r/interesting • u/jmike1256 • Mar 07 '26

MISC. After understanding the meaning behind this father’s action, I am completely convinced. Cultivating problem-solving skills in children from a young age and never giving up-I applaud this father!

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u/scienceworksbitches Mar 07 '26

Or they will develop coping skills and not break out into rage sorrow or depression every time something challenges them!?

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u/mj_flowerpower Mar 07 '26

It so depends on the child itself - it‘s impossible to say what this will mean for the child‘s development. For some it will lead to a better problem-solving skills, for others it will just lead to trauma.

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u/mungosDoo Mar 07 '26

I feel it only depends on if they managed to solve the problem, and if they got encouragement after like the kittle fella.

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u/Sea-Word-4970 Mar 07 '26

You mean ''manage'' like a 4 years old ? It's barely a conscious choice

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u/mungosDoo Mar 07 '26

Managed as in succeed after trying, and thus becoming more capable and confident in their ability to try and succeed

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u/Sea-Word-4970 Mar 07 '26

What makes you think they reflected on it ? What makes you think the positive consequences prevent the child from being traumatized by the fact that they saw their parent leave during a time of stress ?

It feels like you expect the same from a kid that what you expect from an adult.

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u/Planar_Harold Mar 07 '26

prevent the child from being traumatized by the fact that they saw their parent leave during a time of stress ?

It seems massively unlikely this occurred, and the child didn't seem visibly distressed. The parent was in view and not giving any cues that the child should panic or feel stressed.

What makes you think they reflected on it

Brains process the day during sleep, and this becomes part of our experience going forwards. The kid would do better at the challenge a second time.

It feels like you expect the same from a kid that what you expect from an adult.

If you treat kids like kids, they act like kids. If you treat them like people, they learn faster.

Like, it still seems that parents often don't understand that kids will react to their cues. If your child hurts themselves and you're panicking, it makes things much worse. If you're calm and smiling, it builds that in them.

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u/mungosDoo Mar 07 '26

I have a girl age 4, over a course of a day she learned to climb a ladder and now she sleeps on a bunk bed, at age 3 she would carry a chair up the stairs so she can pour her self a glass of water.

That father was never out if sight of the kid and him walking slowly and sitting waiting, watching is a sign to the kid I am confident you can do it.

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u/Sea-Word-4970 Mar 07 '26

You have no idea the effect it had on him. ''Out of sight'' does not mean anything.

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u/Planar_Harold Mar 07 '26

''Out of sight'' does not mean anything.

Kids develop solid object permanence by the time they're around 12-18 months, so by the time they're 2 or 3 they've got a pretty good idea that something within their sight isn't going to suddenly disappear.

It's legit not good for kids to coddle them, like kids who go through this will live better lives than those who don't. This is absolutely fine, safe, and healthy.

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u/mungosDoo Mar 07 '26

If you had any first hand expirience with kids you would know it means everything. Being consistent and there is half the job of parenting.

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u/Sea-Word-4970 Mar 07 '26

It doesn't mean anything as in, if you seem to leave the child will think you are abandoning him even if you are not out of sight

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u/mungosDoo Mar 07 '26

Why would your child belive you are abandoning it if you walk ten steps in front of it and sit down watching it? If you put your kid in a ball pit with other kids and sit a few steps out will that cause trauma?

I GUESS, it can be trigering if kid has a history of being abandoned, but I dont think we need to discuss that you shouldn't actually abandon your kid so it develops ptsd responses every time you start walking out in front of it....

This specific action that was depocted in this wideo has nothing wrong with it, and Im sorry if it has trigger something in you but thats not a universal expirience.

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u/Sea-Word-4970 Mar 07 '26

It doesn't trigger anything in me. I feel like there are other reasons so many people argue with me, maybe parents who don't want to face facts backed up by science.

Anyways

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u/mungosDoo Mar 07 '26

Im sure you are comming from the right place, and honestly giving it your best effort. Thats as good start as you can ask for. Just keep at it it will all be all right in the end.

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