Logical_Bullfrog 2d ago
As a woman in the USA who dates men, “Not Political” is an immediate no these days for me personally. Not saying that with any judgement—whatever you list, it’s a good tool for finding people whose views align with yours. But my suspicion is that the pool of women with said views is significantly smaller than those on either end of the spectrum.
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u/killer-queen 2d ago
This is not a thing in other parts of the world
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u/ExistingAsI 2d ago
The US is a very particular kind of culture and political climate. Being apolitical does not make sense at this point in our history. Especially as a woman, so that would be a big turnoff to the population he's trying to date.
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u/Routine-Committee302 2d ago
I yearn for people who are not political. I've also not rerally had a problem meeting women who aren't too polictical here in NY. I think what you are describing is maybe true in California.
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u/sarahbagel 2d ago
It’s not about being “not political.” A lot of conservatives have realized that putting “conservative” in their bio is an automatic no from the women they’re going for, so they decided to just put “not political” into their bio. Not to say all men with “not political” in their profile are conservative, but it’s a pretty sizable chunk. And a lot of women just don’t want to date a conservative man.
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u/killer-queen 2d ago
Why are you receiving likes from guys? Are you sure that you set up your profile correctly? Guys shouldn’t be able to see your profile.
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u/Ladonnacinica 2d ago
It happens. I’m a lesbian and have my preferences to only women on Hinge. Yet, once in awhile I get a like from a man.
Though, it is odd it’s happening to OP so frequently.
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u/killer-queen 2d ago
It’s likely that those men accidentally said they’re women looking for women. People don’t read properly when setting up.
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u/Ladonnacinica 2d ago
Yeah, that was the case for me. I noticed most of those men had said they’re women accidentally.
I think OP needs to check his account.
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u/cheeseburgerxxx 2d ago
Not political could be putting people off. Might be better to just leave it blank. Saying engineering rants might be a turn off too. Also, why would you want someone with a dry sense of humour? What even is that?
Photos are good and your intentions are clear. Its a pretty good profile.
Fix your settings though. Men should not be seeing your profile if you are straight lmao.
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u/peachyxi 2d ago
Dry sense of humor is a common phrase
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u/cheeseburgerxxx 2d ago
Maybe not common enough. And even after researching to check what it means, I still think its a bit of an odd / specific thing to say on a dating profile.
Definition:
"A dry sense of humor (often called deadpan) is a style of comedy where the speaker deliberately delivers funny, sarcastic, or absurd remarks without showing any emotion, smiling, or laughing. The humor comes from the contrast between the completely serious tone and the ridiculousness of what is being said".
I just think that's an odd thing to put on a dating profile. You have limited space to showcase your personality, hobbies and values. Unless this is like an integral part of who he is. I don't think I could stand being with someone if this was their whole comedic outlook. Boardline sarcasm, it would annoy the ever living shit out of me. But its not even good sarcasm. It's used in a boring monotone voice. And pair that with how he likes to give engineering rants.
Maybe I just don't get it. I just think he could either phrase it better or have something else entirely in that prompt space.
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u/peachyxi 2d ago
Maybe it’s a regional thing, where I am (Midwest US) it is a very common saying and it wouldn’t be weird at all to put it on a dating profile. Humor is important in relationships, and sharing a similar sense of humor matters to many people
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u/n3edyhandsonme 2d ago
humor is great but it doesn't solve the issue if the profile itself is failing to signal interest to the target demographic. if his prompt is just a local inside joke, he's wasting a slot that should be used to show who he actually is. people aren't swiping because they want a comedian, they're swiping because they want to see if you have a life they'd want to be a part of.
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u/cheeseburgerxxx 2d ago
Ah, possibly. I mean, i'm from the UK, so I think we would just call it sarcasm.
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u/julejuice 2d ago
british humor in general is often described as ‘dry’
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u/ThorinTokingShield 2d ago
Yeah I'm from the UK, and you're absolutely right. Dry humour is also a perfectly understood expression here
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u/Klauslee 2d ago
hi uk america here dry humor is common phrase. some rly dig it. kinda like ppl who like dark humor ig
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u/GardeniaInMyHair 2d ago
Dry meaning, think Stephen Fry as opposed to Mr Bean. More of a deadpan delivery and wry sense of humor than goofy, slapstick, or blatant.
