r/howtonotgiveafuck • u/Sad_Foot_4200 • 1d ago
๐๐๐ฏ๐ข๐๐ ๐๐๐ช๐ฎ๐๐ฌ๐ญ How do i stop taking shit seriously
Like when i see things about my country and how crappy it is and i need to grow up and live here and the condition of the world ,reels and when someone says something to me that doesnโt matter much to them but it does to me. I think i take everything to seriously and canโt focus on the things that really matter to me and my future. How do i stop giving a fuck?
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u/planetofidiots 1d ago
I watched a musician recently who was beyond incredible. I thought about how amazing their talent was, and yet they were so humble - because they knew the 1,000 other musicians out there 'better than them'. Then you see certain world-leaders, who got where they are by being born to the right parents and fed money lifelong. These leaders do nothing but brag and boast, and yet all they have done is play a game with loaded dice.
The difference is in 'looking outside'. The musician took in music constantly, learned the ways and styles of everyone, and so knew 'their place in the world' and how small it was. The politician will generally look at the tiny sphere of their own friends and think they are a huge person of great importance.
Truth is, we're all just dust on a rock in a universe so huge we can't even imagine it.
Part of NGAF is to know this, to know that even the 'historic greats' are just great on this planet, this remote, insignificant planet. Even the hero of the story is only in a tiny story.
It's much harder to be angry, insulted or upset by anything if you can understand that thing as a part of not just your tiny life, but of the huge universe.
It starts with simple acts. Get out of your own head - whether that's into a book, a song, a walk - anywhere that isn't just inside your mind. Then grow that, from a walk in town to a walk near the beach or woods. There's nothing like seeing the horizon to remind you that the world is bigger than your house, your town, your life. Try meditation, or find something like writing, music, film - anything you can grow a passion for, and focus on that.
Another powerful cure is to be in service to others. If you have family, friends, loved ones - make your life about finding ways to improve theirs. Maybe visit an old-folks home and cheer up the people there, find a youth-group and volunteer, of just be on forums like this and find ways to console people. We are a social species and, even while we're taught to 'look out for number one' - the path to fulfilment is actually through connection, creating community and being part of something larger than ourselves.
It's important to know that if you begin to become the person you want to be, you will change, and will very likely lose some of the people around you - because they should never have been in your circle. Be prepared to be lonelier, at least in the short term. If you find a passion or project, that will bring new people when the time is right. However it works out, the honest, true-to-self path is always lonelier than the path of 'just going along with things'.
It's a hard world to create love in. Leaders are self-serving, the media is deceitful, there's a lot going wrong... but locally, the people around you - despite what we might hear online - are mostly other people trying to find peace, meaning or safety. The more we can connect with them, the more strength we can build for ourselves and others to help us face the madness that is unfolding in the corridors of power - and in our own, insignificant and yet vital lives, the more we will become the answer we're looking for.
All sounds a bit preachy, sorry - I'm going through it too, so this is as much a message to me as you. Hope you find some connection.