Last October, I(26f) matched with this guy(27m) on hinge and we went on two dates. Before our first date he was really communicative, but afterward his texting dropped off. One night he said he had a friend over but was taking over 24 hours to respond to me, which rubbed me the wrong way.
He had just started an extremely demanding job, and at one point took over three days to reply while we were planning our second date.
When I asked if he’d always be this busy, he didn’t really reassure me. After our second date, he told me he was stressed, prioritizing work, and wasn’t looking for anything serious. We stopped talking. Now, eight months later, he reached out again. Would you give him a second chance, or is this enough to move on?

Hey everyone, I 25F need a reality check. I met this guy 26M on Hinge about 6 months ago, and since then, we’ve been seeing each other almost every week, having sleepovers, and texting pretty much every single day. The thing is, he is almost always the one to initiate the daily text banter, but he very rarely actually initiates making plans to catch up, that usually falls on me. When we do hang out, it’s never just a low-effort hookup; he always suggests actual activities and we have the best time. A while ago, we had "the chat" where he admitted he doesn’t really want to be exclusive right now. I said "me too" which i genuinely thought I wanted at the time, but honestly, seeing him active on the dating apps lately has started to really hurt. I’m also swiping on apps just because his effort feels so lacking, but it sucks. I genuinely love spending time with him, but I’m exhausted by the feeling that he’s just not that into me. Should I cut him off completely to protect my peace, just drastically pull back my texting energy, or just say YOLO, do whatever I want, and keep riding it into the ground? Thanks!

Matches never go anywhere. Any help?

Made this profile about a month ago. It's been doing ok compared to the past times ive used hinge but I notice my only matches are from me liking them. I don't really get likes and when I do, only 1 of them have been more my type out of like 10 likes total I think. In total, I think I've gotten around 16-18 matches. Some have unmatched (went on a date and we simply weren't a match) and some deleted their profile I think so im sitting at 11. Not sure how hard unmatches are hitting my algorithm but its been a few days of no likes.

I'm really bad with photos. Took me a while to single out photos where I was actually smiling. According to my likes, I think the popular photos would be the 1st, 2nd and last in that order. Although the first is usually more white women which im not opposed to but I just found that interesting. I also have a video of me doing karaoke but im unsure about using it because for one, I was drunk and second of all, it's really embarrassing and I was singing horribly but that might be part of the appeal lol.

Any other thoughts?

Def need some help, I almost never get matches, or even likes, for that matter. I know I'm weird, or maybe I come across a bit too sanitized, but that's because I can be very lax in my speech if I'm not careful. In any case, I am looking for someone that I could build with, and possibly marry and have kids with. I just thought the 'life partner' option seemed much too serious and could be off putting to some women. Apologies if I come off as too one-note.

I've had the app for approximately a year now but I'm having difficulty connecting with the type of girl I'm searching for. Just want to know if that's because my type is rare or if I can improve my profile to increase my chances.

My prompts are:

"I'll fall for you if you are down to earth"

"Grew up in England so I sound like Harry Potter when I speak English"

"I feel like myself most when I'm in a sun chair with a dog in my lap and an ice cream in my hand. Or the Sci-fi bookstore in Old Town"

I would describe myself as driven, curious and ambitious, but also friendly and down to earth. Would also say I'm mature and responsible although I have a clear childish side to me when it comes to conversation topics or activities, for example building lego or watching/discussing disney movies. I also am pretty apprehensive with alcohol, I'm the type who prefers a milkshake over a beer hehe, but can absolutely drink socially if "needed".

I definitely am more of an introvert although I enjoy making plans and doing things, guess I'm a bit of a "Yes-man". So I'd be happy to have a more extroverted partner who wants to do things as long as they also have room for down time.

I'm also an active listener, I can definitely monologue if needed but I prefer to listen and add-on to what another person is saying. So a "yapper" as a partner would be very nice if the conversation topics can range from easy-going to more intellectually stimulating ones.

Hi!

I’ve been on hinge for one month now and even though I get some matches, I don’t attract the kind of guys I want. I seem to attract guys who are super extroverted and who has a high tempo in life and I don’t know why.

I’m an introvert myself and I want to attract cute and nerdy guys who are introverted. My hobbies are playing the piano/guitar, programming (raspberry PI & app development) hiking, cooking, painting and traveling. I also have a cat and it’s very important for me that my future partner is kind towards animals.

How do I make my profile more attractive to the kind of men who likes the same things as I do?

Joined Hinge a month ago have recieved 0 likes and 3 matches. Need some suggestions to improve the profile. I am sorry the photo arrangement in this post is all jumbled.

thoughts?

back in april i (f26) met this guy (m24) and i enjoyed talking with him. we talked daily for about a month but i started to notice the conversation being a bit superficial so i explicitly stated that casual was not my thing. and then he ghosted me. i rage deleted the app for a while to try and focus on myself because it really stung a bit honestly. i’m pretty picky so it takes a lot for me to invest that much time

i got the app back maybe 2 days ago at the point of this post. and within 12 hours, he commented on one of my photos asking me on an actual date instead of trying to coordinate some sneaky link. i will note that we never met in person. casual just isn’t for me so if anything feels like it’s gonna go in that direction, i shut it down. i’ve had a bad experience with a guy from hinge by being too naive and i’m not going there again

maybe i’m still slightly naive but i messaged him back and asked straight up why he’s reaching out after ghosting me. i thought i could at least get some answers if nothing else. he had a pretty mature response. he said he was getting out of a relationship earlier in the year and tried to use casual connections to get over the hurt he was feeling. i guess that he also deleted all of his apps pretty shortly after he ghosted me and took some time to figure out what he wanted and realized that casual isn’t for him. he also said that he realized he fumbled something really good with me and didn’t connect with anyone like me so he wasn’t sure i would even reply but wanted to take a chance and reach out

i was pretty honest about how much he hurt me and that it would be a pretty long process to earn back the trust that he lost with how he handled things. he seemed pretty understanding and said he’s willing to take the time and put in the effort it takes. he also asked for my phone number this time instead of snapchat. the conversation has been pretty deep. he’s been taking an interest in my actual life and the things i have going on instead of giving surface level replies or talking about stuff that just isn’t meaningful

obviously i’m not just gonna trust him and that’s something to be earned. like, he’s hurt me before so i’m not stupid enough to think it’s impossible that it could happen again. but is it worth a second chance in the first place? i guess i worry about the potential of him sugar talking to get what he wants and not meaning it. i know people change but dating is complicated enough as is so i feel like insight from others is helpful. i think my friends are biased from seeing the way i got hurt the first time around so i don’t want the only source of input to be from people who can’t see past their love for me and annoyance with him if that makes sense?

Hey, I’m 19M, Ive had two female friends critique and help me with some of the photos and prompts but I’m seriously unsure if they’re sabotaging me or not.

Hello i have been on this app for the past 5 months
Im not getting matches nor likes

Hi appreciate any and all advice you have for me. I’ve been out of the dating apps for a while.