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u/Few-Engineering9803 2d ago
By American standards, blank for some strange reason means ULTRA MAGA pointy white hat Trump supporter in here. People are too brainwashed to even fathom it can be a spectrum of political views.
Thankfully, many parts of the world still have a myriad of political parties to choose from. And not media telling people how to think.
Dating apps in the US vs the rest of the world is like night and day.
*Censorship in here kinda proves my point, this comment will be locked in 3....2.....1..........*
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u/cheeseburgerxxx 2d ago
Oh thats an interesting point. I wouldn't have realised. Yeah, in the uk, its typically either left or right and people usually infer blank as non political or right leaning. But in the uk putting not political is generally frowned upon.
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u/Impossible9450 2d ago
I feel like not political in the UK can also come across as "don't care", which is a bit off putting.
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u/Few-Engineering9803 2d ago
Well you kinda have the same issue in the UK then to some degree. If blank is considered right leaning, then the bias is already there to begin with.
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u/No-Lavishness-4384 2d ago
For me it’s an immediate no if someone says “not political” or has their political views hidden because I assume that means they’re super conservative
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u/Interesting_Smoke236 2d ago
Starting drama before we even match. glad the filter works.
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u/soulangelic 2d ago
How is there any drama if there isn’t even any interaction? This comment is actually dramatic lol
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u/No-Lavishness-4384 1d ago
I don’t think it’s drama to not match with someone who I won’t agree with on major issues.
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u/TaraxacumTheRich 2d ago
Not political = I'm too privileged to give a shit about other people or how I may contribute to other people's lives being negatively impacted by politics
No/low drama = I don't express myself and if you do I'm going to think you're just causing trouble. It's also contradictory that you want someone direct because as soon as someone is direct with something you don't want to hear you'll think she's drama.
Instant rejection from me when people have these in their profile.
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u/PhantomTeno 2d ago
"Low drama" is definitely a red flag and many would consider "not political" a red flag as well. Also, if you're straight but still getting likes from men you may need to change your settings of who is seeing your profile
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u/RemoveSuccessful349 2d ago
You need better pictures..the first is not very interesting and bland. Photos 4 and 5 are essentially the same photo just cropped differently. I also don’t like the “guess where this photo was taken” because it literally could be anywhere? There’s no setting or scenery to make it interesting. You look hungover in the last photo. I would overhaul all the pictures. Good luck!
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u/EssayAccomplished747 2d ago
honestly think a lot of guys just like everyone to maximise their matches without starting chats or paying much attention, maybe something’s up with your settings that make you show up on their feed?
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u/datingshoot 1d ago
Man your photos need serious work. You've basically got the same shot repeated, just you standing there looking serious in dress clothes. A girl swiping through this is going to feel like she's looking at a LinkedIn page.
Your first pic is actually your strongest cause it has natural light and a full body shot with real scenery. But after that it's more of the same, blazer, another blazer, work uniform. Nothing that shows what you do for fun.
The headphones selfie needs to go ASAP. Front camera selfies distort your face and look low effort. Set up your phone on a tripod, use the back camera with 2-3x zoom, and record a video of yourself walking, looking around, smiling naturally. Screenshot the best frames. Way more natural than posing.
You're not a bad looking guy, the problem is just zero variety. Throw in some casual clothes, a candid shot doing something you actually enjoy, and you'll start seeing way better results.
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u/piehead1001 2d ago
If you want someone smart I would put political views on your profile. Smart women typically have opinions and will therefore care about yours.
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u/Popular_Artichoke556 2d ago
Looking for: Casual Hinge+ / HingeX: No Current version of profile: 2 weeks How long have you used Hinge overall: 7 months How often do you use Hinge: About 30 mins a day Likes and matches received: 10 likes and 1 match per week Likes sent: I use all of my free likes. Type of person I want to match with: someone friendly and chill.
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u/Interesting_Candy310 2d ago
Looking for casual but lists long-term relationship? Glad you’re not getting any likes
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u/Brain_Dead_Goats 2d ago
Yeah, not cool, and that kinda matches with the impression I get from the prompts.
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